Well, I am bi and I need some advice. Please Help.

I am bi-sexual and I have told some of my friends "I am bi!" And they say eww, we don't want to be your friend. So I take it back by saying "I am just kidding!" I don't know how to break it to my friends without losing them. Only one of my friends accepts that I am bi. It really hurts.

well sorry to break it to you honey but they are not your rel freiands if theyre gonna laeve you cuz your bi move on find a new group of friends that will excpet you for who you are and never take back who you are you are who you are and nobody can change you so they just need to excpet it but trust me youll find new friends and theyll be there and will never leave you im bi too and i had to do just as i said and im much happier now im sure you will be too

Thank you.

If they were your true friends they would accept you the way you are. Cz true friends are the ones that stand by you no matter how you are and how you act. It shouldnt matter to them if your bi or not. But hunny if they say that they dont want to be your friend cz of it...I would find some friends that are ok with it and will love you for the real you instead of something that you have to pretend that your not. I hope you can understand and I hope this helps
~DyingBlackRose~

1st of all,,, i have gone trough this before, well if your friends cant accept that you are bisexual,,, then they are not ur real friends... but if you dont wanna loose them, its up to you not to tell them! u know what i mea?
but real friends always sopport each other

i agree. if they dont accept you they arent your real friends. im bi... but most of my friends are too so they were cool with it. but i just came out to my sister last night. guess what???

shes bi too. lol! she never told me...

i think you've heard it enough, but its true. if they cant acceot you for who you are, they arent friends to begin with.

One of my close friends is Bi. But I still love her to death. I honestly think, you shouldn't worry about what your friends are going to think. If they were your friends, they wouldn't care. I know you might not want to lose them, but in the end, what's the point of having friends that can't accept you for who you are? ..That's just my two cents. =)

Never change who you are for any one if they can't accept you as you are then that should let you know who your real friends are. It's your choice to be bi not theirs so don't let them decide your life and fate.

People are very cruel. That is nature!! The point here is that you are only 12 years old. You dont' know anything about life or what you want in life. The feelings you have happen to lots of young kids going through puberty. I'm not saying you are not Bi, however I think it is pretty early in life to say something like this.
Your age group and especially girls are viscious!! They don't quite understand what all the Bi business is and it scared the heck out of them. Let it be for awhile. Once you get older it is easier to come out. Find healthy people around you who are willing to listen to you and who don't judge you for who you are!

Hey if they dont exept you for you
than they arent your 'freinds' now are they?

First off, I respect you for being able to just come out and say you`r bi . Most people worry about what other people think, and I can understand you worrying about the whole friends thing, but like everyone has said, if they can`t accept that you`r bi without saying ew, THEY`RE NOT YOU`R REAL FRiENDS . Learn to love your`self . Not to be rude, I know that they`re you`r friends and all, but you`r friends can go scr-- a tree if they`re going to be like that . Honestly . That`s just mean . I`m straight, but hearing these situations always piss me off . Hurrah` for the friend that accepts you . Just keep smiling, lovee` . The only opinions that truly matter and that you should let affect you are you`r own .

Those who care, don`t matter . And those that matter, don`t care .
Keep that in mind, okay, sweets ?
..__MiNDYY

Ok... so basicly the same blah [real friends exept you ect...] but also, give your friends a chance, it may be a big surprise to them, and they could have just been shocked and not really know how to act so maybe try speaking to some of them individually about it and maybe they'll exept you after they understand more and get used to the idea, if not you sound like a good person, deserve better friends and wont find it hard to make them im sure,
best of luck.
bethxxx.

Yeah, that's pretty messed up. How old are you? Honestly, if you're still in high school, real friends can be pretty hard to find. I came out to my friends (I'm bi as well) this year (I'm a freshman in college in San Francisco--I know gay capital of the world) and nobody had a problem with it at all. Now, everyone is not so open, so don't just assume your friends will leave you. My advice is if you explain to them that you're not attracted to them and that it's ok that they don't accept that, because bisexual is just a part of you, its not completely who you are. I mean no straight person lives by "I am straight and that is the end-all be-all of my personality" and so tell them that you're willing to give them time. If they don't come back to you or choose not to be your friends, then they're either narrow-minded or simply not real. Its hard...and good luck!

