Help plz.....!!

Hi my name is jodie, i have no idea whats going on in my head.
firstly ive put on a lot of weight lately and i no if i stop eating so much i'll lose it again but i dont stop. me and my bf have a perfect relationship until i make an arguement, i have no job i live on my own and things just suck in general can someone tell me how i have lift myself up and put my life back on track??? i want help coz i used to resort to self harm but i dont want that to happen.. so help please jodie xxxxx

Jodie,

Sounds like things are a bit chaotic for you as well...

1. Try and figure out why you're eating so much (or is it just because you're hungry). Because many people eat a lot (some don't eat at all), because then they can have control of that even if nothing else is in their control. If it's about control, try doing something else, like exercising or something. At least it's healthy, and you do have control of exercise.

2. When you say you make an argument, do you mean that you just find something (usually something stupid) just to fight about? Because if that is the case, try and figure out why... Like is it because you're afraid of having a really good relationship? Afraid of commitment? Or whatever else.

3. Go out and apply for as many jobs as you are qualified for. Having a job will help you, because you will be more self-sufficient and it will kinda take your mind off of your real life. Go for jobs that you feel comfortable doing, though, because you don't want work to be another stressor.

Anyway, I hope that helps... The reason I keep telling you to try and figure out why you do what you do, because it's easier to change when you know the reason...

~BJ~