virginity

does anyone here regret loosing their special possesion??

or are you pretty happy how it all went?

i regret losing mine because i was used lol but now when i look back now i have that special someone i realise it doesnt matter when or where you lost it or who with because no matter what the circumstances you will find someone who will respect you whether you are or arnt a virgin

sarah

okay about virginity. im terrified to lose it because im so self conscious, but i know that its creeping closer and closer. i think im ready emotionally, just not physically.
oh i dont knoww lol

If you're not ready, then don't do it. It's better to regret NOT doing it(if possible) than to regret doing it. If you have to question it, then you're definately not ready. I'm self-conscious, too, that's why I'm waiting. When I'm married, I know my husband will love me for who I am and not just for my body(because there's got to be that sexual attraction, too, or it's just not going to work). But when I'm with him on our wedding night, I know i wno't be embarrassed. It'll be a new experience that we can both work through together and not regret because we waited for that special time.

On your wedding night, would you like to climb into bed wondering if the one you possibly might spend the rest of your life with is like the others guys you've been sexually active with? That could kill a great romance and make a lot of people disappointed. I'm not trying to 'condemn' you who have had sex, thats just my opinion and why I'm choosing abstinence.

Hmmm.
Regret: Yes.
Ever Want to do it again: Nope.

I was way to young when I lost mine. Try 14.. It was the biggest mistake of my whole entire life. I wish I had never done it, and I wish I could take everything that has happend since then, and throw it away and start over. But I know I can't. It's hard to know I can't. It's hard to wake every morning and go day to day, knowing the things that have happend to me to make me terrfied of anymore sexual contact. Anyway.

i dont know what im thinking. lol im clearly not ready.
anywhoo, i respect your decision for abstinence.
however in my own oppinion i think that this whole sex thing is blown up. to me it is a big deal, but everyone makes it huuuuuuuuge and like a competition, its ridiculous.

Sex is a big deal, but i know where you're coming from on the "competition" part. I don't think osmething so special and personal should be a competition. It should be special and personal ;) lol

i agree. mi mum always tld me no sex before marrige but i think it shouldnt be that way i think it should be if your in a good relationship and its guna go somwhere and you love each otehr cause you could be married and not even like each other so mm yer ( if u get that) lol x

I am 17, and still a virgin.

I don't necessarily belive in waiting until marriage, and I probably won't. However, at the moment I am way too self-conscious about my own body, and it takes a long time for me to be comfortable with someone. Until I find someone who I can trust, and am comfortable enough to let them get close, then I am going to stay a virgin.

I definately regret it... ='(

im still a virgin and darn proud! im waiting til marriage,not because of religion either. i decided to wait when i was 9. ive stuck with it although its VERY hard at times

I'm 17 and a virgin too. It doesn't really bother me because I know when I'm with the right person and I feel secure that's when I'll give it up.
But the right person hasn't come yet, or they have and I messed it up, so I'm just gonna wait.
When I was younger it really got to me. But now I feel so young anyway.....

I'm still a virign, plan on staying one, and respect every other teen who's a virgin. No guy has ever tried to pressure me into having sex. They couldn't get me to give up my virginity if they tried.

17 & a virgin too. I'm only a virgin still, not becuase of religion but becuase I live in fear. I'm afraid that if I have sex, I'll get an STD or get pregnant even with a condom. And I figure that if I get married but accidently get pregnant it would be better becuase I'll be with someone who I love and loves me back.

17 and still a virgin, waiting for my lover is all...

2 cents, that’s all this is. But I've learned after I lost mine and having a few given me that gift. Is that the first is always lost, and the only thing that make sense is whenever you decide is it should be with some you trust and safe. Because, it is a gift and should not be given away to make someone love you or to fulfill your own emptiness. On that I will say the ones that I was first, I don't know anymore. And the one that took mine was older and pushed me to do it, and I don't know anymore. So I guess, all I can say is respect your self and it will be ok.

It's not sex that I'm after, that is really a non issue. It's all about finding the one girl for me. Who she is, where she is, I don't know, but I know she's there.

Who cares about sex if there's no love involved?

^ Good point. But I think that sex is part of marriage. If I was married, I'd hate not to have sex lol. But I get where you're coming from.

Right now, I couldn't care less about sex at all, but i think when you're married it's a different matter, even though that's not what it's all about, it is important in a marriage.

I agree with Rheingold 100%

If you can't find or feel love, then what is the point, I am the same as Rheingold I don't care about sex, I am looking for that one girl that love me for who I am, and not the sex.

I don't regret losing my virginity. It was just recently and it wasn't with someone that i love but it just happened. I do wish that it was with a boyfriend i loved and if i knew i would have one sometime soon i would have waited. But i'm not lucky like that and i knew i wouldn't regret it so i did it. I'm sure it will mean much more to me when i actually love the person anyway. Sex is not everything to me and it never will be, i would much rather a relationship without sex until marriage then just plain sex. But i did it and i don't regret it and i wouldn't take it back. But as for answering the question, no i don't regret it.

