Big Uh-Oh

I'm seventeen and work in a hospital, I am pretty friendly so I got to know everyone there. My problem is now that I realize I was a bit too friendly. Now much older guys are hitting on me, handing me their numbers and stalking me around the place. It gets scary, and I could report specific people for sexual harassment because some annoy me...but there is this one guy who is older, but he acts so young and something about him made me like him...and I hate how he talks because he is so good with words. He always jokes around and says, "When you're eighteen, it will be legal." I don't want to be stupid so I just need advice on how I can get it off my mind, and simply stay away from him even though we are friends. Oh yeah, he is married with three children. I definately don't want to go there, but sometimes I feel like desires are stronger than mind...or perhaps I am too weak.

me and my husband had 3 kids when he started messing around with other women, we have been separated now for 6 yrs.. i think you are in the job because you are caring.. if you care about children you will not help be the cause of thier life crumbling down around them.. my children don't know the ins and outs and they do not need to know, and although i am well out of it and over him and moved on with my life, my son still has big emotional problems caused by it.. i think you can be stronger than you think when it comes to the desires.. as for the others you need to say something if you are scared.. good luck xx

First of all, you sound like a very caring person to be working in the hospital and just the way you were talking and stuff... but you need to be aware of these other guys, and if you really do get scared, don't hesitate to report them... As for this other guy, he sounds like he's just a smooth talker and also sounds dangerous... He sounds like he uses his words to manipulate, and i'm just going by this- "and I hate how he talks because he is so good with words."... so i may be wrong... but first of all, he's so much older and the big thing is he's married with kids! Just think, you're still somewhat a kid, how would you like it if your parents split up? You would potentially be ruining some lives there... that's a bit harsh, but it is the truth... basically, we all have desires, but there are certain ones that you should never act on, and that's one of those desires... good luck!

I can actually relate to you. I work in the hospital as well, and even though I don't really know anybody I face that as well. I agree with the person who said not to be afraid to report something if you don't feel comfortable.

One time I was in this old man's room and (to make a long story short) he asked me if he could hold me. I said no gently and walked out of the room. I felt bad - not because I said no but because he didn't know what he was doing. He was really sick, but I went and told the head nurse right away because I got kind of creeped out. SO it may really be nothing, but if it bother's you, that's something. I also know how you feel about older guys. The way some of them talk can be very enticing but like also stated before, don't get involved especially if he has a wife and kids. Not only will your life be ruined but so will his kids. I know that sounds really harsh lol, but you know what I mean. And really, if you're husband was at this sort of thing would you want to find out that he was flirting and cheating with a minor? No. Talk to him when you have to but other than that avoid him and don't laugh at any rude remarks such as the "When you're eighteen, it will be legal" stuff. That's sexual harrassment. It's even worse if you're a minor.

God Bless and Take Care!
Sarah-Joy

if he's in the hospital, he's in there for a reason.. and just trying to make things easier for him. he might not be serious because my uncles do that, too. they just don't realize what thoughts run through women's heads... so just forget about it.

Yeah, everyone here is so right. I know I will follow most of the advice. I don't mind the sexual comments, as long as no one grabs me, I'm alright, because I got so used to it already so I decided I don't need to report anyone. Plus, I can let them off with a good warning they wont forget.

As for the married guy, were pretty good friends, I think I just want to stick with a 'close co-worker' status, and I was also thinking maybe I should talk to him and let him know that I'm tempted, but I would never fall through with the things he has planned. So yeah, thanks for the input guys.

NO, I wouldn't tell him that you're tempted because he could try to tempt you more and finally 'get something'. Well, you know what I mean. If he says somethign vulgar or whatever that you don't like just tell him not to say anything like that anymore.

Will do. Thankies so much.

and before he tries something.. make sure you're properly equipped with a stun gun. ^_^

Hehe, I will definately have that ready.

Oh. Looks like you got help already. Well good luck with it Hun. Best of luck. =]

Thanks. I guess those were already of my options, it seems like I needed second opinions rather than advice.

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