Depression Hurts

If you are depress about something, its not only hurting you its also hurting the ones that care and love you. Especailly when you don't tell it to anyone. And try to hide it. But someone will see it through you that you are hurting and in pain.

I know everyone goes through a lot of hardship in this unfair life or world. No one said that life was going to be fair. So sometimes you just gottah live through it and deal with it. Let go of the pain and you should feel better. And stop carrying the burden. It could only make it worse. I hope this helps for whomever is going through a major crisis or depression.

Ok lets get something straight here. People who suffer from real depression can't help it. It's not something that they can just "let go of". In some cases, depression never goes away.

Are you sure you wern't refering to self harm in the first paragraph? If you were then everything you said would be true. Self harm not only hurts the person whos doing it, but when other people find out it hurts them too. It's also difficult to hide. There's only so many excuses you can use to cover it up. And yes, people will eventually see through you and find out. But. Depression and self harm are completely different things so I'm confused by your post =\

i have to agree with the post above mine. u really cant help it if u have depression. if u have been diagnosed with it then u really cant just get over it in a day or so.

self harm hurts everyone around you. i found that out. yeah i cut and no one noticed at first but then when my friends did they freaked out. it was awful. but then i am right now hiding my depression. everyone thinks im better and everything is ok. but htey dont know that i still cut and everything and im ok with them not knowing.
sooner or later people will realize the hurt and pain that someone is going thru. especially if they do some kind of self harm. depression and self harm are 2 different things.. cuz some ppl jus do self harm because other ppl do but some do it cuz it is wut htey know of doing and it helps release the pain they feel inside and puts the pain on their arm or wherever.

Well. i have to agree with the previous two posts. Self harm and depression are two completely different things. Self-harm can be result from depression and depression can result from self harm.

I've hid my self-harm issues all of my life. Some times its just easier that way. But also harder. My parents know that something is wrong but don't know what it is. My brother knows that I used to cut, but doesnt know that I still do. I find it easier to cope when no one knows because then I don't have to explain. But hiding your pain is hard. Very hard. But sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. Different people cope with problems in different ways. I don't think that anyone can really hide it forever but at least they are trying. The reason I hide away my self harm issues and problems is because I don't want to hurt the people around me and I don't want to cause my family and friends harm. My best friend knows about everything and she understands because she knows what I am going through. If I told my parents they wouldn't understand because they have never had to face anything like this. so hmm...it basically always depends on the particular person and their problems.

I also agree, because it is true that when you have depression it isn't something that a person can just snap their fingers and say "good-bye depression!" It doesn't work that way. I was diagnosed with it when I was 7, and I try my hardest to get over stuff, but everything keeps happening, I have a fcuked up head with a fcuked up life. And yes, self harm does hurt everyone.

-Jenna.

I also agree on the fact that depression isn't something you can just "let go of" or "get over". It is an illness, such as cancer, that there is no true cure for... I've learned that during my 20 years of life.

The pain is incessant, when you are clinically depressed. Or have ANY type of real depression. It's not something you can stop...

As for the self-harm, yes, I do agree that it hurts all friends and family.. But some people can't stop themselves... It's like a state of mind, that you are set on doing something, and you will stop at nothing, no matter the cost...

Sometimes, nothing helps... No matter how badly the person wants it...

~BJ~

Depression is definitely NOT something that You can just 'snap out of,' I missed out on the biggest part of my youngest daughter's life due to depression.. I was in and out of hospital from the time she was eight months old, I spent more time in hospital than out of it for those years and would have done anything to be at home with her and my other 2 children.. I would have done anything to be able to stop thinking suicidal thoughts and to stop myself crying and hurting.. My kids are my life and I wasn't there for them.. Even now they live with their dad because he got custody of them when we split up due to my mental health issues and my unstable depression and anxiety state at that time.. although I am a lot better now and have them weekends and all school holidays, I am still missing out.. I missed my daughter's first steps, learning to talk, and her first day at play group, nursery and school.. The kids couldn't even 'snap me out' of depression and I love them more than anything else.. The word depression is used way too lightly nowadays.. I still have days when I get down and I know there are things I can do to make myself feel better.. There's a huge difference from being depressed and going through a bad patch.. Depression takes over Your whole life, and tends to destroy all the good things around You that should be able to keep You on top of things.. Depression is a lot deeper than what some people think.. It isn't feeling sorry for Yourself.. The feeling You get inside when You are depressed physically is unbearable.. that's not the just the mind working and something You can fix overnight.. Sorry for the long post.. but I have very strong thoughts on depression because it controlled my life for so long, it isn't even the feeling when You split up with a partner of ten years.. it is much, much deeper

wow that really was a long post eh? seriously though I lost so much due to depression and would have done anything to make it go away so that I could be there for my kids.. You don't control depression, depression controls You, and it isn't until it starts to subside that You can have any control of it or Yourself, it is such a helpless feeling because You know what You want, and You know there are things You should be doing to help Yourself, but You just can't do it

If I were depressed, I don't think that this would have helped me, lol. Actually, I think I would want to go off myself after reading that. :-P

Just kidding, I swear! It was very nice of you to write, though. :-)

yeah sorry.. was just trying to show what it can really be like, and it has nothing to do with 'not wanting to' get better.. things are loads better now tho.. which is why I can say 'things DO get better.' Just keep fighting the best way You can and there WILL be a turning point.

I wasn't referring to you, Donna (if you thought I was). That was meant for the person who posted the discussion. Your story seemed very helpful. :-)

oops lol.. thanks :]