Kids "In Love"

Okay, so I really don't understand why kids (teenagers between the ages of 10 and 17 (It could even be higher, depending on maturity)) seem to think they know what love is...

I mean, yeah, when I was 13, I'd write I love so and so on my notebook, but I knew it wasn't love, I just liked them and felt like writing love.

But I'm talking about these youngsters that actually think they are in love with someone and I think it's completely absurd. Forgive me for making this post, but it's driving me insane.

Yeah, yeah there's that saying about how you're never too young to fall in love, but the thing about it is that it all depends on maturity. You need to be mature enough to comprehend the concept of love. Don't get me wrong, even some adults aren't even mature enough to comprehend it.

Children should NOT be engaging in adult relationships. Saying "I love you" isn't a thing everyone has to say JUST BECAUSE they're going out or whatever. Now, about engaging in sexual activities: Even if you have matured PHYSICALLY, it still doesn't mean that you are mature mentally and emotionally. People ask why love hurts, but the fact of the matter is, it isn't supposed to.

I just wonder what makes these children think that they are ready to have sex? I mean, they're still in school, some have jobs, some don't, and they aren't independent. So, say that this 13 year old got pregnant, because she wasn't being safe, or maybe the condom wasn't put on properly, either way, this girl gets pregnant, now what? Abortion? If you are going to be a murderer just because of your stupid actions, that's pathetic and cruel.

But maybe this girl wants to keep her baby... How will she take care of him/her? She's only 13, she can't get a job for another 2 years (at least where I live), so how will she support him/her. And to top it off, most teen dad's DO NOT stay, so chances are, she'll end up a single parent.

Next, an STD. Say your partner has an STD, but doesn't tell you... You end up having sex, and shortly after, you come up with a weird rash or a series of blisters, or an itch in your private area. Almost all STDs are NOT curable so you have to live with them for the REST of your life.

What I'm saying is, young teens are NOT ready for this, and I don't understand where they get the idea that they are. This world is becoming way to focused on sex, love, and drugs (I'm not going to go into drugs), and I just wonder why.

And then these teens come crying to other people when things don't go right... Well, they should've thought a LOT before acting. I mean, if someone came up to me crying, I wouldn't just be mean to them and be like "it's your fault" and so on, because I'm not like that.

~BJ~

Well, you'd know. You're twenty, right? ;-)

That doesn't mean I know everything.

~BJ~

Well we don't know what love is till we experience it, and i don't think theres much wrong with experimenting either.
I for one like to learn from my mistakes ( even though people say if i fell into a viper pit i'd come out wearing snake skin shoes) and as every person "i love" moves on, im that step closer to finding my right man and being more in the know about love. I'm just not that luckier person to fall upon my perfect man within my first step.

I understand what you're saying. It ticks me off when i hear teens are having sex because they think they are "in love". As a teen, you go out with different guys because you end up hurt. After one guy you claim to love leaves you, and you move on, you say you love the next one. It's absurd. I do believe that certain teens understand love, depending on their maturity level. I don't believe in teen love, or puppy love. There is love and there is infatuation. Those are two different things. You shouldn't rush things. As a teen you should be having fun, and focusing on getting a good education. There is pleanty of time after high school to find love. Sure, dating guys is something teens like to do, but don't rush into a relationship and say you're "in love".

I've been getting annoyed with this 'love' thing since I was 16. I used to see my friends get into relationships, and they'd tell me how 'in love' they were.. yet it'd only been a couple of weeks into the relationship. They'd break up, cry for a day or two, get into a new relationship, and be 'in love' all over again. In actual fact, one of my 'close' friends has been in 'love' seven times! And she turned 18 a couple of months ago..

God, it's frustrating. And with the word 'love' (and hate for that matter), being misused so often, in particular, by children, it doesn't retain the same meaning and emotion behind it that it potentially could.

And don't even get me into the sex things. I'm too tired to start moaning about that one.

I understand Some of what is being said. Yeah the whole teens having sex a lot of the time is stupid and irresponsible. But some of the times if you're caught up in the moment you don't think straight. And then there is something called PEER PRESURE... it does make things a lot harder on some people. I'm glad to say I'm Not one of those teens having sex. And also if you are a teen you CAN fall in LOVE. It doesn't depend on age but the maturity level. I have fallen in Love before when I was 15, and now I'm 17. And it was Love, I know it was, I never dated the guy but I knew him for about 8 years. And plus I had a friend who did fall in Love and she's now 17 and fell in Love when she was either 15 or 16. She was with the guy for 2 1/2 Years and knew it after 6 months. And in both cases I'd just like to point it out again, it was Love not infatuation.

