how am i suppost to feel?

Ok let me see if i can explain this properly. First off here are the names of the people: Justin (my boyfriend), Katy (His daughter), Kristi (her mother), Jason (my son). I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and 1/2 years. When we first met we started talking about kids (not having them. The fact that we both have one) my son (11 months then) is 3 now. His daughter is 21 days younger then my son. Kristi has her all the time. When me and Justin met Kristi was refusing to let him see Katy. About 6 months into our relationship she poped up out of nowhere and decided she wanted him to be part of Katy's life. Kristi was pregnant again but single. For awhile we got to see Katy. Her and Jason grew very close. Just like brother and sister. Kristi ended up back with the father of her second child while she was still pregnant. That caused alot of problems because both her boyfriend and Justin wanted to be Katy's father. Eventually things went bad and we stopped seeing Katy because of Kristi. Well that happened once again and Justin had been paying her money and she was making excuses why he couldn't see Katy. Eventually she got mad enough to try to take him to court for child support because he said he wouldn't pay unless he got to see Katy. So they stopped talking again. Now she has found him again (on the great world of myspace) and she's saying that she wants to start over and be friends and that she misses the three of us coming up there and stuff. I just don't know what to belive anymore and he scared that he'll start going up there again and she'll jerk her away again. I don't know why i put myself in the middle of it. I don't know if i should push him to see her or not. She doesn't talk much about Katy when she e-mails him and stuff. I get attatched to the little girl to and i'm not sure if i'm suppost to or not. I'm just very confused. if anyone can help me please feel free! pm me or reply in the forum.

I think if Justin is serious about being a proper daddy to Katy, he should take it through the family court.. that way he will get regular visitation rights and Kristi will not be able to say he can't see his daughter when it suits her or her boyfriend, because it will be a legal court order..also it is only normal to get close.. i would not want my childrens step mother to not be close to them, I think it is a healthier relationship for all concerned to not distance your feelings.. good luck xx

Just to add to my comment.. I had to go through this with my children 4 years ago, because they live with thier dad and he was being awkward about me seeing them, I now have them weekends and all school holidays and it works really well.. even in the early stages after court when he was still trying to dictate different visits to what the courts gave, all I had to do was get back in touch with my solicitor and she did all the work and sorted everything out, so there was no reason for me and him to keep arguing with each other about it too xx

I think you should concentrate more on how HE feels .. it's his child, after all.

u said justing want's to be kati's father? y does he want's to be when HE IS"!..how stupid!..
sori i forgot the girl name..let me call her" kati' for a while.

i feel strange, if justin want's to be the father of kati's than how about you?..
if justin becomes "the father of kati's..than is justin gonna live with them..?...??

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now how do i say it in a adult way?..o god..sori cannot help you much..m just a teen, so i don't no how to talk adult'ies..

u said justing want's to be kati's father? y does he want's to be when HE IS"!..how stupid!..
sori i forgot the girl name..let me call her" kati' for a while.

i feel strange, if justin want's to be the father of kati's than how about you?..
if justin becomes "the father of kati's..than is justin gonna live with them..?...??

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now how do i say it in a adult way?..o god..sori cannot help you much..m just a teen, so i don't no how to talk adult'ies..

Justin wouldn't live with them. we would just have to drive to see katy or let her come stay with us sometimes. He is but her mom is married so Katy see's that guy as her daddy. We haven't seen Katy in a year. I have my own son to worry about and Justin in my son's daddy as far as my son is concerned.

The only problem we have with the court thing is we don't have enough money to go to court. Her mom doesn't either. sometimes i just think she's threatening us with the child support paper.

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