So Picture This....*Help me!*

A girl who dresses really preppy. and has an emo boyfriend. well thats me! but the reason im writing is because my mom doesnt like him. and i dont know if i should stay with him or not. i mean i like him a whole bunch. he makes me feel happy. but my mom says im just despret for a boyfriend and picked the worst kind. she says she hates how he wears eye liner. which he only does it sometimes. she hates that he dyed his hair black, which i dont care either way.Ooh yeah and the worst thing she hates is that i met him on myspace. i mean, ive gone to his youth group with him, but i mostly talk to him on myspace. and she doesnt like that i ilke him. so i was wonderin, do you think we would be able to stay together? i mean, we both come from way different styles of life... and so do you think that i should stay with him, or throw in the towel and break up with him???
---THIS IS JUST A LITTLE BIT ABOUT IT...IF YOU REPLY ILL TELL YOU MORE!---

Im not saying that my mom HATES emo people. she doesnt. but i mean, is it right to go out with someone i like, even if my parents dont??? PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

dont.let.your.mom.pick.who.you.like.and.dont.like

she isnt you and i dont know your mom or how
close you guys are or whatever but maybe she
should butt out because you like who you like

no parents like myspace my mom doesnt even know
i have a myspace lol but yeah
are your parents still married?

if they are, your mom should understand and she
shouldnt be so judgemental towards him
maybe if she got to know him more
she might like him?

Talk to your mom about it. I mean, if you really like this guy and want to stay with him, it would be nice for your parents to approve, otherwise they could misunderstand it for you just rebelling against them and their words.

If she still doesn't approve, then maybe make a pros and cons list of being with him or being without him. That's how I make all my major decisions.. I dunno... Hope this helps at least a little...

~BJ~

i can relate to your situation! although i think myspace is the worst way to get a boyfriend! you never know what he is hiding behind his back! not that he is but u just dont know.. but if this guy is good to you and truley respects you then maybe theres nothing wrong with thim! just dont let him get u in a situation your not comfterable s/p? with!

~ i went through all that i have ALOT of advice for anyone who needs it !!!

ALi!

oh & also i am one of those girls who just throws her mom's advice away! and i dont listen to her but in the end she was right all along i ended up getting myself in a bad situation all because i never listend!!

4get any1 else in the entire world for a moment....

how do u feel about him?

do u like him a lil bit?

do u like him a lot?

do u love him?

I think you should try to understand where your mom is coming from, especially if she doesn't know him that well and you guys seem so different from each other. Maybe you should talk with your mom. Respect what she is saying, listen, and then explain your point of view/story or whatever. Sometimes, and I hate to admit this, but mom's do know best, HOWEVER I do get that she can't choose who you love, and at the same time she should respect your wishes as well.

Hope I've helped somewhat? lol

Yeah. thanks for all the adivce. and with the myspace thing. it is kinda weird. but i think we will be able to see eachother. but it makes me have mixed emotions with him ever since my mom said that. i mean, with my friends they like him, but with my family. its like they just judge people right then and there.and its like im starting to think, whoa is this the right decision for me? i mean, i do like him, i cant say i dont. so if i broke up with him, i would feel bad and know that i would want him back. But then again, just dealing with the family makes me have these feelings. But hes the sweetest guy you would ever know. Its kinda stupid though that really all we do right now is talk on myspace, though he will have to call because he will be at camp. its all just so confusing and i need some help!! But you guys have given a whole bunch and thanks!

I think that you should take a step back and look at your relationship completly. Try to see what your mom is talking about. And then, if you still disagree with her just ignore her.

Wow...

Well for starters, if you love him, hang on to him with all your strength.
Do you really think that your mum has the divine right to walk you through life kindly pointing *that one, um, no, not that one* etc.

And, for seconds, listen to her. Not necessarily follow her advice, but make sure that she is absolutely wrong, too.
Parents can be a pain, but once in a thousand they are right.
Make sure this isn't that thousand. ;-)

//T.L.//

Yeah. i think im actually lucky to have a guy like him. i mean, hes not really deprest and stuff as how ive heard people say. hes really nice, sweet, funny, and cute. and i like that he chose me. its just now i finally seem happy. though my mom doesnt like him. i can finally see her point. i dont like that he wears eye liner. but i can talk to him about it. and his hair is wild and i know he might change, but i know if he wants to change he will talk to me about it. i just guess i had to get used to it before i finally saw that i am going out with him. i have to make my own decisions even if they are not the best ones. and plus apparently god wanted this to be, or we wouldnt have gotten togehter. i just hope that i can see him a lot more.

I think that you really need to try and make things work. He likes you, and you like him. Your mom is being judgmental because he wears eye liner and has dyed hair, that's wrong. If he is sweet, your mom should give him a chance. If you do get to see him, introduce him to your mom. Let her see how great a guy he is. If you really want to stay with him, don't let your mom tell you he's not right for you. Only you can decide whether or not he is. Good luck.