Trust Issue

I started seeing someone and i am so happy. I like him so much and he realy likes me. The problem is hes been really hurt in the past and hes finding it hard to put trust into me. I understand it takes time to build trust but i am hurt by his suspisions about alot of things i say. Ive been hurt in the past to and i am able to trust him..how long must i wait for him to believe what i tell him

I've had this problem and quite honestly, you should question whether or not his insecurities are true or he's just using them to be overly controlling.

If he gets upset because of you talking to your friends, or even just guy friends, just get out. It's only going to get worse and soon you'll find yourself with no one but him, and what if one day he chooses to just walk away? All of your friends you left just might not take you back.

But if he tries his best to be understanding of your guy friend or friends in general then maybe he really is just scared.

I dont mean that kind of trust. I mean like ill tell him something and he suspiciois about it. And my friend who is good friends with me told me his ex gf really hurt him

Gurll ive been through the same thing
you cant exect him to just trust you when he's been hurt...he gave his heart up before and instead of him doing it again and getting hurt hes going to react like that to alot of things...you could try to let him trust you but to be honest i tried to let this boy see that i wouldnt hurt him and he always had his guard up and i couldnt be with him because he just wouldnt trust me..
you could try and let him gain your trust but there are no guarantees...

I would give it more time. I'm sure he feels bad about not being able to trust you completely, but trust is a hard thing to force. If he could, I'm sure he would decide to trust you. I do understand how you're feeling though; It must be really hard.

I did read part of KAY's response, and she has a good point about the controlling thing...Watch out for that---

Good Luck!

im someone in his position, my last bf had a bit of a bad rep, and i have built up a wall, so i was finding it so difficult to trust him, the whole time we were together, i didnt trust him at all, and in the end that led to our break up, i dont regret the relationship, and i try to trust guys but its too hard after too many sleepless nights.

im sure that he knows he should trust you, but subconsciously hell find a reason to block you out, just show how there is nothing for him to worry about, make sure hes aware that you are a willing to wait around for that trust to build

good luck hun

ok it's totally natural to not trust somebody cuz no matter what there will always some suspicion. If he is getting jealous with u hanging out with other guys or even girls then you need to have a serious talk with him and show him that you aren't like the others that have hurt him in the past. He needs to know that if all he is going to be is suspicious then it's not gonna work out. But the first part should work. Be gentle with him. I he's been hurt he's gonna be a liitle suspicious about you and others it's most likely not just you but try that out and just see how it works out.