Ohdear.. In need of Advice. Please? =|

Okay, well first off if you are going to rude I'd rather you not. But anyway.

I am dating a wonderful person whom I met online, and he lives in another country. (Yes online dating.) I mean I am older than him; but I do love him. He hasn't been on very much and he is changing. I don't know what is wrong with him. He gets very snappy at me and jealouse easy. He even got mad one night and said some pretty nastey stuff to me. I forgave him though, cause I'm not going to walk off on him or leave him just over some words he said. Even if they hurt me. He's just changing so much. He tells me all the time how empty he is. And he is so moody. He gets cranky very easy. I try to talk to him but whenever I do. We seem to argue. And it never gets straightend out unless we are argueing. And honestly it's starting to get to me. I tell him everything. And even a serious problem, and he threatend to walk away. And I don't get why. He said he would always be here and help me yet, he threatens to block me and never speak to me again over something serious. How is that showing he cares? And really loves me. It's so confusing. I have no idea why he is acting like this, and he thinks I want him to be perfect. Or that he is always in trouble when he makes a mistake, yet no one cares if I do. I don't know honestly..

It's not that fact of that either. I have other things ontop of that. I know a boy in real whom, I like so much. And he is always sweet and nice to me. And I adore him so much. Yet him and I can't get closer cause of my boyfriend, and if we do get closer I'll feel bad. Or like I am doing something wrong. I don't want to hurt my boyfriend, but he seems to be hurting me and I really haven't ever hurt him. I am usually really good at telling or giving advice to people about subjects like this but for myself. I can't seem to even think clearly or manage to find a solution or anything. It's so stressful and I'm about ready to just give up on both of them. And end up hurting two people I love and myself in the process.

I know that was long, and it's probabley stupid but I need advice, oppinions anything that might help. If you will it would be greatly taken to heart, and used. I really am having a hard time with this... Thanks..

::♥ Megan::

Hey..

Umm.. that sounds really tough. I've been in an internet relationship before. & I'm not going to lie, it hurts. Well, for me it did anyway. Mine was really complicated, as is yours. I guess they all are really.. But.. Hmm.. I think that you should confront him. Ask him why he is so moody and why he treats you the way he does. If he doesn't know how, or if he is treating you badly, then explain to him what you feel. Hopefully he will then understand and he will stop treating you that way. However, if he doesn't understand, i think that it would be best to get out of the relationship. If he is just hurting you and making you said, it's not the best relationship to be in. I was hurt so much in mine, and im not trying to make mine sound worse, because i can imagine what you are going through. I'm just giving some personal advice. But yeah.. i got hurt heaps. He was depressed alot, and obviously moody, and it was so so hard for me especially because i couldn't be there with him and help him through it. And he was the type of guy that wouldn't tell me what was wrong. That was especially hard. But back to you, if that is the same issue with you and you boyfriend/long distance partner, i, personally, think that if you can't sort this out, that it isn't worth it anymore. I loved my.. guy, and he, in the end, just didn't feel the same, and hurt me. And i went back to him many times and i just got heartbroken over and over again.

This other guy.. if you can't sort things out with your boyfriend, go for him! He sounds nice, and sounds like he would be better for you because he can, and will make you happy. I know its a really hard decision, and obviously it will be really hard to work out with your boyfriend, but i think it will be for the best.

Well.. thats just my bit of advice. I really hope you sort it all out. You deserve the best =) Sorry i ranted on for so long. I hope i made sense.. lol. If you wouldnt mind, tell me how it works out.

Byee hun

^^ I agree with that. I would give the same advice.

Thanks so much for your advice. I shall confront him when he gets on later Thanks again Hun. :]

It seems as if your intentions on dating this internet guy is unrealistic, btu thats just me. I also think that, even if you don't really know him in person, if he's treating you like that just walk away. Block, delete him, whatever. You don't deserve that kind of direspect by someone who you may not know all that well. who knows, he may turn out to be completely different than who you think he is.

Definately break it off and give this real guy a chance. What have you got to lose? The guy you're dating now is in another country, and if he's gonna treat you the way he does he doesn't deserve to even talk to you.

Yeah. I really like this guy in real. Actually I love him and he sent me a reallly sweet letter. I don't know if I should post it or not. Not sure if anyone would really care to read it. I thought it was really sweet, made me cry.

Post it! Poptart, this online guy sounds like a real ass...plus you can't even see him in real life! Who knows what he is doing with girls in his other country...I know you don't want to hear that, but it might be true. Go for the "real" guy, he sounds so much nicer and he seems to actually care about you...plus, he's real! you can hug him and kiss him on the lips and hold hands...what's better than that!?!

NO! I can't. ; ;

I musta deleted it. Grrrr. -Slaps her head- I really wanted to save it. Grrr. Stupid Poptart. ; ;

I think the internet guy is more of a fantasy romance, Its nice to dream about, but can he hold you in his arms, can he kiss you goodnight, can you just hang out and hold hands? Don`t get me wrong I think there are rare occations when there is a meeting of the minds and that can be a beautiful thing, but we all need the real thing.

Don't take it rude in any way,but..

what's the use of dating a person online,if they block You/ignore You..isn't it supposed to be for communication,atleast? :/..

Think about it, and don't let boys hurt You.

--Anna xx