i seriously need a lot of help...

ok, so my boyfriend just broke up with me on the sixth of july. we were together for a year and three months. i still love him more than anything in the whole world but i dont know what to do. he tells me of hot girls, and the girl that he's currently dating. he says things they do together, but we're still trying to be friends. he gets protective if i even mention another guy, but it's ok for him to talk about hot red heads and shit? no... anyway,... i was just wondering if i should even try getting back with him, cause now, he's starting to act like he wants back with me. maybe the whole "lets date other people" things isn't what he thought it was...dunno...feel free to comment. thanks
--katie

I think that how he talks about other girls in front of you is just stupid. Especially if you can't talk about other guys in front of him. But anyways... just tell him how you feel. But not in the overbearing kind of way. If you know what I mean. And if he feels the same way then I'd say try it again. But if he ends it again, then don't go back to him for a third time.
Good luck

I really don't think you want to be friends with someone like that. If he isn't happy letting you be free, then why should you be happy when he talks about other girls.

I disagree with Heather. I don't think this guy deserves a second chance. If he wants to date other girls, let him. He shouldn't stop you from dating other guys.

I do agree with the talking part. You definitely need to tell him how you feel. Good luck and take care

Katie, I think if he talks to you like that about his girlfriend or other girls for that matter, he's trying to see if you get jealous. But if he acts like he wants to get back with you, maybe hes just using you when he cant find someone else. But if you do go out with him again..I wouldnt date him again and if you and him decide to be friends after that and he starts talking about other girls, I would just walk away cz you dont need a friend like that talking about other girls when you cant talk about other guys to him.
Good Luck and Take Care
~DyingBlackRose~

thank you all for your help. here's an update... ok, so i found this guy who's about a year younger than me...definitely not what i'm used to, but we seemed to hit it off pretty well. i've known him for a while, and all of a sudden things are just, happening. i think it's wonderful, but i'm still afraid of hurting my ex. i know i shouldn't be, and day after day i'm starting to care less about my ex. i'm kinda confused and would love some more help if you're willing to give it. thanks everyone. i appreciate it.

--katie

1) if he going to bring up all those girls, you bring up all those guys/ so he knows how it feels to have those things said to him.

what was the reason for the break up?

Katie
First of all screw your ex, well not litterally but yea. If he is dating than you have every right to be happy with this other guy. Which I think you realize i just wanted to say it lol.
Next I have a rule about dating exs that may help. I don't date them again, because there was a reson we broke up and therefore that reason must have been a good one not to date them.
Lastly don't give up on having him as a friend, one of my ex boyfriends is now my best friend in the whole world and it's wonderful, i still get jealouse but it's okay. Just ask your ex if you guys can make a rule to try and not to talk about who you are dating now so that it makes the friendship easir with time you wil lbe about to talk about it with him.

Katie
personally i think he broke up with you and is regretting the fact that he did
hes trying to make you jealous now
my best advice is to ignore it
if he eventually stops and after a while says hes sorry i think its ok to ask him out
but if he keeps talking about other girls and stuff and making u feel sad then screw him
you can do so much better
with love
Sarah
xox

what should i do about this new guy i'm hitting it off with... read my update that i posted earlier and you'll understand what i'm talking about... thanks again...

katie

ps. there's a bit more going on with me and new guy... we just spent a week together at a school band camp... working on the show and everything. at night we'd spend time together and just talk. he's so amazing and i would love to get with him...its just that i don't want to make anything "official" until i know i'm completely over my ex. is that a good decision or not? please help.