Is it too close and wrong??

Well I have this friend of mine and she is one of my closest friends. I have been friends with her for like six years...(I think something around that). Well I go over to her house sometimes and her dad would make me feel uncomfortable. You see last year I would go to her house and when he would walk by it would be like he would brush against my butt. One time he tapped my butt when I was walking by. It happened either when we were alone or when noone was looking. Now it hasn't happened for a long time and that may also be because I haven't been over there alot or not alone with him. Today I was there and when we were walking out the door he was behind me. I felt his hand on my lower lower back right above my butt and went up my back. I didn't like it at all. Now later on that day we were going back into the house and he was behind me again. I felt his hand go back on my lower back so I put my hand there and moved his hand away. Later when I was leaving we were alone again. He asked me what was I doing with my hand ealier. I was like I don't know. He then asked me repeatedly if i would come back over. I was like yeah and walked quickly outside. He told my dad that he wanted me to come over more often but I just never did. He made it sound as if I just never wanted to come over. That was not true. When my friend invited me over I went. When ever I saw him he always told me I had to come over more. I just thought he did that with everyone.

Now I don't know if I'm just being paranoid or is this wrong and he shouldn't be doing this. I don't know if I should tell him next time that I don't like him touching me or to ignore it. I'm just worried that it could be nothing and I would say something to him when he never meant any harm. Now my friend never sees it. He only touches me when noone is looking. I'm so confused. Like if this is something wrong then I don't know what to do if it gets worse. I don't know if he just puts his hand on people's back when walking though doors or he has taken too much of a liking to me. I can't turn to anyone for help cause I already have so many issues that noone really knows about. I'm depressed and do self harm but only one person knows that and that's another one of my friends. I'm just at a lost. Everyone thinks of him as a really nice guy and I don't know if he is being too nice. I don't know how much is too close. Please someone give me some advice!!

Tell him, tell him, tell him! This is totally inappropriate, and needs to stop.

I agree! This is really not how this guy should be acting so tell him so. And even if he denies it, which he probably will, just tell him you will tell someone else that will stop it.

I'm like afraid because I can't tell anyone else. They would never believe me. This guy is like the nicest guy and everyone agrees. Everyone even my dad said how nice he is. They would never believe me. He only does it when we're alone or when noone can see. I also freeze up and get nervous when he does it. Last night when we were alone and I was leaving I didn't even look at him. I just grabbed my things and walked quickly to the door.

You don't have to tell anybody else. Yet. Just tell him that it is inappropriate and that you do not feel comforyable. If he still doesn't stop, THEN is the time tot ell somebody else.

I think I will do that. I think next time I will tell him that. I just don't know what he will do. I know he will act like he meant no harm but I don't know if he would do again. So i'll tell him next time he does it.

Yeah. Good luck!

For your own protection, I think you should tell your friend, ask her if this has happened before, and also tell your parents.

I'm just afraid to say anything if he really never meant any harm but I'm starting to think he is taking too much of a liking to me. What will I ask my friend? Has your dad ever touched you or anyone else before? Why would anyone believe me though. Everyone believes he is a nice guy. Even my dad said that once. I can't tell anyone. I know it's for my protection but I just can't. Not unless he does something more or bigger which I hope he doesn't.

No, you should tell now. Forget about waiting to see if it gets worse because it will most likely and then you'll still be wondering if it's that bad or if anybody will believe you. Your parents need to believe you. Ever notice how it's always the people who seem nice. That people always say, "Naa you must be mistaken." People like that guy make me sick.

You know you have to do something otherwise you wouldnt have posted.

Deep down you know you hate it. This beast putting his hands all overyou.

You HAVE to tell someone.
Even if soeone doesnt believe you tell someone else until you get through to them

They WILL.
~Emah

Next time he does it, push his hand away and say something along the lines of, "I don't like when you put your hand on me.. So please don't do it. It makes me really uncomfortable"

If it doesn't stop, tell someone.

If it is just a polite way to guide you to the door, then when he finds out that you are uncomfortable by it, he'll stop.

And even if it is just a "polite" thing that he does to everyone, if it makes you uncomfortable, it's not right. He should know that it makes you uncomfortable.

~BJ~

I'm just going to tell him next time. If he didn't mean anything then he will stop but if he doesn't I'll tell someone. I just wanted someones opinion on if he shouldn't being doing this.

look babe i was touched by a couple guys and one guy went way to far and it was cuz i was scared to say anything. tell himto stop and if he doesnt, tell him you ll go to the cops.i wish i would have but i got the courage up too late.