Is he going to dump me?

Well I love this guy so much, but I have depression and I think he cant handle it anymore. For the last few days his really treating me like grap. This morning I was helping him move and he was like really irretated with me I cant even say hey without him getting on my case. So please give me advise. I dont know what to do anymore. I'm really trying to change and get better, but I need him to understand what I'm going throw and need his support to get over this illeness. I just wanna know if he is planning to dump me or what?

Illness? Are you sick or depressed? Depression is not an illness. People believe it's a mental illness, but that's just rubbish. If it were an illness, it would be contagious, it would have sympthoms. But anyways that is not what you are asking.

Your boyfriend is probably now realizing your problems and is probably sick of it being a burden to him. Why would he want to stay with someone who is depressed all the time? He will feel as if he isn't helping. He sees that he is not serving a purpose. To be honest, I don't think I would stay in a relationship with someone who was always depressed, and only put on a show of happiness whenever I'm around. It seems false. You should seek help. Professional help, he can't help you. So yeah, he might be dumping you.. unless he really wants to try.

darien you should shut your gap if you got nothing good to say!!!! you know nothing it seems like, there are mental illneses, do you say that disabled people don't have a disease because it isn't contagious??? sorry to bring this to you, but depression is a mental in balance and be caused by many things, depression can actually be caused by eatng wrongly so it's like when you have a lak of vitamins for some!!!

Liz of you need any help just send me an email or add me on msn angels_little_princess89@hotmail.com

ask him wha's wrong! let him in to your feelings, and tell him to say when it's too much for him, my ex had a nightmare with me, but he loved me and knew I loved him bk

I have depression as well, and at times it often feels like he will leave me, but he won't. I've asked him to, but he told me he wants to stay with me and make my life happier. And he has helped, a lot. Just talk to him about it and make him understand some more into it. I dunno, but good luck Darling.

-Jenna.

"darien you should shut your gap if you got nothing good to say!!!! you know nothing it seems like, there are mental illneses, do you say that disabled people don't have a disease because it isn't contagious??? sorry to bring this to you, but depression is a mental in balance and be caused by many things, depression can actually be caused by eatng wrongly so it's like when you have a lak of vitamins for some!!!"

^ First off, Darien is just being blunt. Second, wrongly isn't a word. At 16, grammar shouldn't be an issue. Depression is not an illness, it's something many people suffer. Severe depression could possibly be considered a mental illness. To answer the topic, you need to confront him and talk to him about what you're going through. You won't get anywhere without communication.

Haven - that is VERY rude.

Punks unite - wrongly is a word, but not in the context she used it. "Wrongly accused" would be correct. "eating wrongly" is incorrect.

Oh...well i have never used it. Shows what i know. I was correct about her grammar mistake though. Wow, now i feel stupid. It's just that i'm used to using wrong, or wrongfully.

I have stints of depression (kinda going through one now cos things have got bad in certain aspects of life)
But my fiance helps me through it. He doesn't tell me it's going to be ok cos he knows it won't right away.
but he's there when i need to talk and even when i just want to be quiet and wallow in my thoughts, he understands and leaves me be until i'm ready to talk again.
So your boyfriend shouldn't dump you just because your depressed.
It's not always something that stays. Give it time and it may pass. And even if it doesn't, you can get plenty of help.
If you love each other you'll be fine.

"darien you should shut your gap if you got nothing good to say!!!! you know nothing it seems like, there are mental illneses, do you say that disabled people don't have a disease because it isn't contagious??? sorry to bring this to you, but depression is a mental in balance and be caused by many things, depression can actually be caused by eatng wrongly so it's like when you have a lak of vitamins for some!!!"

^^

Excuse me?.. are you calling people with disablilities an illness? The facts are, they are born with a deformity, they don't magically appear. Depression magically appears when people start to believe their life is a waste. Don't tell me what to do, because I will never listen to someone like yourself. You know nothing of this world, so don't pretend like you know.

On another note if you want to argue Haven..

I've seen people with disabilities do greater things than you have ever done. so don't tell me that their illnesses stop them from doing things. People who claim to suffer depression end up feeling sorry for themselves and ask for pity. How great are you? Stop looking for attention. These people were born differently, but they stive to do great things, and they work harder than you.

Not all depression "appears magically when people start to think their lives are a waste". I was diagnosed with it when I was seven. I was happy before that, and I never thought my life sucked. Depression isn't something that magically appears out of nowhere. And do you know Haven personally? Not to be a bother or anything, but if you don't know them personally, maybe don't say that other people have done better things than they ever have. Just a thought..