I'm bi too and i know exactly what your going threw, except it's with my mom. If your friends can't except that your bi, then their not your real friends, simple as that.

Ok well i'm not bi but i go to a high school full of gays and bisexuals....i even dated a bi. you are who are and theres nothing you can do about it. if they don't like it screw them, they don't have to watch you be with someone of the same sex. find new friends, there are plenty of people who are accepting.

In an international poll recently many western countrys had around 20% of their population stated they would be against having gay people live next door. (includng countries like Ireland and Australia).

So don't be surprised about people prejudices.

Bob thanks for sharing your prison background, I think most people would trust you absolutely because we identify with your views on here rather than something in your past. Everyone makes mistakes and become better people for having experienced life.

They aren't your real friends if they can't accpet you. Tell them straight out that you can't be friends with them, and make a new start being bi.

Wow you're bi...And your name says "Sexy Lesbian"...So which is it...Lol.

Anyways, I would say that you already accepted the fact you are bisexual...That is all that matters...

Like they say, "Friends come and go, but it only your true friends that stay forever..."

A friend of mine, who is married, she is a homophobe, she told me "God will destroy those kinds of people...They shouldn't even breathe our same air"

I told her "What do you care, it's their life, they do not meddle in your life do not meddle in their life..You are the one who should actually worry about God, because hatred is what God truly hates."

I don't think you should have been that forward. You should have just told your best friends out of everyone who could take the news easiest.

I can kind of relate to what you are saying.. My best friend came out and told me 2 years ago she was bi and I was the ONLY one who stuck by her, everyone else left and didnt want to be friends with her anymore, and it hurt her, so now she says shes not bi just to have friends, and sometimes she acts like I'm not even her friend and I don't understand since I was the only one there for her, but whatever, but yeah now she lies about it, even to me and says she never said she was.

If they cannot accept the way you are and how you live your life then screw them. Get new ones!

If your friends can't accept you them i'm sorry but you need to drop them. you need support not people who do not accept you.

OKAY..I'M ALSO BISEXUAL MYSELF. && IT IS HARDS TO TELL YOUR FRIENDS && SEE WHAT THERE REACTION IS. I LOST SOME FRIENDS BUT I GAINED MORE && BETTER UNDERSTANDING FRIENDS. WHEN I LOOK BACK AT MY FRIENDS THEY WERE JUST PULLING ME BACK.
THEIR IS ABSOLUTLY NOTHING WRONG BEING BISEXUAL!!!!!.

My friends are totally the same way! It's like, they keep saying they support gay, lesbian && bi people, but when they see a actual same sex couple they gag and are grossed out. One of my friends told them that she was bi and it was like, all the really nice way they treated her stopped. So I just keep it to myself or whatever and when they see me kissing a girl someday I'll be like....yeah so, I'm bi...haha?

Hey don't worry about it because if they were your true friends they would love you no matter what i say this because my twin is bi, my best friend is gay but a guy on the inside and my older sister is lesbian

Well its like the I way I see it, if they were true friends they wouldnt' say stuff like that, true friends are suppose to be there, for you no matter what and not judge you for what sexual preferation you are. I have many friends that are bi, and they rock! So if your friends cant understand, this then maybe you should just stick with the one friend that does accept your bi, even though it would hurt to lose the others.

They arent ur real friends if they cant accept that! I recently told my friends the same and some of them didnt accept it so i lost them!
You cant change what u r!

Yeh, like if they are giving you a bad time about it, then why don't you make them feel guilty about it. Evil I know lol. My friends found out I was gay becasue my girlfriend who was in our group of friends got so sick of it being a secret she just grabbed me and kissed me, like full on. And they had no warning and they were fine about it. Thought it was cute. But that was like 4 years ago now. lol. Sometimes they did try to tell me it was a phase but I told them to be supposrtive and they was. Challage them. I mean, now I'm still with the same girl. Whether they think it might be a phase or not, or if they simply don't agree with it. Challenge them, tell them it's not fair to do that. Like the above post says, you can not change who you are. Be proud.

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