problems talking

so me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 11 months. i've never been happier but lately we've been having a lot of trouble. i have a hard time talking to him when i'm upset with him b/c i'm so afraid of hurting him. then he gets mad when i dont say whats wrong. this has been going on for over a week and its just getting worse. does anyone have any advice on what i can do/say to make things better? or a suggestion of how i can open up to him better?

if you can, email him and tell him why youre mad at him. its a lot easier than saying it to his face or over the phone. and remember, if you were doing something wrong and HE was mad at you for it, wouldnt you want to know what you were doing wrong so you could fix it? thats the situation hes in. he wants to know how he can make it better, and youre keepingthat vital info from him.

You say you can't tell him why you're mad at him because it will hurt him? But by not telling him, you ARE hurting him, as well as damaging your relationship. Just tell him.

i wrote a poem today and i posted it. he read it, but didnt know how to react to it. i told him i felt better after writing the poem and i do. and i guess what i am doing isn't the right thing. because like u guys said, its hurting both him and our relationship. and by me not telling him, he probably gets mad b/c he cant fix the problem. so i think i'm going to have to learn to deal with telling him things and if he gets upset, then he does. as long as we're both happy and we can work things out, we'll be good.

I started haveing the same problem a while ago. I still sometimes get in that situation. I get mad or upset and I don't want to fight so I don't say anything....and my fiance gets pissed. I end up telling him, we might fight, but in the end....we both feel better, and everything is great again.

Sometimes you just have to fight through it all....if you guys really care about eachother like you say that you do then you can work through it....from what you just said....sounds like you guys are good. Hehe.

good luck wid your relationship!