The generation now has changed dramatically. I'm from the older generation and tell ya what...I wouldn't have considered even kissing boys at my teen years. My dad would have paddled my butt. However, teen pregnancy even occured then. I'm not sure what happens with kids or why behave the way they do. My 12 year old is very mature, especially body wise. She looks like a 16 year old and sometimes it is just straight annoying. She does talk about boys and that she is going out with so or so. However, she hardly leaves the house because she is a complete computer nerd...LOL I have also been very open with her and have told her the consequences of having sex. My daughter has a lot of goals and she knows that if she becomes a teen mom that her goals are pretty much gone. I have always told her that when she is older, has a steady boyfriend and is ready to have sex, she can come talk to me and we'll get her the pill. I under no circumstances want to give her the pill to think that she is free to have sex. I think communications is a great asset to parents and children.

now on teenagers know about LOVE is because they learn..now on the adults like teacher..or etc..they teach them..nowl ike b4...it's changed...

ok..did i wirte the right stuffs?..hehe

punksunite24, I agree with you very much. and Kill.us.all. I understand what you mean.

~BJ~

Nancy,

I agree... Communication is VERY important. Maybe that's one of the problems... many households don't even have 2 parents and the ones that do, both parents work full-time... and so with the parent(s) working, it gives them little time to spend with their children, therefore missing out on really important things they should be teaching and doing with their children... I dunno... that's just an assumption..

~BJ~

i'm 17... and i think i'm in love.. i've told her i love her because that's what i feel, i don't know any other way to express my emotions... for her. and uhm.. i haven't engaged in anything sexually.. so if i don't know what love is.. does that mean MY LIFE IS A LIE?!?! x.x ugh.. i feel so... weak...**faint** :) i don't care. i'm in love.

All of this depends on each individual, cause we are all responsible for our own actions... think about what kind of role society plays on us? and the media? it's not only us in our own stupidness there are things going on so others think that's the way to go, even though I agree it isn't right, but maturity level is a major part... in today's generation it's easy to fall in love do all the sexual stuff etc etc... but it aint easy making a living without edu a job or even sense... which many youngsters don't realize but many do too they just ignore. Age is just a number but places where we live today, everything is depended on our age. How we are depends on how we were brang up from our parents and the people we hang out with...
I'm 17 I'm in love with someone who I've known for 2 1/2 yrs and now me and him are thinking we should get married... after a few yrs. More in a responsible and adult like manner not immature.. so like I said it depends on each person.

Heh.

There are a lot of definitions for love, and I've been interested in a great deal of them, and some of the best ones don't place a limit on age. I agree that maturity has a great deal to do with it, and that most people who say they love someone aren't mature enough to actually feel it. However, I disagree on a few points. I don't think that this generation is a particularly stupid one... I think there has always been a problem with 'love' and teenagers... I mean look at Romeo and Juliet... that's one of the best examples I can think of concerning being 'in love' but not actually 'loving'. Damn teenagers!

Irony intended of course; I'm 19. I would be upset if someone were to attempt to claim that I didn't love any of the people I say I do, and I wouldn't suggest trying. My current understanding of love is that it is an emotion, and as it is such, people are going to have a very difficult time convincing me that they know more about my emotions than I do. That being said, I can also recognize when I like someone a lot, but don't love them, and also when I'm infatuated with someone, or just think they're hot. I've been in two year relationships with girls I didn't love. The length of that relationship pales, of course, in comparison to people who have lived longer, but I think that it also shows that just because you've dated someone a while doesn't mean you have to be in love with them.

Another point I disagreed with was that love 'isn't supposed to hurt'. There is undoubtedly a difference between being 'in love' and 'loving' someone, but they both can involve pain. I think that both of them can fade, and both of them can bring happiness. I think both can be unrequited and unbalanced. I think both can involve sacrifices. And I think all those things can involve pain.

i understan wha u are saying... but just because some teens think they are in love or are really in love doesnt mean they are going out and having sex .... some are and some believe in chastity .... but u never really kno ... for the teens that do have sex think of the consiquensis ... girls - your guy may leav u if u get pregnant because he doesnt want to be a part of it ... a bunch of things can go wrong ... u never kno if u may die when u are delivering the baby ... teens who believe in chastity are making mature desitions .... and i dont think u need to be a ceirtain age to fall in love ... i think i have ... but thats just me ... many people have many different opinions ...

when i was at school, love for teenagers.. was the same whether it was a boy in class, or a boy from a pop group.. girls used to go crazy for every cute guy that walked past.. i was never into this love thing.. loving one person oneday and a different person the next.. however i have found real love 3 times in my life and my first was at 16, 2nd was with a girl at 28 and now at 31, and this is going to be my last love ;) I think You can fall inlove from the age of about 14yrs upwards, but most of the time at that age it is not much more than a crush xx