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Well it goes a bit like this. I was being sexually abused by someone I know, he stopped it and we made up. Then he's started it again now I have a boyfriend. People just tell me because of my age I shouldn't be letting it happen to me. What they don't understand is, I love my mum and don't want to leave her because i'm a little young for my age and wouldn't cope living alone just yet. he lives with us as a lodger and he says it's my fault for being pretty and slim. Now I believe it is my fault and i'm at the point of breaking down again. I just need a shoulder to cry on more than anything cos I don't want to tell anyone I know for fear I won't be believed. The more people that say i should be old enough to deal with it, the more depressed I become. Thanks for listening to me moan :(

..You believe it's your fault for being pretty and slim? Stop being a wimp, "no offense", and do something. Otherwise you'll just have to put up with it cause there's nothing else you can do. You need to tell someone, else nothing's gonna happen. mkayy.x

OMG, you need to stand up for yourself and do something about this. This is never been your fault!! What the heck!! If you love your mom then you need to talk to her so she can do something about this. Nobody should ever have the right to abuse you because you are beautiful! Seriously, you need to tell your mom or go talk to the police.

There's being a ''wimp'' and there's being scared. My mum already knows but she won't do anything cos he's my step dad. It's really complicated. Thanks for your advice though. My sisters don't know and if I go to the police they will blame me and everyone will find out. I don't feel guilty for being pretty. I don't want to be pretty, I don't even think I am pretty. I feel guilty for not being able to stand up for myself at 21 years old. I feel ashamed and dirty for letting a man 3 times my age touch me and do disgusting things to me. It's ruining my relationship with my boyfriend. I'm sure i'll be ok........ Thanks anyway :)

Tell your sisters. and boyfriend. and go to the police with them.

I'm telling ya, you need to tell someone. It will ruin your whole life. Nobody should ever do this to you! That is dead wrong!! One day you'll fall apart and you'll fall hard!! You need someone to help you deal with this and get this *&^&* in jail!

You are definitely not old enough to deal with this alone, I suggest you involve as many (old) adults in this as possible. You can't sit back and be abused because you think that you're too old to ask for help. Nobody ever is too old to need assistance in a situation like this.
Of course, I do not know exactly what you are going through, but I encourage you to get help and stop it.

//T.L.//

I agree. Fully. With the last posts.

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There are so many things you can do, but it seems you are too afraid to do any of them. Do you like being sexually abused? i wouldnt think so. But ultimately your choices are.

1) Continue to get sexually abused, despite the fact this man is meant to be loyal to my mother and i am meant to be loyal to my boyfriend.

2) Stand up for yourself, which can be done several ways, tell him yourself you dont like it. Tell the powers that be, ie Police. Nobody should be allowed to be sexually abused you dolt. Or up and leave, its not that hard.

I would have thought that would be a no brainer, but i guess there are helpless hopeless people out there. Take the advice in whatever strand you want. Mods dont delet the only post worth something.

[I feel guilty for not being able to stand up for myself at 21 years old. I feel ashamed and dirty for letting a man 3 times my age touch me and do disgusting things to me]

Hes 60+ years old, just rip his cane out from under him then jump over a fence. That gross, dont take that anymore. Or make up like you did before.