How Not to Lead a Guy On

  • Lovely Bones
    18 years ago

    I have a feeling that I'm leading a guy on. I'm the kind of person who smiles at everyone - not the freakishly kind of smile at everyone, but ya know what I mean. I heard that when girls smile at guys, the guy gets the impression that the girl is making a move or likes him a lot. Is that true? I smiled at my friend today (we kind of have a 'history', but thats a long story) and he just nodded and said hi, like he disregarded me. I feel like such an idiot. Should I feel like this?

  • Truest Lies
    18 years ago

    No, I think smiling is a good thing. I do the opposite. I think I have a little smile on, and I'm actually frowning... to smile at someone isn't a flirtatious gesture, it's just a natural thing to do.
    I wouldn't worry that you're leading him on.. maybe he secretly feels the same.

    //T.L.//

  • Darien
    18 years ago

    No, smiling doesn't lead a guy on, unless they have a very low self-esteem. I know there are some guys out there that will take a smile like they take a compliment. Most guys see a smile as a friendly gesture, not as a tool for flirting.

  • Lovely Bones
    18 years ago

    Thanks guys =]

    I don't want to be the type of girl who leads a guy on when she has no intentions to date him. You've both made me feel better.

  • Truest Lies
    18 years ago

    Hahah, I likely COULDN'T lead a guy on, even if I liked him...I'm not a flirter by nature. No, I think a smile is just a nice thing to do.

    //T.L.//

  • Darien
    18 years ago

    Lol, I am unfortunately a flirter by nature. I may not have the greatest of looks, but I really know how to talk to girls, actually people in general.
    Reason I think it's bad, is because it may lead people on. I feel bad at times when girls ask me for my number, and yeah, it surprises me too, and I'm like, uh, sure. But it can't go beyond anything than friendship.

  • Gem
    18 years ago

    Im like Darien. I'm a flirter by nature (after i found my confidence, lol)
    but now i'm engaged, i don't do it anymore, however me being friendly and giddy (which is my normal personality) can get me accused of leading people on..
    Hello? The ring kinda gives away my status.
    So don't worry, smiling is not leading people on, it's them flattering themselves =)