-Jenna.

Darien, congratulations on completely changing the subject of this post in order to put someone down and share a story. Anyway, cancer is an illness and it is not contagious. Depression is also an illness. It is a chemical imbalance in the brain that is often genetic (but it can develop with out genetic history as well), that should be treated with anti-depressant medication. Your personal opinions on depression do not compare to fact. But anyway, is he going to dump you? That is something the guy you are dating may not even know. I think you should back off and give him some space...maybe he just needs a chance to breathe. My boyfriend deals with lots of depression (in fact, I used to too), but he can tell when it starts to eat away at me, and gives me a little space to recover. The fact that your boyfriend has been with you for a while although you have been depressed, shows that he truly cares for you. Sometimes people just can't take being around unhappy people, or they can only take it for so long. Those type of people depend too much on the happiness of others to keep them happy, which can be unhealthy. So my advice is to see a therapist, maybe get some anti-depressants and keep your boyfriend informed of the effort you are putting into helping yourself...maybe that will relieve him a bit. Also, give him some space if you can...and make sure that you show him how much you care for HIS happiness, even though you may be unhappy. Try to lighten his spirits a bit and listen to his problems if he has anyway (I'm sure everyone does). Good luck.

You know like i feel like that too, when i have so much to say about my problems... i feel like im annoying my man. but if you want him to know that your changing, show it to him.. or maybe take a break for a few days to let him clear up his mind. and start off a bit fresh, so he can see that you really are trying to help your self and willing to keep your realtionship.
also if your bf truly cared about you, he'd be there besides you instead of pushing you to the side...
that's just from my prospective, i mean i'd feel a bit more hurt knowing that the one partner i have is also giving up on me.
but other than that, only you can help with your relationship, so think of the ways and things that will help both of you, and with your depression.

and for those who don't know depression isn't an illness, but can lead to illnesses, there for will be the root to any disorders and malfunctions etc..etc.. of the body. also there are medicines perscribed for it. just like a head ache... the word illness means ill-health meaning sick, not feeling good, so either way you wouldn't want it.

Daenyres Stormborn..

First off, thanks.

Second.. cancer is a disease not an illness.
Third, chemical imbalance is just a theory. Look it up.
Lasty, depression is a psychological development due to stress of the brain. You don't even need to be sad to be depressed. Which means, it just appears. Mental illnesses occure when part of your brain start to die down. Some people are born with that deformity. I know my stuff. I know the facts, so don't tell me what I know, and what I don't know.

peace

and to you Jenna..

Obviously I dont know her, but I know there are people who have done greater things than her. Heard of the special olympics? Well, there is your proof that they can do great things. They don't let their illnesses take the best of them, they fight through it. The persevere and they do something with their lives. Don't neglect them because they are different.

Darien,

I hadn't said that other people hadn't done greater things, but if you don't know what she has done, than it isn't really a place to say that others have. And no one was neglecting them...

-Jenna.

Ok people, this is not a fighting room this is were I need help. And I need help again. I do take depression pills but they do not seem to help, And I have been to a doctor, but now my parents are so worried, the docter tells them they need to send me to bloemfontein to a clinic for depression people. Leaving in a week. Will this effect my relationship even more?

If he loves you, he'll stand by you.
I mean, what if the situation was reversed, would you stay with him?
There's your answer

DARIEN U REALLY NEED TO SHUT UP U HAVE NO PLACE HERE BECAUSE U SHOULD BE TRYING TO HELP HER NOT HURT HER FEELINGS AND YOU NEED TO PLAY A SPORT TO HELP YOU STOP BEING SUCH A NEIRD

Darien said what he thought..and thats what were all doing..so respect him...ANYWAYS..i no what you could be feeling..like your such a burrened to him..but you need to find a guy that understands what your going through..its tough..it really is..but you can get through it..and who nos maybe your just thinking different..maybe theres somthing eles that bothering him..and think all you need to do is sit down and talk to him..and express yourself..and take it from there..goodluck=]

Tenisha,

I wouldn't start anything if I were you. This is not your place to start an argument with me. If you have a problem with me, send me an email. For now, stop posting anything insulting or you'll just be proving how arrogant you are. I play sports. I am far from being a nerd. They are rather smart individuals, so I have no clue why you seem to put them down.

Jenna,

I don't need to know her to know what she has not done. If she were to have done something great, then she would not be putting other people down.

