I want to fix this, not give up.

I need help, and a lot of it.

I had a rough heartbreak before the bf I have now...and part of me is still taking out all the pain and frustration i had with my ex, out on him. I need to know how to change this. i care about my boyfriend a lot and everyday I'm killing him more and more and he's losing hope, he's giving up on me. Is there seriously something wrong with me? How can I keep from taking it out on him and treat him how he deserves to be treated?

I'm scared I'm about to lose him...and soon...

Does anyone have any ideas of sweet things to do for him...like..how I can try and make it up to him..just...cute little things that would make him smile?

Please, please help me out, I'm desperate for answers.

thanks, thats a good idea..i just want to make him feel special enough to know i really care.

i did the same thing at first with my last boyfriend and i was afraid id lose him so i just sat him down and told him what was going on. just explain to him that you were hurt and it may take awhile for that pain to heal but you want to be with him and he means alot to you.

what you should do.. is work out your ISSUES with your previous boyfriend, first... THEN you can do all the stuff the other people are saying... or you can do both.. whichever you can handle.. but don't be mad at your boyfriend for no reason... that's just messed up.

I have sat him down and told him what was going on but it's been like a month and a half ago...it just doesn't make sense why I can't change...

do you think that it could be because I'm just not over my ex? :S

he's a douche, basically...but idk..

I doubt it's because you're not over your ex... someone told me it takes a third of the time you were together to get over the guy, and if he really hurt you or he just sprung it on you, it may take a little longer... i really dont know what you could do, maybe call him up and tell him how much he means to you, or do something spontaneous... like maybe show up at his house or something (you might not be able to do that, i dunno) but like show up at his house and suprise him with a kiss or something... something cute like that, make it spontaneous, a surprise... i wish you luck

I doubt it's because you're not over your ex... someone told me it takes a third of the time you were together to get over the guy, and if he really hurt you or he just sprung it on you, it may take a little longer... i really dont know what you could do, maybe call him up and tell him how much he means to you, or do something spontaneous... like maybe show up at his house or something (you might not be able to do that, i dunno) but like show up at his house and suprise him with a kiss or something... something cute like that, make it spontaneous, a surprise... i wish you luck

I doubt it's because you're not over your ex... someone told me it takes a third of the time you were together to get over the guy, and if he really hurt you or he just sprung it on you, it may take a little longer... i really dont know what you could do, maybe call him up and tell him how much he means to you, or do something spontaneous... like maybe show up at his house or something (you might not be able to do that, i dunno) but like show up at his house and suprise him with a kiss or something... something cute like that, make it spontaneous, a surprise... i wish you luck

This is something fun. Me and my friends, do it all the time for our guy friends, its called "delievering", Bake him cookies or something (doesnt have to be that can be something that would be special between the two of you) and you put it on there door step knock then run... its just something fun..