Im confused andi woudl really appreciate some impartial advice!

I have been seeing my bf for 1 year and i love him so much, yet we argue constantly. i feel like im always crying. he has 2 sides to him, the side where he loves me and would do anything for me, but then he has a nasty side, he gets jelous and calls me names.
i wana make our relationship work, but its difficult when everytime we promise it will get better, it does, for a couple of days, but then we fall back in to the same routine. i really dont know what to do here, because he is my life. we do everythig together and havent spent a night apart in 10 months.
does anyone have any suggestions on how we can make this work?

Okay the same thing happened to my friend, actually pretty close to being the Exact same thing. Her and her bf loved eachother but fought constantly after a while. But when they were having good days they were so happy together. He was a very jealous person, and eventually tried to control her and called her names becuase he got so jealous. I'll tell you what I told her. Try talking to him, be completly honest no matter how much it hurts. And if he starts yelling, just don't yell back just keep talking to him without yelling. Yelling get you nowhere most of the time. Make sure he listens to you and you listen to him, then try to change the situation. If things don't change then I'd say just end things with him. Yeah you may love him, but if you're unhappy then you should not be with him. If he calls you names becuase he gets jealous and it doesn't stop or gets worse then end it. You don't deserve that. That's my advice to you.

i agree with heather.

OhWow. That is exactly what is going on between my boyfriend and I right now. He'll ask what I am up to or doing and I'll tell him. Then he asks who am I talking to and I tell him. And he gets so mad at me whne it's a guy. Then after we fight about it he always ends it by saying he was just kidding. But I'm not stupid and I know he's not. He just doesn't seem to get that what he is doing and saying is affecting our relationship greatly. I do loe him and everything, but talking to him is like talking to a brick wall honestly. I could talk to my cat and get more of a response out of her then him. He has this huge habbit when we are fighitng and i am telling him what it is that bugs me and stuff of him saying. "hmm" or "hmph.." I get so fustrated. And everytime we try to solve and or fix it it always turns into a fight. So now we have turned to E-mails. Instead of telling it directly to each toher we write an E-Mail.. so far it's working alright. We haven't had any fights and he has realized that he needs to respect me more then he has been. I don't really know what to do but keep trying to talk it out with him. And hope that when you talk to him and tell him the honest truth he will understand.

&hearts Megan ♥

wow!!..thank god i'm single for now...

^ Heck yes to that!

the same thing happened to me and my bf... it took us breaking up and seeing other people to see how much we really wanted and needed to be together... lol

i think that if he calls u names it will go into more one day he'll shove u n then hit u

my ex called me names n then one time we were fighting and he grabbed me n i jus broke up with him a couple of days later he understood his mistake he came back asking me to come back and it has never happened since

u need to either scare him or hope he understands it calmly which doesnt always work