the jerk i love

my boyfriend has problems... so feel a little bad about what im about to say... hes not had things easy.

i really care about him, and yeh i do love him, but i also hate him. He has so many sides to him and flips between them very fast.

Last time he was at my house he threw a load of things out my window, bite me, drew all over me, rugby tackled me, destroyed my room... doodled on my pictures and then was in a mood for the rest of the time and just kept shouting at me when i asked what was wrong....then stormed off home. Non of this is particualry serious and you propably think its rather petty but it was just very annoying.

He's a very angry person and this week last year he moved to auuzie then back again in the space of 2 weeks cos his parents had split up... this is the excuse he is using for his behaviour. The only time he has been affectionate to me was on the first day we strating dating. (and just so you know this is the 6th time we've dated- cos he kept getting angry and dumping me)

i do love him... well the nice side of him... but i don't know what i shuld do.. i think it would be best to dump him but if he's going through a bad time or having bad memories, i dont want to make them worse.

He has nevr said anything nice about me, and infact he mainly insults me... and has never done anything sweet.... yet for sum reason i keep going back tto him... why?!?!?!

You input on the situation would be nice... just as an outsiders view...

Let me get this straight.

You love a guy who constantly insults you, who had never been nice to you, except for the first time you date. A guy that comes into your room, destroys it, blames his problems on something, and never tells you what's wrong. Do you really call that love?

Love isn't suppose to hurt. He left you 6 times before, and you were stupid enough to go back to him. He has you right where he wants you. He can use you, muniplate you. It's sad.

Leave him. You don't love him. You're lusting over him. Because you are afraid to find someone else. He will end up becoming abusive. You don't need that. Get out now.

lmao

hahah sorry Angelina :P
ohhh.. and yeah I like being a hard ass.. :)

I agree with Darien. If you truly loved you he wouldnt be going into your room and destroying your things...and insulting you. That's not love. You should get out before he hits you or does something worse to you.
Good Lucj
~DyingBlackRose~

Lilly,
This is asking for problems. No matter how much you love someone, this person should not abuse you in any way, form and shape. First it is verbal abuse, then it is physically abuse. By the time you are done you are 6 feet under. I say, get the heck out of there!! No person should abuse anyone no matter what. You are a lot more worthed then getting verbally and physically abused!! If he doesn't want to change then I think you should move on and find someone who has respect for you!

No one deserves to be treated in that kind of way, you may think you love him but you need to think to yourself, is it really worth being in a relationship like this. Clearly, he shows no respect for you and everyone deserves to be treated with respect regardless of what problems they have. The best thing is to let him go, he's only going to end up hurting you again and himself by staying in this relationship, it's not fair on either of you.

Ask him if he loves you.. perhaps just getting straight to the core of the problem would help.
He sounds a bit mental, and violent. Be careful, as it could turn into abuse.

If he has left you so many times, then he probably does not love you... in which case perhaps it is time that you let him go.

//T.L.//

I agree that you should get out. It's not love. You are trying to convince yourself you love him, but yet you don't like the way he treats you, or his moods. There are other guys out there. He thinks he can say, and do whatever he wants to you because you won't leave him or stand up for yourself. Leave the dirty hormone, you can do so much better.

Leave the dirty hormone

LOL

lol, i love using that line.

Actually the answer to your question is obvious. Why would you even think of staying with someone who never has anything positive to say about anything? Love is supposed to have good and bad things.. but not ALL bad. Don't feel sorry for him and convince yourself to love him, because honestly, what is there to love? If he always insults you and never says anything nice to you, what can you possible "love" about this guy? So do yourself a favor and break up with him and stay FAR FAR away from him. And if you stay with him then that shows what kind of a person you'll be in the future.

thnx for the advice.... and we've broken up.... i logged onto msn and he sent me a message saying he wanted nothing to do with me anymore.... that was 3 weeks ago... aint had any contact with him since.... your right... i want to do better.... but apparantly hes going to try and get bak with me... but im determined not to let him... thnx your've really helped put things in perspective for me (-:

I was gonna say things only get worse.. but with your decision i think you have already stopped that happening.. good luck for the future .. and stick with your decision hun, nobody deserves mental and physical abuse.. stay strong with your decision always.. no matter what! xx