too young?

I don't think 20 is too bad, even though it is still young for me. At those ages you are still finding yourself. I'm not saying it's wrong to get married at those ages because it's definately not and everyone is different, but personally, it's way too young.

if you read one of my poems 'not too young' you can see that despite what anyone thinks it's your choice.. (only you can know whether the love you and your parner share is genuine)... on the other hand though i have to agree, you may love someone with all your heart, but at these ages you are still naive in mind. i think a commitment is too much pressure to put on your self, expecially at these ages..

I think that young marriages are fine, but I do think that waiting is a better way to go. Plus, why rush it? If you are with a person you're sure you will end up marrying, why would a few more years hurt? I know that this isn't true for all young marriages, but if you get married young then divorce is more likely going to happen; people change---

I think, i know im only 15 but i have an opinion i think you should live your dreams before devoting your self to someone, like me for example im going to go to college n become a dentist before i get married. ~Shandra

I think it would be a mistake to marry so young. Love can be found, but i don't think you should education should come first. After high school, or college (preferably) i would say is good. Marriage is not as easy as people think. Just because you love someone, doesn't mean it won't take a lot of commitment, and effort to keep your marriage together.

its not a bad thing when ur really in love with someone....im 18 and i was engaged to marry my boyfriend.

I haven't seen good results from people that married before they were... um, twenty five or something. My mum married when she was about seventeen, and it lasted two or three years, then she divorced him, later she met my dad, and they have been married for 20-something years.
I have also seen couples that got married very young, and although they have not divorced they struggle a lot. Probably because someone of them married simply because the woman was pregnant :-(

//T.L.//

im almost 17, nd the prosepct of getting married at this age seems sureal, i think im far too naive and vulnerable at the moment, i have no idea who i am or what i want. so unless you've found that out at an early age, i think its better to discover yourself then let someone else discover you first.

I think u should marry when ever you are ready I have nothing against young married couples. It was their choice and they didn't want to wait for 3 or 4 years just to extend their love.

I wouldn't say extremely bad. But in some cases, you ruin your future.

I say finish college, have a stable job and get rid of the money problems...then seek for someone

i totaly agree with that. but if you wait for a long time that will dread you for awhile. i mean when i was with my boyfiend (now ex) i thought about names and marrage. but it seems to early to be thinking about it. i'm 18 so i have a couple years left.

I wanna marry my man and i'm 17 lol but we waitin till the right time, dont be dumb and get married like that. 21-27 are good ages to me.

I don't think age really matters, but then again, most people don't even know what they want until they grow through lifes' experiences and learn. If you're true to yourself and you're truly happy and completely feel as though your "soul mate" feels the same way, then in this case, I feel age isn't important. But most "young" people have such a misconception of love. If you have honesty, respect, and loyality, then I think that can grow into something stable and realistic....It's not about the age, it's about what you know, how you feel, and what you know is right....

The above said it well^^ I think that as long as you love the person and you feel that it is right. My boyfriend and I have been thinking about getting engaged but we don't plan on getting married for a few years. It's really down to your own opinion and how your partner feels about it.

i think anyone should be able to get married as long as they are positively positive that they are in love and will be forever.

I think that anyone under the age of 20 is too young to marry because most people still don't know who they are at that time. But it is different for every person I suppose. For me, I wouldn't be ready to marry until at least I am 25 and older...I'll know who I am by then and what I want for sure. But if I find the perfect mate before hand ....I'm not sure I should let go of something that valuable, so marriage might be an option.
xoxo Mercedes

i dont think its dumb to get married at such a young age..i jus dont think you wanna marry ya FIRST boyfreind/girlfriend cuz you really havent had much experience wit ppl ya feel me...but i think that if anyone has had enough boyfriends/girlfreind and they KNOW this person is ryt...then hell yea go for it...jus dont confuse LOVE wit LUST

if you fall into marriage to young, then you will be moving the life cycle faster, i.e. marriage and then children. do you want children a couple years down the line from turning 17,18,19,20? if not, then let life's course run. don't rush things. soon you'll be an old lady thinking i wish i would have travelled the world..