Your not in love its just the way you are feeling.

I'm sorry but i think only a very small minority of people who post here are in love or think they're in love or have 3 people in love with them or love 2 people and can't decide.
I mean your 13, 14, 15, 16 your young your experimenting how can you know at that age its not love its deep feelings of over likeness.
And even if you were in love you wouldn't have to post a problem over the internet to let random people help decide your life for you.
You would be mature enough to know what you want inside.

Yes i've posted here before and people have helped me but... it was a minor difficulty between a boy. i didn't love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I do think this forum is good for helping people but the word love is used and abused.

If i could rule this forum i would check every post before it went up and remove the word love in except of very exceptional cases for grown up people i.e 21+ and no offence but lots of the posts are silly and immature anyway.

But i dont rule this forum and never will, i will probably get a lot of rude and distasteful comments back but i've just voiced my opinion and want to know what people think.

I know that I am in love... with my cats! And no amount of "you're too young, immature" will change that. I don't need to make a post about it because it is true. I love my darling catty children with all my heart and nothing will change that.

I think that what teenagers mean when they say "in love" is simply the sexual, physical attraction... they probably haven't completely grasped the whole load of what love is...they have just resorted to the only word that can explain what they feel... or what they think they feel, take your pick.

Also, I know that love at this age is immature, but sometimes it is also real. Sure, I've had "crushes" at 9, ready to marry the guy, hah, but I've worked out now it wasn't love... just a few premature hormones at work and one too many magazine articles.

So yes, you are partially right, but a 16 year old can still feel love. My mum was married at 17, and she loved the man... maybe she thought she did. They got divorced afterwards.

My only warning is don't judge too soon, but yes, there is a lot of confusion over real love.

//T.L.//

Very well said Haley. I completely agree. The bigest percent of teens who claim to be "in love", don't even know what love is yet. If you're a teen, you shouldn't rush things. You have the rest of your life to find love. I know i've never been "in love". I like being in relationships, but i don't go around saying i'm in love and am going to spend the rest of my life with that person. Love is something we want to expierience, but it takes time to find.

I agree to a certain extent. I am young, and I know that. But I have seen people at this age who have truly loved each other. Notice, though, that I am not saying they are "in love" necessarily. However, it is not for you to tell them if they are or are not. Only they know how they are feeling about another person. Only they'll know if it's really love....

Just my thoughts...

in love and love are different things, love is what teens MIGHT experience, but in love is the one that lasts for a life time.

for those who aren't kids.. haven't you ever experienced a time when you felt something for somebody.. but couldn't explain what that feeling was? and just decided it could be love? that's what these teenagers are doing.. they don't know yet whether they really are in love. besides, love depends on the person's heart. it isn't up to anyone else to say 'no, you're not in love, you're too young'. let them discover themselves and their hearts..

In my opinion I think love has absolutly nothing to do with age. I think it has everything to do with the persons maturity level. I have had friend who have been in love (yes actual love) and right now they are 16 and 17. I agree with some of the stuff that was originally posted, but definetly not all.

Hayley

Your right in so many senses yet seemingly so arrogant about your way of stating your point. You know what Hayley at 13 - 16 you probably thought you were in love, and people like yourself told you the same things you are telling these young people. The beauty of growing up and the process of learning about ourselves from our relationships and experiences is discovering these things for ourself.
I dont believe you have the right (or too be honest audacity) to sit here and tell people the way they feel, that it may be right or wrong...there is no right or wrong in our a person of any age feels...its simply that HOW THEY FEEL.
Sheesh who died and made you queen? Or are you just bitter about a broken/lost love from the past?
Peace...Risa

No i didn't say everyone isn't in love just a good majority.
And i've never been in love i've "luvved" a few boys but it wasn't proper because it's all over.

I agree, Haley. It's good to see that some people still see things for what they really are.

AGE IS JUST A NUMBER.
umm... the guy im in love with right now is the guy i fell in love with 2 1/2 yrs ago with, when i was 15 n he was 17. He was my first kiss and bf we only went out for 2 months and then he moved away, we agreed to remain good friends and keep in touch through the distance, but just currently we both figured that we still love each other n want each other more than anyone. N now im 17 n he's still the guy im in love with, i am the same for him, his first love, kiss.. etc... n we wanna get married have kids n spend our lives together until we die, so yea i was pretty young too n i found my soul mate...
i think it depends on how mature u r, cuz in other countries there r ppl who get married by age 15 or 16, from my point of view that is young, but here in the U.S. everything is abused teens r spoiled n love isn't what love should be marriage isn't either, love isn't love unless it invovles lots of sex n marriage doesn't always last too long.. so yea i don't really agree with you. And the teens who think they're in love might just be taking their break up as the most worse thing or perhaps they r in love... so yea u can't really say how someone feels that's or judge them.
O and without feelings you can't be in love so you can't just say that "it's just the way you feel" because it's the way you feel that you know you're in love.

haley you need to stop actin like you werent a kid once and thought you were in love your over here judging kids. if they want to talk about love then let them its just how they express themselves some people dont have no one to talk to and your over here jugdeing us because of what we write maybe its not love but its a feeling to the opposite sex that teens do have ..and express it as love...

