Is he too Old?

we all make some mistakes girl, but if he really likes you he'll understand ( me and my boyfriend had a really big fight and i thought we we're going to break up but we worked through it. its kinda the same thing with the age diffrence talk about it with him and u'll soon work it out its not as bad for me and my boyfriend, he's only 2 years older then me but its still a little fustrating sinmce i dont get to see him much during school. hope u work through it

and jackie, I'm sure your idea of fun is sex, because with your huge gap in age difference, there is nothing both of you would like.. anything you may suggest would be childish or immature. Unless your boyfriend is one of those guys.

darien...ur wrong again. we havent slept together yet, although we have been seeing each other for quite a while. maybe that is one area where my age shows, although i am not a virgin i am not ready to sleep with him yet, and he respects my wishes. We have a lot in common, and a lot of the same values. We have the same taste in music, both love the same sports, we came from the same types of families, and our everyday lifestyles are not very different from each others. I love being around him, he makes me very happy, and to me that is what matters most. I know i will not change your mind, because there is no way you can see this from my point of view, so i am done discussing this. As for the poster, i hope you make your decision by yourself, you should never let someone tell you who to love.

sarah.. I only have nice things to say, when people don't aggravate me..

and with that comment.. you are fueling my fire..
actually.. I also like arguing.. so I'll jump in to piss people off..

jackie..

think of it this way.. a student dating their teacher..
Let me rephrase that. A highschool student dating their teacher. That is indeed disturbing. That's the point of view I look at it from.. I don't see you side..

Angelina.. I'm not disappointed in you.. I just can't grasp the idea of a huge gap, at a young age. I mean, if you were in your twenties, and he was thirty, I'm sure I can understand that. Or even if you made it to 18..

i can understand where your coming from...but it doesnt change the way i feel. I have thought about everything you have said and if indeed you were trying to help...thanx.

Love is love, relationships are relationships...age is just a number! No matter what the age difference, there will always be relationships with problems...and relationships without problems. Unparallel maturity levels should be something to think about if you are considering dating someone older or younger than yourself. Also, consider this: The chances of someone older than yourself (this is especially for the females) taking advantage of you are reasonably high. So take your time with the new relationship, get to know eachother for a while, figure out if being in a relationship with this other person is in your best interest. Also, another thing to ponder...if your best friend was in the same situation...what HONEST advice would you give her/him? AND, one problem with dating someone older than you (older as in more than 7 or 8 years), is the aging factor. My mom and dad are 8 years apart, my mom recently turned 50 and my dad recently turned 58...honestly, although they are no longer a young couple...I think the age difference is definitely a factor for my mom. She still loves my dad with all that she is, but perhaps some of the physical attraction has faded. My dad is experiencing new "old people problems" (i.e. arthritis, teeth not as strong as the once were, etc)...while my mom has JUST tumbled over her life's midpoint. There are different stages in life that people of generally the same age group must enter. However, if you truly feel that all that crap doesn't matter, then go for it. Plus, who says your going to spend the rest of your life with this person anyway...you can figure that out later, for now just take your time and give it a chance if you feel like your heart wills it. I have plenty more to say, but my ideas are getting kind of jumbled together. Anyway, the person you should listen to the most intently is YOU. If someone thinks you are wrong, overlook their immature rudeness and try to find their strong points (if they have any). Although Darien is a bit of a close-minded bunghole (No offense Darien, I still like you and I honestly think you are intelligent), he does have some good points...but that doesn't mean he is right either. No one is right OR wrong in their opinions.

^^ that's true, I know you are..
but some of these people on here barely type English properly. I mean, they are more concerned about being in a relationship, rather than work hard at school. I just think that the world is flawed, and the youth are corrupted, and it seems like there is no future for them. Well, the people who are persistant will go very far. But it will be rare...

and yes jackie.. I was pointing out my arguement incase you had not thought of it.. It's just that.. I hear too many stories of older guys using younger girls as sex toys.. I know I come off very brutal when I argue.. but it's actually because I care..

I know somebody who is ten years older than I am but he is completely wonderful. We both love to write and he keeps motivating me to improve every time. I know he would never push me into anything and tells me that even though he does like me that I should not forget about the people around my own age.

Don't worry Angelina.. I know you'll be smart about it :)

To Daenyres,
Thank you for what you wrote. Maybe I should start listening to myself some more. It's weird but I don't feel lost, I know what I want...it's just the courage I need to find to be who I truly want to be...myself. Life will get easier once I put my foot in my mouth and make some kind of relationship out of my situation.
Peace and thanks a million for those of you who are still leaving comments. :D

Do what you feel is necessary.. relationships either work or don't work.. Good luck with yours :)

***I KNOW THE FEELING***
I WAS ONLY 18 AND MET A 26YEAR OLD GUY. HE WAS GREAT. I FELL IN LOVE. MY MOTHER FOUND OUT AND MADE ME LEAVE HIM. TO MAKE HER HAPPY I STAYED AWAY FROM HIM AND AVOIDED HIM IN EVERY WAY. HE WAS OLDER BUT I LOVED HIM. I HAVE NO REGRETS BUT I DO REGRET DROPPING HIM. HE MOVED TO ANOTHER STATE AND IT KILLS ME. HE ALWAYS TOLD ME THE WORD L-O-V-E HAS NO NUMBERS. HE IS RITE. AND EVEN THOU I HAVE NO CLUE WERE HE IS HE HOLD HIM IN MY HEART.

Gherl,
Don`t worry `bout it . Last year, I was in love with a guy that was 6 years older than me . He was kcoo wit it . I wondered why he`d love me when I was so much younger, but age ain`t a factor when it comes to love (Although I think a 30 year difference is kinda wrong) but yu know what I mean right ? Don`t worry about it . This guy that`s 9 years older than I am, likes me right now . Just because yher younger than him by so much, don`t mean snap .
If people critisize or talk smack, ignore them . They just jealosu of the love :DD

Thanks so much!! :D

Iwas 13 n went out with 22 year old.. n he was just amazing.. Age doesnt really count maybe when ur still 17 but no one cares about it when ur like 25 or smt...

Age makes no difference. You love each other. That's important.

LinH DEE and Lutu...Personally, I think 13 is too young to have any kind of relationship, especially with someone that much older. But come on, 13? You're still a kid!

Mercedes-

I don`t really care the age difference between you and your boyfriend. I mean I do but not like I`m going to yell my ass of at you. It really matters is what goes on in that relationship, how you guys feel about eachother, and the things you guys do together. I was 13 going on 14 and I dated a 22-year-old. And I just got out of a bad-ending realationship with a 20-year-old who had gotten drunk and somehow has a girl pregnant. There are things you need to watch out that he may do to hurt you but you may say he loves you too much but you never know.

And sometimes I dont get it. People say its okay for them to date people i-don`t-know-how-many-years-apart from them but then tell others it`s just wrong. You need to change different ages because if you stay in the same age group you may not know how mature you really are.

Now don`t judge me on this. I`m just telling you how I feel and whats on my mind!

-Khayden

He's 24 and you're 16, you really have to ask yourself why he would want to be with you, either he can't get anyone his own age, or he wants easy sex, I'm sorry but that's probably the way it is. You say he's not a pedophile? How do you know? You met him on the INTERNET, and you've only met him once, you know nothing about his past or anything. I really think you should stay away from him.

age is not the basis of love..for me it is how you do feel for each other :)