Marriage

please someone tell me what to do.. i have married for one month and it doesnt feel tright everything is different. but i dont want to end it but i lve him what do i do? i need help

well from a 16 yearolds point of view (you remember being 16 right) ... uhhh.... well how does it not feel right i mean some details would be nice you're pretty general i mean i could come on here and say "i'm having problems with my g/f help!"... but besides that point i would try talking to him i mean he married you he obviously cares about you to some extent, try to work it out

I think that that is a major misconception that a lot of couples feel when they first make the leap into marriage - a different life. Talk to your husband about it in a calm and loving way but don't let anyone walk out of the room.. that could only cause mroe stresses. Also try talking to a marriage counselor if it doesn't work out. Don't be one of those couples who only have a relationship for a month.. it's probubly just one of those feelings, but marriage is no joke and it is meant to be taken seriously (I'm not saying you don't know that, but ya know). Don't give up. Definately see someone about this and just be there for each other through it.

Every marriage goes through "a tough/dry spell". You'll both come out stronger - together.

I'll be praying for you day and night, and even though I'm not married, if you want to talk to anybody you can talk to me. I can understand basically anything.. it's one of my giftings :)

God Bless,
Sarah-Joy

Well it was a a life decision you chose to make. You should have known that going into marriage would change some things. Marriage is something you need to be commtied to. It really takes a lot of effort to make it work. You need to talk to him, and telll him what your feeling. In order to have a successful marriage, and be happy, you need to work through things together. Everyone gets nervous within their first year of marriage. It's pretty norml to get those strange feelings. Good luck.

My opinion probably doesn't mean much because I'm only 15, but I think that you should hang in their a little longer. After one month...I don't know...seems like too short of a time to skip to divorce. I would wait, and see if anything changes, but definately don't stay with him for a long time if it doesn't feel right to you. If it doesn't feel right in an abusive sort of way, that's different. Get out of the marriage a.s.a.p. Maybe, if you feel comfortable with the idea, share how you're feeling with him and ask what he thinks about it...

Good luck with whatever decision you make!

The first year of marriage, is different from just being bf/gf.. things change with the 'marriage' word [however I don't know why].. not only is it the honeymoon period, but if people are to split up after marriage it is normally within the first year.. try and stick with it for a while things will eventually settle down.. if not then it wasn't meant to be.. Good luck and hope everything turns out good for you xx

Yeah the first year is odd. I was with the same girl sense we where 17 and 16 and got married after 10 years of living together and that first day it was different. It’s true if you stay with it you will find it’s a beautiful and wonderful thing. It’s just really odd at first. Just remember when things get hard take a deep breath and you will be ok. Good luck my heart is with you.

thanks to all of yall and it really helps to know that there are people out htere who care