stuck between a rock and a hard place.

i dont know what to do anymore. i want to be with my ex. we were together for a year and 3 months. he says he wants to be with me as well, however, he's not willing to fight for it. What should i do? i mean, i love him more than anything in the whole effin world. we've been broken up for about 2 months now. almost 3. the only reason he won't get back with me is because of his parents. they won't approve of us getting back together at all. they never liked me, and he said just bringing up the topic of us getting back together would me manslaughter in his parent's eyes. they'd ground him in a heartbeat. they'd do anything to keep us apart. and we can't date behind his parent's backs...because at least 4 teachers from our school have previously/currently worked w/ or know his parents. i'm so lost. i need help. please.

I went through some what the same thing. My boyfriends parents didn't like me because I said what I felt, and because I did what I felt without "Telling the man". Well, my boyfriend is nothing like his parents, he doesn't expect women to stay at home and make him dinner. So, if we ever had a fight, his parents would try to talk him into breaking up with me. Normally if we ever get into the conversation about us and his parents, it explodes into a horrible fight. So, now, we barely ever speak about it. Because there is nothing to say about it. I love him, he loves me. Our relationship has nothing to do with his parents, mine, or anyone else. It is only about US! So, you both shouldn't care about what his parents say or feel. Who cares if they find out, they can't seperate you, or make your feels change. You both have to stand up, and just face it you love each other, and thats that.

i know we love each other, and his parents cannot separate us emotionally, but they can physically. and not seeing him would make it so difficult. i dont know what to do. i want to be with him. i love him. i love him more than anything in the whole world. there's so much i want to give him. i want to give him me. my body/my soul/my love/my life. i want to be his forever. look, i know i'm only 16. but i've never felt stronger for anyone as i have for him. and i dont care what anyone says about "you're only 16 you dont know what love is" bullshit. i do. love is an emotion. a feeling. noone can tell you how you feel. i know i feel LOVE L.O.V.E for him. he has all of mine. i cannot give it to anyone else. and i refuse to. i love him and i want him so bad. i would die for that man. i love him. but unfortunately . we cannot be together.

Well, of course you guys being 16, unfortunately parents will have a saying whether you want them to or not...If you guys are willing to be together, just keep it a secret...how small is that school that the teachers will see you during break or whatever...or don't you guys go out with friends...Go out with him afterschool or whatever....I had a 3 and a half year relationship in high school...without my dad or his dad finding out...only our moms knew...Which is a little easier than your situation but you only live once...Do what you gotta do! BUT do it smart...Trust me, you're only 16, so getting through to parents at you guys age is mission impossible...especially parents who disagree with you guys seeing each other...

Don't you guys drive? Can't you guys meet up with each other a little far from home where it's safe...

But tell everyone else there is nothing going on...

If you guys really really love each other and really really want to be together...trust me you would have thought of 2174629364 ways to have seen him and be with him....

P.S. Is he 16 too?

At 16, you can love. It may be hard for you two to see each other, but in due time, you can. They may be able to keep you from him for a while, but not all the time. You two can be together, in time.

ok. yes we drive, he's 17 now i'll be 17 in january. he's 5 months older than me. the thing is. he got a reckless driving ticket and his dad has limited his driving. to and from school and work only. that's it. and his dad drives by his work to check and see if he's there. it sucks. yeah but i'll write more later. sorry i'll keep you posted though.

OMG sweetie, that really sucks, they really have him on check...Good luck hun....

ok, so here's the update. i love him. i love him more than anything in the whole world. i would die for him, i would do anything at all...just to have him. however. it will not be anytime soon. for as long as he's with his parents we cannot be together. that is the final determination. he's going off to college next year and maybe then we can try again. that's an awefully long time to wait though. all i know is that, i wont put my life on hold that long. i should, it's him i want. but it's not fair to me or anyone else. i should give people chances. i'm not opening myself up enough to let anyone in. i always say it doesnt feel "right" with anyone but him, but how would i know since i dont LET it be right. i dont know. i'm so lost. i'm starting to think of me and him as just friends...it's tough, but i can do it. i know i can. i'd rather keep him as a friend, then not at all. it just kills me to see him with other people. i want him to be happy though, and apparently fighting for us to be together doesnt make him happy. i found out that one of the reasons we broke up is because he was tired of fighting a battle he'd never win. apparently since 6 months into our relationship, his family had been telling him it was too long for us to be together, and that by 15 months (9 months later) it was too much for him to handle. he gave up...and broke it off to keep his family happy. it hurts when i think about it like that, but i mean, i want him to be happy, and if he's happier without me, then so be it. it's killing me inside, but i'll live. i have to. thanks for listening all. i appreciate it. thank you for all of you that helped or are willing to help. it means so much. i can already tell i love you all. thank you.

Hey again. How is everyone reading this? good i hope. so, yeah. i have a good feeling that we are never to be together, since i last posted, there's been some more tears and heartache, just little things but enough to keep us apart. oh well. i'm done w/ this. i'm sorry to complain so much. thanks for listening again.

--katie

I know what your going through
My dad is trying to keep me apart from my fiance of all people.
The reason?
He doesn't like him.
Erm... so? I love him to death and even though i'm 18 and he's 19. And we've been together just under a year, we know we're in it for the long haul.
And his parents are giving us more than enough support and since i'm moving out in the next few weeks, he can no longer keep us apart.
Not that he can anyway. =)
Follow both your hearts. Don't let anyone else get in the way if you love each other. It's not worth it to lose something so precious just because it takes a little more work.
Love is worth it right?

yes it's worth it to me, but he's not willing to fight for it. i would die for this guy....but i've done everything in MY power, and nothing's worked. ... i'm slowly giving up.

hey!!!!! read the poem i wrote about this guy after we broke up, it explains exactly how i feeL! it's the one titled "no more" thank you

Have you spoken to him about how you really feel and how much you want it to work?
Maybe he thinks your giving up so he is too.
Don't give up if there's still something there, no matter how small hope is.
The greatest things can be born from a second chance.
I'll read the poem when i get to college.

yes, i've told him many times how much i want this to work, but it seems that it's not worth it to him, or something. i dont know anymore. i've done good for three months.....i'm slowly losing hope....i dont want to give up, but it seems it's the only option.

No one can tell you if its the right thing to give up or not but they can give you opinions. And mine is don't give up unless there really is no hope left and from what i've read, there does seem to be some hope there, you just have to make him see it.
When are you next seeing him?

i see him everyday in school. but we took a break, completely, from each other for about a week, and we've both moved on. all we needed was time apart. we were just fighting constantly...and it just wasn't very healthy at all. :( but i've gotten myself out of that situation and i have another guy that likes me. i dont know if i want to get with him or not. he's two years younger than me, which is kinda awkward, but he's sweet. so i dunno. :\ yeah, that's all. me and alex (ex. ) are still friends though. we've worked things out. :)

ok ok. so here's the latest update, me and him are back together, but we're keeping it quiet for a while. i dont know what to do. i think it may not last. im trying it to see how it works, if you could help itd be appreciated.

Okay hun. Slow down
Whats happening now? Who are you with right now?
Gem x

....i'll respond later, i need to figure life out first and decide what i'm going to do.