Taylor's dilemma

  • Darien
    18 years ago

    Angelina, as your friend, here is some helpful advice.

    Tell him. Please tell him because if you hide the truth from him, it will be just as bad as lying to him. The truth may hurt, but lies can be very damaging. You are just leading him on and that's something you don't want to do. You don't want to set him up for a big fall. Tell him the truth.

    Also, you need to pick one person and stick to them. 'V' has found a girlfriend, so get over him. It's hard but it's for the best. I've had to tell a close friend I didn't like them the same way. It was cool, because she was alright just being friends. You should settle for being friend with 'V', because that's as far as it can go now.

    Use that break to figure out what you want, and who you want. But Dan needs to know. Then maybe he can make the decision for you.

  • Mousie
    18 years ago

    I would tell him... I told the guy I liked that I liked him, and he had a gf and he didn't like me back at the time... but our friendship grew even more... we became best friends, and i've stuck by his side through everything with him and his gf... now he has feelings for me, but anyways that's beside the point... if i had never told him about it, i would still be going crazy 7 months later... it's better to be blunt and get it over with than to not be blunt and wonder forever right? And i had had a bf at the time that i told him i liked him too, and i ended up breaking it off with him b/c, as much as i hated to end it, it was better for both of us... i didn't love him anymore, and even though he still loved me, he deserved the chance to move on with his life, and he did... i don't have any idea if any of this helped, but i hope it did!

    Mousie

  • Mousie
    18 years ago

    Yes I do know that episode... lol i'm a Friends fan too... that could be you... and i know you don't like to mess with people's lives, but sometimes you just have to do what you gotta do... and for me, wondering what if is worse than knowing he doesn't like you... trust me!

  • Darien
    18 years ago

    Hmm, it seems you are more interested in 'V' than in Dan. So yes, he definitely needs to know.
    There will always be that question of 'what if'. No matter what you do. It's something we can look back on and wonder, but hope that our life is going well enough to not care how far our imagination goes.

  • ABrookeD
    18 years ago

    ^I agree

    They both should know what you're feeling. If V does have a g/f i think you should still tell him. I know you don't want to mess up their relationship, but what if he has feelings for you as well? Even if he just wants to be friends after you tell him, it might feel good to get it off your chest.

    As for Dan, he needs to know. You can't just keep it from him. You need to be honest with him. The longer you keep it from him, the worse his reaction might be. He might take it better if you tell him right away.

  • Eibutsina
    18 years ago

    Hi Taylor ;o)

    Great risks are taken to achieve great results. Being honest however is a difficult thing especially when your laying your heart on the line or potentially hurting someone you really do care about. Your a smart girl though hun, Ive read plenty of the great and very intelligent advice you dish out on these forums and you need to start taking some of your own advice and applying it to your life. I think deep down you know the answer to your question you know what you want to and need to do perhaps your just here to get that push of a head start from some friends :o)

  • Darien
    18 years ago

    Hey don't beat yourself down Angelina. Making mistakes is part of growing up. Just learn from this siuation, so you won't have to hurt another guy. Yeah, you are young, and yeah you will meet other guys. So good luck to you.

  • Darien
    18 years ago

    ^^

    Lol, I did that sometime in November last year, I just quit on dating totally. Until New Years when I met the girl of my dreams. It was crazy how it happened all of a sudden. It's better when you least expect it.