Rape!

Does any-one else here wonder how even months afterwards you still can't get over it?

It's been five years and I still remember it...I don't allow it to control my life, but sometimes, flashbacks appear without a warning...

Sorry you had to be a rape victim...Just stay strong and don't allow it to take over your life...Best of luck...

You never get over it, you just deal with it as best as you can with help and support of people around you.

i still have to see the guy so it really sux but im not afraid anymore... the pain dulls after awhile but never goes away... unfortunatly.

RAPE!!... is not an easy thing that memories can just kick out frm your brain!!..

these memories we hav ,loves to put those things like the most embarrising or the most romantic..or the worst night mare..like the MOST stuffs..

i'm sorry to say ..but you won't get to forget what had happenned to you...but i'm sure it' has helped you to stay strong or something..or how to deal wid it if it happens again..

OK WAT THE HECK DID I SAY?..WELL STILL goody luck on ur comming lyfe!!..

wid lot's of luv foor you..=-SECRET!

Yeah I do wonder the same. I was raped in late june. I still remember it as if it was last night. You don't get over it and you probably won't for a long time until you don't blame yourself for it anymore. Personaly, I don't think I ever will just because that's how I am.

I know it can make a permanent damage to a person's thinking. I pray for comfort for anyone that has gone through it.

Rape scars itself into yher mind . I didn`t go thru it, and i hope i won`t, but I have friends that have been raped . One of them finally got the courage to go to the cops, so her pops is in jail now . Thank god . But I hope for anyone who`s went thru it, to be able to move on , even though I know that`s realyl hard to do after such a horrible experience .

rape is very very bad trust me on this i have been raped and its not good at all

We all know rape is bad. That's why it's called rape. No matter what you do, you can't change what's done. What happened is in the past, and what's done is done. You can change the future though.

Take self defence classes if you feel the need to. Just be on the safe side to make sure it doesn't happen again.

There's no point letting your past affect your future since you can't change the past, but you can change the future. If you had a bad past, make a great future. It's hard, but worth the try.

its been years since it happend to me, but i can still remember it vividly. its not something you can forget. i to get random flashbacks. keep strong. it does get easier with time...even if it still hurts.

xoxo

~Fo~

thanks people!

I am sorry for all those gurls who have been raped...I think you are so strong to be able to move on with life...I am scared to death of rape...I would rather die then get it and if I did I wouldn't be able to live I know that for sure....my point is it must have took alot of courage to have survived the aftermath...

Trust me it takes ore than a few months and it also takes more help than you realise xxx here anytime if you need me xx

Im not a rape victim but i lost my virginity last year...
of course i gave it to my ex...
but i know how it feels maybe not the exact feeling but i can relate to that...

and it do still coming back to my mind...
i cry for sometimes when i remember those things...

the difference is...
i never regret it cause from that experience i've learn a lesson...
and i've learn to respect my self...

to give importance to it...

thats all...

thank you for the space...

It's been three years since I was hurt, not raped but still hurt sexually by a guy, and it still hurts. The day that had happened I had to sit through a movie ith him beside me after words. Long story :(

Couple of days ago I saw the movie's sequal and held my new boyfriend's hand the entire time just to get through the movie.

Its been almost three years for me, and i still think about it all of the time. it wasn't that he took my virginity, but that he took away the only thing i had left in my life...my pride and dignity. it was really hard at first because i couldn't be touched in a certain way, if my boyfriend even got agressive with my i freaked out. i always blamed myself for it but last year when i turned 16 i started talking to a doctor and i stopped blaming myself. its something you'll never forget but its something you learn to live with.

Wow.
Umm.
Well, it never leaves; the images, the bad thoughts, the shame, the hunger for a new life, the breaking down, and all the rest of the stuff.
But, it does slowly fade further from your everyday life and becomes easier and easier to push away. It never leaves though, never. Especially after the first few months. It took me almost a year and half. He's in jail now, but it was still humiliating, and horrifing for ages, hun.

It'll slowly get better, just wait it out.
If you need someone to talk to, let me know.
Mk?

<3Teria.

