self-cosnious

i know girls are usually more self consious that guys cause if bos feel over wight they can wear baggy tee shirts but girls usually have an expectation to be thin, perfect skin,beautiful hair and to be petite and thats a pretty hard thing to reach to.... who feels they just cant compete this all the barbie dolls out there?

me totally!! thankfully my body shape isnt too bad but men usually go for the thin almost anorexic blonde girls with beautiful flawless skin....some men however dont go for girls with looks but go for girls with a good personality but i suppose they would look upon looks and body as being a bonus.
girls are more self conscious because we are more emotional then men and we want to be better looking than other girls so we get attention and things like that

but some men are self consious big time like girls like big strong guys with a 6-pac and big muscly arms now for a fat flaby bloke hes not gonna get far on looks so we all have to rely on our personality to recomend us not just our looks.

so just remember looks dont matter its your personality that counts.

sarah

wow. you know where im coming from. i have such bad self esteem. i used to make my self throw up and then i tried starving myself. and its just not worth it. i spoke to my school counsellor and that took so much. i was constantly upset. and i wanted to be a happy person. at the moment. i dont starve myself anymore. however i am a health freak. i believe that its better then harming myself.
i work out a bit too much. i know. but its like an addiction. its my rehab. and i hope no one else goes through what i did.
when talking to my friends they dont understand where i come from. but i know they are just trying to help me. i get guys..but not as many as other girls i know. but recently ive noticed a change in more guys going after personality then looks. so hopefully it will be incentive to pull me out of this.

i jsut hope no one suffers like i did. especially not alone
if anyone needs to talk, you know where to find me

My grandfather once told me something that made me feel really good about myself. He said that he could never really stand a skinny woman, because they always looked they had somethign wrong with them. Lol. he never said it to be mean, though.
Back years ago a woman who had curves and were considered' soft' were what the men desired. It makes them seem more real. I think our society needs to get away from that Barbie mentality - thin and plastic. It compromises who we really are. Some of us are born naturally thin and stay that way for the majority of our lives because of our genes, and there's nothing wrong with that because it's natural. But when someone tries to make themselves someone they are not, it takes away all of their genuine attractiveness.

My Nan always tells me when I tell her I'm going to lose weight: "Sarah, just don't get skinny. Get to a normal weight for you and just be healthy, because that's how you'll enjoy your life." I completely agree with her.

I pray for everyone who has a problem with their weight. Whether they're too skinny or too fat, I know hwo they feel, and it's not the best feeling.

yeah your gandparants do have a good point and that actually made me feel better lol