Physical Abuse

Basically because of my untamed curiosity, I was wondering how many here have ever been victims of physical abuse (From parents, friends, close relatives, husbands/wives etc.) I also have another reason, a recent family incident. My uncle, (Father's brother) just yesterday beat up his wife really bad, although it's been going on for some time and she's scared to say something. My whole family wen't to help. We have reason to believe he's biPolor, or is involved in drugs. There's no evidence for this however, and he would never give in to testing himself for such. Anyway, he abused me when I was younger also...sexually even. Everything is just getting out of hand, and I am mad at my aunt for letting him carry on with such atrocity. It was so horrible, I can't even recall the events of yesterday. He was saying how he wanted to murder her and how if she left, he would find her and kill her, then her body would be buried with the satelites so no one would ever find her.

So now, I know I ranted on, I was wondering if anyone has a story of abuse, and how have they dealt with it. Also, what are good ways to overcome this abuse, and treat his psychological imbalance.

The best way to deal with it, is to get out of it.. An abuser will find a reason/excuse whatever approach You take to try and calm things down.. and yes I have been there, and put up with it for too long too. It's difficult to believe that the person You love can not/ will not change, especially when they are constantly telling You they are sorry and it won't happen again.. The best thing I ever did was to get out of my abusive relationship, the last time it happened I thought I was gonna end up dead. We live and learn, sadly we do it in our own time, and it doesn't normally matter what advice we get from others.

I have been in it. My Dad hits me. Not so much anymore 'cause he's hardly ever home. And one of my ex boyfriends hit me. I got out of that relationship though it wasn't easy leaving him because he was so protective and yeah.

-Jenna.

I am currently 20 years of age

Well i was sexually abused for 4 years straight by my baby sitter, i was only 5 when it started, i tried tellin my brother but he didnt believe me, and my parents never believed me about anything so i figured i couldnt go to them, although i was probably wrong there. I went on thinkin there was nothing i could do, mostly because i felt trapt all the time, and he kept tellin me that there was nothing i could do. I told him id call the cops once, and he convinced me that they wouldnt believe me over him. So one day when i was 9 years old, he was babysitting me, and started doin what he did (am not about to go into detail). Well i had hidden a knife under my pillow, and when he started i pulled it out and threatened him with it... he laughed at me and came at me.... i ended up stabbing him 7 times.... and funny enough, i didnt kill him, but the cops sure did believe me... and he is currently serving 25-life because i was a minor and i wasnt the only kid. Ill bet he is gettin worse done to him right at this very moment in the big house.

As for physical abuse, my fiance's aunt got remarried to this ***hole last year, i knew him a few years back and he was a crack addict and a meth head.... well he had supposedly quit all that before they hooked up, or so he told everyone. When he got cut off of wellfare he had no way of paying for his habit anymore so he emptied her bankaccount (not much in there) and went on a binge. When she confronted him about it he hit her in the face 4 times, stomache god knows how many times.... she had to get her uterus removed because of internal bleeding. Not to mention when she was running away he shot a crossbow bolt at her that just missed her arm, well it grazed her... and this is the part i will never understand and stopped trying to. She never called the cops, never pressed charges, told the hospital she got mugged and all, this other crap. Well when me and my fiance called the cops they said there is nothing they can do without the victim making a statement.... as far as i know he hasnt hit her or anything since... but i dont know, she is very afraid of him still, yet she stays.

Thats my story of abuse.

well as for the treatment and stuff.... first off if it is psycological, he needs to be first diagnosed and the doctors would know best how to treat it.

If it is because of drugs, i have alot of experience here. I ahve done my share of drugs... and probably your share too, but i cna honestly say i have been clean for over 4 years. But as i was saying, if his violence is because of drugs, the only way to fix it is to get him off it... and the only way to get him off it is for him to want to get off it... u can put him in lockeup or rehab and get him clean, but unless he wants to stay that way, he is just gonna doi it right when he gets out. Certain drugs are different... Crystal Meth is probably the worst and i pray for you that he isnt doing that... worst 2 eyars of my life... u dont eat or sleep, your teeth roit and thats just the beginbning. im luck yi got out when i did.

But yeah, that is all the advice i really have. Sry i couldnt be much more help.

Thank you so much for all your input guys. I really appreciate it. Interesting, but sad and horrifying stories. I realize there are so many things out there unnoticed.