Darrien, I dont know you, but why the f*ck are you posting answers if it doesnt help me at all, so please just fuck off and let other ppl help me instend

Learn to spell my name right. Are you looking for the right answer? Because I can tell you honestly, there is no right answer so stop looking for it. You wanted advice, and that is what I gave you. Swearing at me won't anger me at all, it just proves to me how low you really are. If you want to offend me, use language that is more suitable.

No one can help you. This is your problem, they can give you all the advice in the world. But it's the decisions you make, and the decision he makes that make the difference.

Darien you didnt give me advise. And if I want to look for help I can do whatever I want so I'm not gonna stop. So stop begin a little bitch and grow up. I didnt ask you to pop up here and start a fight and I didnt ask you to give me the def of depression I already know I have it so why give me the def of depression and yeah it is a illness cause people cant help to get depressed. So just shut your fucking mouth and dont post a answer here. And btw I know my spelling suck, but I have a reason for it. English is not my language I'm afrikaans so fuck off

I meant your languange as in profanity. If you want to go off on a tangent then go right ahead, I can see why your boyfriend would dump you. Your just an explosive personality seeking pity. I have no further need to give advice to someone who seeks attention. You have a problem, deal with it yourself.

I dont seek for attention darien, I was just looking for some advise not a lecture. I get enough attention and I dont have a explosive personality and btw you dont know me so who are you to judge what my personality is. Im actually very friendly and have lots of friends and I'm easy to make new friends, but what I can base on your answers you post I guess you dont have lots of friends it wouldnt suprise me if you dont have anyfriends, but thats just what I think. You must be lonely. And believe me If I do seek for pity I wouldnt do it online, cause people dont know me online and dont my problems or anything. I was just asking if that was a sign since I can ask my boyfriend or friends. So I ask people who dont know me or my boyfriend

Darien, go to hell. Depression might not be contagious bladidibla, but neither is cancer. Depression is also just as serious as cancer, it can kill you, it CAN actually make you physically sick and don't you dare judge people with mental illnesses! You think your so much better than everyone else or somethin? Darien, you are stupid and stuck up. Get a life.

And for the depression/dating problem, it's his fault if he can't deal with it and you should dump him. But that's my opinion.

"you dont know me so who are you to judge what my personality is."

Very hypocritical for you to judge me as a lonely person. You couldn't be more wrong. I'm a very social person, and I have many friends. Which brings me to the conclusion that depression is a psychological problem more than anything. I have friends who have claimed to be depressed, but they are far from it. You have friends, are you depressed when you are with them? If you are, then you really do have a serious problem. If you don't then that isn't depression. How can you turn it on or off, if it were an 'illness' it would be constant.

Catherine, I would stay out of this if I were you. You are just proving your ignorance. Obviously cancer is not contagious, that is why it's called a 'disease' and not an illness. Ever heard of, 'make yourself sick' well, that's exactly what people do. They make themself sick by concluding they have no reason to live and they are depressed. You don't know mental illness, you just claim to know it. Why don't you do some research, as a psychatrist. You don't know me. You don't know what my life was like before. I tell you this stuff because I've been there. I was so confident I was depressed. I effed up my school work and became anti-social because I thought I was suffering from depression. I went to psychatrist after psychatrist, and didn't find any help. It wasn't until a teacher told confronted me. She told me I was so much more than what I made myself to be. You don't know me. I am not stupid and I am not stuck up, why?, because I am so much better than that.

you all need to chill...darien is an ass, but is it so hard to ignore him if what he says offends you ? I'm sure he feels pretty crappy with everyone attacking him right now.

Pfft, call me what you like. It doesn't make me what you say. It just shows how quickly and inaccurately you judge people.

Not to cause trouble or anything
But most of what Darien actually says is true you know.
With the whole definition of depression and such.
And yes, i know it's hard suffering from it, but like everyone is saying hun, if he cares about you, he'll help you through it. If not, it wasn't meant to be.

And aimed at no one in particular... don't start a bitch fight about things you don't know about.

Cancer = disease (i can't spell, lol)
Depression = mental problem (i think, who am i to say?) But get a professional opinion. There's medication for these things.

Peace

Thanks Gemma..

and you spelled it right ;)

Lol, actually.. that was the nicer way of what I was originally trying to say. It's just that, I got mad because I didn't want the same thing that happened to me, happen to her. Kind of like when parents get mad at your for doing stupid things. It's because they care.

"We scare because we care"

Couldn't resist quoting that, lol.
At least no more fighting now =)