Rape is a bad moral act and against the law..well, all you have to do is Pray that's the only thing you can really do.. It is the memories that never fades..

Its been 4 years since my virginity was stolen, no I still cant get over it and move on, actually Im suffering more than I ever thought I would from it... not a good thing to deal with at all, but if you can't get over it than just try and pull it into the back of your head, it will always show up in clear view sometimes when your feeling down but at least you can still do other life involved stuff other times, for the first few months after it, thats all I could think of, I got about 2 hours of broken sleep a night and spiralled out odf control with depression but after 3 yrs of councelling I learnt to put it awayand only let it show when I wanted it to.

Ill never forget it
every second of it re plays in my head every time i lay down to go to sleep, every time i see him (often), every time i have sex, every time i hear the word sex.....

always. of course my pain is hidden... its been 3 yrs but it happened so many times before i finally came forward... im sorry youve been through it.

Girls... you have learned to stay strong^_^ cheers!!

You can't forget. Not unless you're me and you block it out (molestation), but that's just as bad. It sucks so much but it makes you stronger... I hope.

I was raped less than a month ago, on my boyfriend and i's anniversary. he had been wrongly put in jail, and depressed and dysfunctional as i am, i went drinking with friends. my friend's friends were there, and some guy whom i dont even know his last name, raped me. hasn't shown his face since. the worst part is, my boyfriend feels as if it's his fault and beats himself up over it everyday. he was crying when i told him about it [which is understandable and basically expected, at least with him].

^That's such an interesting point. I mean, honestly, in my opinion I think that teenagers nowadays have been more than well informed about the dangers of intoxication, rowdy parties, the "older crowd", drinking and driving, rape and sexual harrassment, etc. yet nobody decides to change or commit themselves to safe fun environments and I can't understand why. I'm not going to lie, I've partied (not exessively) and become intoxicated and done my share of drugs and had sexual relations and some of them were probably not the best decision. But I am not addicted to anything (except cigarettes), all my sexual experience was mutual and protected, I have never been pregnant or sexually abused or taken advantage of, overdosed, or anything. Why? Because I was safe. Because I knew to have fun (and I'm still learning, of course) and be a little crazy without going overboard. I think parents today need to address issues like these with an argument other than "don't do it". People are going to do it and its funny because I'm pretty sure most teenagers have heard of every horrific evnt under the sun, but still we have to have our own drama.

So maybe Bob, maybe its not subconsciously setting ourselves up for traumatic events, but having to learn our own lessons, because human nature isn't always "watch and learn" but "live and learn."

I still cant get over it...it haunts you

I came from a not so happy home, girls i have always made me feel better like hugging me and helping me with my own anger ....it pisses me off to no end when a guy hits a girl but when there is something like this- ive found out from some of my best freindz what they said it was likee for them--all i can say to you from a my standpoint is that men are evil and contorted figures if i had things my way i would not be one and most likely would kill them all, im not saying sorry for them im saying sorry cuz i wish the where ways i could make yea feel better--im sorry

I'm just curious..

Out of topic:

Do you know who raped you guys?

^^ I did. I was sexually assulted, close to rape in a way, but still. He was like my brother to me and I am sometimes sorry that I even put him in jail but if I didn't he would've done it to other girls.

Finally saying it outloud made it less of a burdern after 3-4 years of keeping 3 seperate incidents inside. finally telling someone, anyone made me know that im not alone and its not my fault but i so should have spoke up sooner and maybe it wouldnt still hurt so much. cuz it still does. two were like brothers to me and the other one i knew i shouldnt even talk to. but no means no. ill never forget it and i think i will always hate them but at least i know its not all my fault

I've never been raped, but i've heard stories. My ex-friend's next-door neighbor gets raped by her dad every night. My cousin.....long story (not exactly rape, but she was 11....like i said, long story)
I'm so sorry that you had to go through that, i can't imagine...

It's been a year for me..september 8... When I told my parents they turned him into the state troopers and now everyone in my village thinks im bloody lying about it...Those rapists can just die and burn in hell..get what they fuckin deserve...