You mean you got raped?

okay i was 25 when i lost mine its more worth the wait .... in my opionin...

i was 14 when i lost mine, i regret it now buht at the time i thought it was the right thing...i thought i loved him buht he dumped me two days after i lost my virginty to him. he got a hiding for it too so it was kinda funny in the end!!!!

Spanky in your profile it says you are 24...

^ that is a very sad truth

i dont regret mine..was sooooo scared, but when i realised all my friends had lost thers and i was left behind i felt even more scared and self concious..every guy i went out with couldnt make me feel at ease either..but then i met the perfect guy,he waited over a year for me!! when i finally lost my virginity to him it felt great,cant remember much as its a blur-didnt really know it was happening until it was over and i was like "wow-i just had sex".. we arnt together now but i dont regret it..dont think i ever will.he gave me the feeling of being wanted and made me feel safe, thats what i wanted at the time! think that was about 4months ago..now im with a guy who is just as great..

october xx

I regret it becuz it was with someone i didnt care for much as my bf now that i love to death and yea i have only done it once but i know that when me and him do that itll be better then the first ~Shandra

Im glad I still have mine. Lots of girls think they have to "get rid of it". But I won't fall into the pressure, cause its not worth it.

fixing to be 25 my bad sorry guys i lost it when i was 24 SORRY

"Im glad I still have mine. Lots of girls think they have to "get rid of it". But I won't fall into the pressure, cause its not worth it."

^ That is a very good statement. Virginity to me is like a special gift that you give to that special someone who won't take it for granted or hurt you after. It's like, I feel good now because I'm a virgin and not many people are, so it kind of sets me apart? Know what I mean? Sounds confusing lol but yeah..

^for most of the comments, it just proves my point.

When you're a teenager supposedly in love (or really), stick to holding hands please, wait till marriage. Too many people think sex is the most important thing and they have to give something back to the guy..NO you don't.

I have friends that are confused and regretful about things they've done. People DON"T listen unless they learn it the hard way.

As for me, I'm a virgin YEAH! and single WHY? Because I WANT to be and because I HAVE more important stuff such as grades, education and my FUTURE.

^ couldn't have said it better myself

I do regret it and I don't. It was with a friend not someone I loved. I really don't even know how it happened. I do wish I would have waited until I found the guy I'm with now but what can I say people make mistakes. Just my opinion.

i dont i am only 15 and it was the best thing to the best boy i know

I'm still a virgin.
I'm been pressured into sex, sweet talked to having it... broken up because of it, but I'm still a virgin, and not till married, but until I'm ready and with someone I love.

Angelina I don't think that Noni meant that teenagers shouldn't have relationships, but that many think that just because you are in a relationship and 'in love' that you have to have sex with them, but you don't. And a lot of teenagers don't know the meaning of love, or the importance of it until they are older, and more mature to handle it. Not all teenagers think like that, but some do, so I think that's what she meant. Well, that's what I got from it anyways =]

virginity is a priceless gift with no return-policy. you have to give it to the person who means the most to you, and dont let it slip away, because once its gone, its the worst feeling in the world when you want it back.

i lost mine a long time ago, and yeah, i regret it, which is why i refused to take that gift from danny. i got dumped for it too, but now i know thatdan didnt love me for who i was, just what i could have given him. well, he didnt say thats why we broke up, but i think it is. he just recently lost his to his new g/f, they werent even dating when it happened. it made me so sad to see him throw it away to someone who meant nothing to him. i just wish he'd lost it to someone who loved him as much as i did... someone he really loved, someone like me... anyways...

i dont really believe in waiting until marraige, but i applaud those of you who stay true to your beleifs and do wait. i just think that, if you love them, and absolutely KNOW they love you, go for it, but be safe as well.

and as for the self-confidence factor, i was SOO self-concious my first time. i didnt, and still dont, love my body, and that made the whole thing kind of akward at first. i guess you have to learn to love yourself first before you love someone else in that way. idk.

^-^ thank you lovelybones and Angelina.

And yeah, what lovelybones said about my post is true. I wouldn't mind have someone special, just at my age, I have other priorities (Sp).

I really think people have to be careful and responsible cause like my best friend who i think of as my sister lost hers when she was 8 years. I havnt lost mine an di am pretty young but i have thought about it because my sex drive has kicked in and im lets say younger then 15 cause i actually am but i wouldnt lose my virginity to anyone id have to know him really well and have to trust him. I personally wouldnt lose it to a jock because most of them just care about having sex.so thats my opinion!

love Courtsey

once upon a time there was a man and a girl. the girl was 15 and she was in love with the man. who was 20. the man was best friends with the girl's brother, which made things a little rough, since the girl's brother didn't trust the man. the man sacrificed the friendship of his best friend to get the girl. they were high school sweet hearts. years later, they had a little girl, and then 7 years later they got married. thats when the girl realised she'd be with the man forever. she'd lost her virginaty to one man. only slept with one man her entire life. today the girl is 45, and the man is 50. they are my parents. and i hope i have a love story just like theirs. I am a VIRGIN.