Long Distance

I know we've all heard the stories of long distance relationships just not working out & that there is too much pressure put on the couple as they feel overwhelmed to try their best at keeping contact.

But there are those rare occasions where a long distance relationship works out, in fact, the couple realize their love for one another is even greater than before and they end up getting married..

Anyways, my point is, not whether a long distance relationship will work...but yet

*How do you make it work & how do u keep hope that they're being faithful?*

Kayla*.

I’ve learned that there are two factors that play in to a long distance relationship and these hold true for both parties. The first is of course the trust, if you trust your self to be good when the other is away then that’s half way there. That trust also has to trust the other, if you can’t trust the other or vise versa then it won’t work, because that separation will tear the relationship apart. The one that everyone forgets is communication a relationship is about growth, and if two people aren’t growing together they are growing apart, that goes for relationships in general but is really important in long distance. That is what I have learned, I had two long distance relationship and one failed because we grew apart and the other because I stop trusting her. Hope this helps someone.

There's this girl I am very interested in right now. I'll tell you, I've never had a girl show more interest in me. She is actually the inspiration for my "Why Aren't You Mine?" poem. But, I've spent a good many night talking to her. And she tells me we have a "Special Bond", and got upset when I only claimed it was a "little bond", jokingly.

SO I've been talking with her a lot for the past month, and have known her for almost 6. I know she has a long distance relationship she's involved in. Yet, in the half year I've known her, she has never mentioned it. But, I know it is there through other friends of hers.

It's obvious this girl likes me, and I really like her. But I don't want to ask her out because of this 'LDR".

So I don't really think they're a good idea :(.

It aint easy you and that person gotta work through it for it to work out and for it to last.
Communication, trust, care, compromise, etc...
is all important no doubt it's what helps you build
your relationship. You gotta give respect and be loyal and sooo much more to work out a well
lasting relationship. But yea lol

Wow, thanks all of your for your input. Him and I broke up recently due to an argument about him moving away, it was so stupid & I know we're going to be back together in no time. But the reality of the situation is finally coming to me & I'm scared to death. I trust myself, I know I can and will stay loyal and faithful, and in my heart I know he wouldn't do anything to hurt me, but knowing it could be so much easier for him to hide something from me since he'd be in another state is so scary.

And to top it off, he knows a girl that lives just a few towns away from where he'll be living & I know they still talk. I know she's interested and I pray to God that he means it when he says he's not. She even asked him to 'hangout' with her recently and he says that he didn't go...in our last discusion I told him I wasn't comfortable with them talking so often and I asked him how would I know if they hangout and something happens...and he told me that I just need to trust him. I want to be able to trust him so bad...

It's like I'm putting my heart in his hands and praying that he won't drop it, giving someone that chance scares me to death.

Kayla*.

WoW...a lot of thoughts and opinion on this topic. =) well I think all it takes is having TRUST, LOVE, HOPE, FAITH, and most importantly EFFORT into the relationship.

Well yeah it does work out for the best at the end, but then the down fall it doesn't for everybody. I think it depends on you having a long distance realtionship with someone.

There is absoultly nothing wrong with long distance realation ships im in one now. if both people are didicated then its good it just makes the love stronger is what i believe ~Shandra

yup it's hard

I'm in one right now as well, they are very hard to keep going. But, i guess if you love the person enough to keep a long distance relationship going, than you have to also have some sort of trust in them. And if you trust them, then it will be easier. I hope everything works out okay for you, keep your head up. =)

-Te Amo.

IDk man. You need to wait. Let her see who she is interested in. If she seems more interested in her LDR then if you like her as much as you say you do then wait for her. Show her that you'll wait. Trust me I totally understand your position.

to Rheingold

I know exactly how you feel. I went out with this guy for 3 years and it was a LDR. It was cool. WE only split once and that was becuz we agreed that we should stop for just a little while and see what happens. We got back together after a month and our love was stronger than ever but girl if you have a LDR then you need to trust him. Your heart is glass right now and suppose he is cheating on you he's gonna drop right then and there and it'll shatter. But if you trust him and your heart is rubber. If he drops it, it'll bounce right back up and he'll catch it. Do yyou see what I'm saying? I hope you do. I have learned from exerience it helps to know what you feel and don't and how you imagine your heart.

to Kayla

Well...we're still separated at the moment...working things out. Tomorrow will probably determine if we get back together or not & he moves Saturday. This is devastating...we're going from seeing each other almost everyday to almost never.

Honestly I do trust him for the most part, because in my heart I feel like he would never intentionally hurt me or be unfaithful. And he hasn't given me any reason to think otherwise.

Kayla*.

Catherine, I really like this girl, and is one of the few I've met in my life I could actually picture myself with. She is the only girl people have actually told ME that 'you two would make a perfect couple". Hearing that made me so happy.

And I know she likes me just by how she acts around me. And the talks we have. And she obviously knows I feel the same way.

But she has a LDR?!?!?!?!

I KNEW there was a catch to finding a decent girl!