Do you put up barriers?

Do you put up barriers in a relationship and tend not to tell your bf/gf how you feel about things or personal things that are happening in your life?

I always do this. I know that I really shouldn't, but I do. My past is so messed up and there are some things I would never tell anyone, and some things that I still haven't told to anyone. I have opened up to him about a few things but not all. It is hard. And it brings back memories.

-Jenna.

I am exactly the same. people don't understand why and it's not as if we can tell them cause to reveal a little would ultimately mean to reveal a lot.

yeah, I do it every time. I can't help it, I'm not the kind of person that just say how I feel, and why I feel it. You practicly have to drag it out of me.

i do that from time to time i hide certain things because they make me look weak and i feel better when i do...there are things that my girl don't know bout me and we've been datin for the last 12 years

i don't really have personal problems... but if i did i would tell my girlfriend.... we have a open relationship if i've pissed her off somehow she tells me if i don't catch her mood, normally though i can tell if something is really upseting her and she tells me, atleast i think, everything

I can understand why someone would put up a barrier...I've done that...If you're in a relationship and you haven't told someone all your secrets..that's not a problem to me...but as commitment gets more serious, the more "secrets" I feel is necessary to reveal. Your boyfriend/girlfriend should understand, they should care about your comfort because obviously those secrets are still somewhat a part of you and in a way perhaps affect you. Pushing someone to tell them all your secrets will only further their chances from the truth, or at least that's how I feel. Of course, as time went on, I started trusted my ex and was very open...and also felt comfortable...So maybe all you might need is some time.