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Okay, so my name is BJ, and I've been through just about everything, so I have a lot of advice to give out. I can relate to many things. So, if you want some advice on anything, just ask away, and I'll give you the best advice to my knowledge. Or if you just need to vent, go ahead.

~BJ~

Ok so lets see ...

I am a 12 year old and am being severely bullied at school if I don't give these girls money. The only way for me tog et this money is to sleep with an old man that lives ear me because he buys me things and gives me money that my mother wont. What do I do?

So you think you are qualified to answer a question like that if a child asked you?

awww man thats so sad.

Report it.
DO NOT sleep with that guy.
Keep saying something you cant give this money forever.
DO NOT KEEP THIS MADNESS HAPPENING!!!!
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND SHOULD NOT LESS THIS HAPPEN!

i hope to help you.

contact me:blondes_rock135@hotmail.com

This isn't about me personally. However I do appreciate the reply. No it was just an example of what somebody I know went through, and was just seeing if the original poster was qualified to answer to this question.

ღ*KiM*ღ,

I would say to tell someone, like a counselor at school or something, but that would probably not help.

Is it possible for you to switch schools or become home-schooled? Because if it is, that would be the easiest way to stop the problem.

Otherwise, I'd say to stand up to them. It's a hard thing, dealing with bullies, because they are so incessant.

I guess, you could have your mom talk to their parents about it. Chances are that they are taking their aggravations from home out on you, because they don't have control in their own home, so if their parents get informed, they will probably stop.

Again, this is a very hard subject. But these are some things that have worked for me when dealing with bullies.

And do as Blade has posted previously, report it.

~BJ~

The homeschool and switch schools thing was a last resort type of thing. It is what my friend once had to do when nothing else worked. She'd tried just about everything. And so although I didn't specify, I did mean it as a last resort.

And yes, I agree, all bullies should be expelled and go to reform school, because no one has the right to bully someone else around.

~BJ~

And Ruth,
As she stated in her second post, it is a real situation. And to be qualified to deal with that exact problem, you are probably right that I am not, because I hadn't dealt with that type of thing very much.

But also, qualified can be on different levels. Even some counselors aren't qualified to help people, but they are still in the office.

And sometimes, people don't feel comfortable or have the money to get help from a proffessional. And in my personal experiences, I've found that I have learned more from other people that were not "qualified" to give me advice.

I have seen numerous therapists and psychiatrists, and none of them have helped me. I personally feel that it is easier to talk to people that are just like one's self. And that helps.

I'm not dissing therapy altogether, I'm just saying that it doesn't always work. It all depends on the personality of the person and how willing they are to work with the therapist. =/

It's not like anyone is going to solve your problems for you. They are personal and very different for each person. Advice just helps us find the road to solving it once and for all.

~BJ~

May I ask how you'd take a problem that is based in some ones mind, and they know it, but can't change? Some thing like feeling guilty about a chouse when they were forced to chouse it? Can you give advice on how to heal emotoinal scars when the person is in no way harming anyone except themself with their thoughts? When saying 'tough it out and think happy thoughts' won't work, and they know they don't need medicatoin?

Can you deal with things that aren't really events happening right now, but thoughts acuring all the time in one persons head?

ok for starters BJ is just trying help he never said he was "professionally qualified" to help people he just said he has been through alot and wants to try to help is that such a wrong thing? BJ never said that he can help with everything just he wanted to try to help anyone that wants to talk to him

--BJ i'm sorry if you are a girl before i posted i didn't bother to check so sorry for all of the "he"s if you are a girl--

I think that this is a good post...cause from my experience....counselor's are good...but never really helped me much....I'd rather just have someone their to listen to me....advice is optional..but to listen is great...cause I always find it makes me feel better....I think anyone in a sense is qualified....maybe not to give medication...but qualified to be there...so great post....