my jealousy is putting our relationship at risk!

i oftne get jealous of every other girl my bf knows or talks to and i often get really nasty when talking to him about it....i dont know why i often tell people how to overcome these types of problems but it seems i cant do it for myself...

if anyone has any advice for me i would be very very very grateful!

i get jealous over every little thing like even when his girl mates put missin you lots at the end of messages....i hate being this jealous of him! and i know he hates it too although sometimes he says its cute that i care so much!

okay sweety im a jealous girl too. when i broke up with my bf i was mad that he moved on. i figured i was the only one allowed to lol. its dreadful i know.

just try to relax, if he tells you he cares about you, you still spend time together and you have a good time, then you know that he isnt going anywhere.

the only thing i can really say is, think about it....you can either make him want to stay, or drive him away, and right now..hes two steps away from the door.

good luck sweety. let me know how it goes.

thanks for your advice i really appreciate it and i will let you know how it goes!! thanks again and ill try harder to control my jealousy

lol yeah but at least you realise it. and are trying to stop it, hel respect that.

I think it normal to be jealous a little bit. After all, he is your boyfriend! Maybe you should talk to him to find out ifthere is any reason why you should be this jealous. Just my thoughts though :0

Hang in there!

thanks again...one problem though he avoids talking about our relationship because ive tried and he assures me theres nothing to be jealous about but you always have tha inkling in the back of your mind that he longs to be with someone different lol stupid i know but i cant help it....but thankyou!!!!

Okay, I'm in a similar situation, except my boyfriend is the jealous one and I'm not.

It is understandable to be a little jealous, I can definitely understand it. It's okay to let him know you are jealous, but if he assures you that you have nothing to worry about than try not to make a big deal about it.

And please, please don't get mad at him for hanging out with or talking to other girls. Trust me, that causes big problems, if you stat accusing him he will get offended.

Good luck.

try to be friend some of his girl friends.

In some ways, I personally take jealousy as a good thing, of course as long as it does not cross the line. You just need to learn how to control your jealousy...Is he doing something intentionally to make you jealous? Are those girls, his friends, too touchy with him? If no to these questions, then it's just you lol Which I don't think there is much wrong with jealousy, it can be cute, but you need to know how to control it...Jealousy can lead to fights between you two, it can start annoying him, it can simply drive him away. Hope it helped...

Hmm, I read in the October issue of cosmo (lol) that a guy sometimes perposely talks about girls because they like the reaction of their gf getting mad, it shows them that she really cares and wants him to themselves, it says that if you dont react jelously, eventhough it may be hard, it wont give him a reason to keep doing it.

Kayla*.

I am the exact way. I never use to be until my boyfriend constantly hurt me. (Mentally)
It has been about a year sense the last thing he ever did to lose my trust in him, but I am still very jeolous and suspectful. He understands why though, because of our past. The only thing I know that can be done with us is time. I guess it should pass in time. I hope anyways.

Build Trust and enveloped it the relationship.

omg you all i am going through a really similair ideal right now my ex is going out with one of my friends and i get so jealous of them
there is more to that story if you want to read it is posted on love and romance under
love just in general
but anyway back to you girl
okay one try to trust him well i guess you probably do but anyway just remember he loves you and no one else he is spending his time with you not those other girls
i don't know what else to say that is all i can tell you

you kno sarah, being jealous IS a cute thing. there was this girl i knew who is ALWAYS jealous of girls who talks to his bf. her bf said, it's really kool that she thinks and cares about him a lot. but A LOT was too much, and he dumped her cuz of that. so my advice is, try to lessen up the jealous thing and trust him that he'll never cheat on you. her bf didn't cheat, but he was mad she didn't trust him. so, just let him be free and you too. trust him. that's the thing that holds your relationship.

good luck! take care!