i need some major help........

ok so i met this really hot guy online and we both love eachtoher but im kind of scared hes a rapist im not totally sure. im going to meet him at the movies on saturday but im not sure if i should ho anymore im scared what do you think i should do????
by the way im 13 and hes 17

im not going to tell my mom and yes im bringing my friend olga and shes meeting her bf there well my bf lives in jersey and he drives and sometimes he can be a real perv and he says i make him like that idk im just a lil scared

Wow, no don't even think about it. If I were you, I would have conversations on the phone with him before. Even still, 13 and 17, no way. He's just looking for an easy target. Also, at the movies? How boring is that for a first date, not to mention how DARK it's going to be. You should meet him somewhere public, during the day, that would be much safer. Also, Kristen is right, you should tell your parents.

Dating at 13? Geez, we have no hope for the future. They don't have their heads in the right place. I guess those that care about their life will have an easier time finding jobs. Less competition.

thats the point of going to the movies its going to be dark so we can make out i dont know if i should go i started dating last year everyone here dates young my friend just got married at 17 idk i feel a little weird when i talk to him and when he calls he blocks his phone number so i think that theres something fishy going on besides the fact that he flirts with everyone

"thats the point of going to the movies its going to be dark so we can make out"

^^ That's the most pathetic thing I have ever heard, and you disgust me.

You basically waste money at the movies to go and make out. At the rate you're going, you'll probably lose your virginity, if you haven't already, possibly get pregnant at an early age, and suffer financially. Either that, or that guy will rape you and then you'll get pregnant and yeah, what I said before. You're one of those stupid girls that think 'oh, my friends are doing it, it must be cool'. Well, yeah it's pretty cool to be living on your own, off welfare, supporting a child at the age of 17, with no ring on your finger, and no husband supporting you. Why don't you go to your nearby shelter, and visit people who have gone through things like this at your age. They will give you the best advice.

Ok Darian...lets just take a breather here. Lol.

I have to agree just not in such an...angry...way. Lol...I think that what you are doing is really dumb. You're 13, he's 17. You met over the internet, he wants to take you to a movie to "make-out", and when he calls you....he blocks his number. Yeah I'm thinking that that is a big no...and maybe you should bring more then just one friend with you. And I don't mean your one friend with her boyfriend. No...if you're 13...you need more then that if you are going to be that stupid...because if something happens...these people are going to run. They aren't going to try to help or anything. And DO NOT go off alone with him.

thankz for the advice.....i dont know what im going to do, i mean i like this guy but the thought of getting raped and shit idk ill be 14 soon and the guys really nice and isnt there someone else in the world whos met a guy online and it turned out great? everything cant go wrong unless he is a rapist idk i guess im going to talk to my friends about it but i love your advice thankz guys and keep giving more i need all i can get

thankz for the advice.....i dont know what im going to do, i mean i like this guy but the thought of getting raped and shit idk ill be 14 soon and the guys really nice and isnt there someone else in the world whos met a guy online and it turned out great? everything cant go wrong unless he is a rapist idk i guess im going to talk to my friends about it but i love your advice thankz guys and keep giving more i need all i can get

I suggest if your not going to tell your parents that you do tell an older sibling or friend who can take evasive action if necessary afterall there are some strange bloody people out there. Good idea on taking a friend but still be very careful especially at your young influencial age. The fact that you have the thought about being raped in the back of your head in my eyes, should actually make you think twice about going - you know what they say about a womens intuition...?

If I was your mom and found out, I'll ground you for life!! I can't believe you are writing here that you are going to the movies to make out. Girl, you are only 13 years old!! You have time enough to make out. Have a little bit respect for you own body! You know darn well what a 17 year old thinks. He sure is not thinking of watching a movie! OMG, I get so mad about this!!

thanks for the advice maybe i should just go to the movies with my friends instead idk i thought i liked this guy but whatever thankzz and keep posting

erm.....how long have you known him?

about 2 months

Sweetie, don't do it!! He is 17, you are 13! It is not worthed to get yourself in trouble! Find people your own age to hang out with. Don't think about making out, just have fun! Your young life is over before you know it, enjoy it!