just my thoughts..

yes I do understand compleatly what you say but banning from posting would be away of keeping them from undrestanding what love really is I dont claim to know for sure I'm 17 and well I've gone into so many relationships where I thought it was more serious than it was, but if people dont go through these things and get the advice from others they really have no way to take in other thoughts and the way others see it, it more a way for many young people to express what they are feeling and understand more. I mean yes they have the people around them to ask and no matter what people say they still have to think about what they are going to actually do and people learn through experience. yes they dont understand but really its only helping them to understand more by talking to other people and getting there knowledge because alot of people go through the same things or close to. Yes I may be 17 and I'm still working through all the same things, and there are some situations were just reading through someone elses problem helps me understand some things. no one ever knows everything about a relation ship so for some one to limit what is real and not just doesn't seem right. as I said sometimes I find myself laughing at the things but truth be told alot of the time I'm laughing people that are older and making the same mistakes as the people who are just starting to get into relationships. so really it doesn't matter the age to me i feel its ok to wright because you think about it while your just wrighting. and getting input can really help even if it can hurt its still a good way to learn.

i agree with some of these people. it does matter how mature you are, and age is just a number. I'm one of those girls that is 13 and talks about love. I've made mistakes, thought i was in love. I still believe that i'm in love with this guy. We've known each other so well for 3 years. But we decided not to go out until i was 16. So in between time we date who we want to. And i know he doesn't love me. But thats okay, cuz i still love him and want to be there for him in any way possible. I'm sorry if you can tell i have that pre-teen edge on me, but everyone has to learn someway. It's nice to see that in a way you try and prevent us from getting in over our heads about "love", but we need to make these mistakes so we'll be prepared for anything that comes at us. No one REALLY knows what love means, we all have different interpretations on it. There is different kinds of "love" also. Anyone can have mis-haps. And anyone can get emotionally mixed up. That's my opinion.

I also agree to a limit. There are...as you say exceptions.

Grace---please calm down and don't make sudden assumptions about teenagers not allowed to love.

Yes, Love is a word misused...Anybody, whether a 13 year old or a 50 year old person, can never fully understand what love. Love is so closely tied to many other stuff such as lust, like, curiosity, etc.

If your so tired of seeing "O I'm in love" DONT COME INTO THIS FORUM!!! Easy solution to a very simple problem

I agree with you on a few things:
1. That the word love is used and abused.
2. That many posts are immature. And
3. That you shouldn't have to post a topic on here for random internet strangers to "help decide your life for you". However, just because you do post something, it doesn't mean that you are not in love with this person. In some and most cases it does, but not always.

But I disagree with the part where you said that 13, 14, 15, and 16 are too young to fall in love. To me, yes it is young but it still happens and it's not always just 'hormones'. I am 16, and even though a lot of my friends are dating and falling in love, that I wouldn't be able to for a while because personally for me I am too young. I agree that some of it is and a lot of teenagers at that age, and even higher, don't really know the meaning of love. But there are the occasional people who do fall in love and know it when they do.

I'm not trying to bash you or anything, I was saying what I thought and felt. Kudos to you for being brave enough to post this topic. Many people would be afraid to embrace it =)

Just so you know. I found my soulmate at 13, but I'm not in love yet, because the only thing I know about him is his name and age and that he lives o nthe other side of the country. And I agree with what people are about how they will look back and know that what they were feeling really wasn't love. I've experienced that in so many other things that I'm always the kind of person to think about the future and think to myself "What about in 5 years, will I think this way? Will I regret it?" sort of thing. I wouldn't really consider dating now, not because I'm not ready or I couldn't handle it, it's just that I don't want to handle it, even though sometimes I do wish I had a boyfriend. I'm going to wait for another time, not that there is anything wrong with dating or falling in love at this age, but thats just my opinion.

proud to say ive never been in love
i want to keep my innocence
and my youth.

if you find it, thats amazing, congrats to you.
but im young and not looking for love.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't love, generally, a feeling?

It isn't about your age.
It isn't how mature you are.
If you love someone, you love someone.
Simple as.
And as for everyone saying that love needs maturity and hard work.
THAT'S THE RELATIONSHIP.
Stop acting as if your "wisdom" and "arrogance" can tell everyone's emotions and feelings.
K?K.
And being "in love" is just the same.
It can happen, it's not impossible.

im 15.. and i can honestly say that i love my boyfriend, i have been with him for just under a year. I also appreshate waht you say. however i do feel that its not true (just my opinion)... i mean.. how can someone be too young to love.. when you love your family from the day your born.. there is no age limit to love.. just making love.

Very nicely put! ^

You know Hayley, I've posted a thread like this last year. I've gotten a lot of topics too.

I think what I was actually thinking was that...

1. THERE IS NO AGE LIMIT FOR LOVE, IT'S....AS SOMEONE SAID BEFORE, S--X AND THE WHOLE TOUCHY THING THAT COULD HAVE A LIMIT.

I think you can fall in love at any age, but it's the older ones who have a stronger sense of what love is and it's mroe special. It means more to them and they can handle it with more maturity.