I completely agree with Nancy

thankzz guys um im gunna take your advice but i cant leave my friend alone at the movies with her bf even though we know him and hes 14 she relle wants me to go and so does seth ...thats his name the 17yr old i also have another problem ......well when hes not online i get sort of depressed and yesterday i almost killed myself why am i going so crazy over this guy i know this is relationship advice but can u help me out on that one too ??? ill also post it in the depression collumn thankzz
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because you have nothing else to think about.. duh. if that's all you think about, him going online, then my advice for you is to get a life. not a mean way, but go have fun. you're 13.. there's extracurricular activities at and outside of school. go hang out, don't base your life on an internet-started relationship. it's just not good. doesn't matter if you're turning 14 either. and i know you may not think as much as other people here... who i will not say their names... :) but.. yeah, though you don't have the capacity to think the same way, you still have the capacity to think, so use it. there's repruccusions(sp.?) to what you would've done or still are about to do by meeting him. and yeah.. back to the waiting for him to get online suicide stuff.. if you tell your friends, they'd laugh at you.. and put it this way... if you weren't into that kind of stuff, but one of your friends are, without a biased opinion you'd think he/she was weird/crazy. it's just stupid. that's all i'll say. weeee have fun with your life. ^_^

Definately agree with that ^

lol. And if you can't find anything in school that you're interested in find something in the community.

And another thought: if this guy is causing you to have suicidal thoughts and you never even met him, that shows an unhealthy addiction to him (I know that sounds wierd but..) and he's obviously not worth your time. If you find someone, he should make you want to live life, not end it because you haven't heard from him in two days or something like that. You're worth so much more =)

thankz for the adive but he called today =]
keep giving advice i really need it

if ur going... bring a shaperon.....
but i think no..dont go..find a person that same with ur age...same as what nacy said....

kk :)

a definite, absolute NO NO from me.. i don't think you should go.. if ya do decide to.. stay safe, don't go anywhere alone with him xx

No way! Ur setting urself up for danger! He could be a rapist...or older and not wht he claims he is. DONT DO IT! JUST DONT!

Hah, Dariens post just made me laugh. So harsh.
But sometimes people have to be handled in a harsh way to get the message.

Simply (in my opinion):If you go, you're an idiot. 17 year old guys that go out with 13 year olds only have one thing on their minds. Sex. Don't believe me? I have tons of guy friends that make really stupid decisions, trust me, I know.

It's disgusting.

& getting depressed because of some guy is one of the dumbest things you could ever do. If any guy ever makes you feel bad constantly, for whatever reason, it's not worth it, make it easy on yourself and just walk away.

Haven't you ever watched a show where some girl meets a guy she met offline and gets raped or killed. You do realize that's a possibility, right?

Lauren, by even conversing with this guy you are making a mistake. You are 13, you should be thinking about school, fun, sports, and family...not boys. Wait until you're 15 or older, when you have more life experience under your belt. I lost my virginity at 14 to a 17 year old...that was 3 years ago, and I can honestly say...having sex with him was the biggest mistake I have made in my life so far. I am 17 now and I look at 14 year olds as youngsters, new to the teen years...you aren't even 14 yet and you are thinking about hooking up with a 17 year old...if you take my advice (as well as everyone else's pretty much), you won't regret it. People are telling you it is a bad idea for a reason! Trust your elders, even if we aren't THAT old. :) take care of yourself, and tell that older guy you aren't interested. Why would you find a perverted guy who's almost an adult but still hits on young girls attractive anyway? Yuck.

ESPECIALLY if you say "he's a rapist" and "perverted" and you're "scared to meet him." that should tell you something! honestly, you hear all the time about these older guys preying on young girls over the internet, and it NEVER turns out good. you think you could have a good relationship with someone you're scared of? please just think about this. meeting him could be putting yourself in danger- it doesn't take much to cancel a date

i htink you should have someone by your spy and keep a look out for you the first sign of a old man run girl ruuuuuuuuuuun :P xxx ale xxx