Advice please. =)

Hey all. I would just love to have some advice right now.

Here's my situation:

I'm with this guy, hes called Chris. And we got set up by my best friend who gave him my number and etc etc thats how it went. Now she hates him, and is always telling me hes a loser, and is just not good for me.
I don't get it? Why say that?
Ok, so sometimes he doesnt treat me as nice as he should or pay me enough attention, but nothing is perfect, because if everything was fine and dandy, it would just be boring. Right?

I enjoy his company, he makes me laugh and even seeing him at work puts a smile on my face.

Last night, both of us were drunk and we ended up agruing over the phone, at one point he said, "Its not like you love me or anything".

I went into defense mode, and said no. But when he put down the phone, he said, "Love you, bye" ???!?!!

What does that mean?
I'm worried because I think that if he doesnt buck up his ideas, he's going to lose me, but I don't want that to happen because I'm falling for him, pretty bad. Its been 2 months, we dont see each other as much as we like, hes at uni and works. And I agree that friends come first, but where as friends will always be there. I won't. Do you understand? I feel like walking away, but theres something thats holding me back and telling me to just stay.

This is quite a mess to me.

First off, your friend seems a bit out of order to be changing her mind about him.
Jealousy? (Not seeing you as much)
Neglect? (Ditto)
Or her own problems? (Causing her to lash out at you)
Have a talk with her and find out.

As for the phone argument, as you said, you were both drunk. I find that nobody makes that much sense when their drunk so i wouldn't worry too much about that. Have a talk with him about it and see how much he even remembers.

Overall, if you love this guy and he loves you, its worth putting in the effort to make it work.
None of my friends liked my fiance so (i know it sounds bad) i stopped talking to them as much. In my opinion its when you've found your soulmate that friends take a back seat. They always say that friends last forever, but in my case thats not true.
However it could be in yours so maybe make an effort to include outings that involve everyone so your not neglecting anyone.

I've rambled on a bit now. I hope something in there helped you =)
Good luck

Awh, thanks very much for replying. =D
It does sound a bit messy. She's my best friend, but I'm not neglecting her, I see her more but I think she feels that I'm not myself anymore. We used to go clubbing alot and just flirt, dance like crazy and have fun, I still go to the clubs with her, and dance, I just don't flirt and she thinks I've turned boring, but I haven't.

I've sent him a text message, saying sorry. I'm just waiting his reply, because I want to sort it out. I have really been so stupid to have gotten in a stress like I did lol nut it happened and maybe he'll see sense that he may lose me.

It's no problem
Ah, the whole you've turned boring thing.
I got that when i finally settled down.
I found it funny at first, lol. And after a while, she just stopped because it was easier to have fun than to keep starting little tiffs with me.
Have you had a reply yet?
He should see sense, i mean, you were both pretty intoxicated, lol.
Good luck again

Hey, I did get a reply, he was kinda rude to be honest. I asked if we could meet up and talk, but he's at Uni and he works so he's always busy with that so I'll just have to wait and see. The ball is in his court and well if he wants me, then I'm right here because I'm fed up of saying sorry and doing the chasing.

I do care about him alot and think so much of him. I adore him and I just don't want it to end. I want to text him, but I just don't no what to say.

I wouldn't text him just yet. No matter how hard it is.
Let him stew for a while, he's obviously being stubborn (he's a lad, lol) and you should just wait for him. If you keep doing the running, he's gonna know he can do anything and get away with it all the time.
Show him he's not the one in control, you are.
Cos you are.
Or i might be talking crap and making it worse, lol.
Good luck again hun

Hey thanks. We're ok now. =D We've both said sorry and I think we're just going to forget about it, we were both drunk. I told my sister, whos older and she just laughed and told me I was an idiot for even starting a drunken agrument. ha.

I get to see him at work tonight, first time since the agrument and I just wanna give him a huge hug. I've told him, to come find me and take me to the stairs te he. I really just wanna give him a huge kiss, but thats the only place where we can in work even being seen and told off. lol.

Thanks for listening you were a great help xx

Aww! I'm so glad it all worked out!
Yay! You cheered me up, lol.

Aww! I'm so glad it all worked out!
Yay! You cheered me up, lol.

Awhh thanks, and no problem.
Its always nice to have a happy ending to agruments =D

are you kidding me 2 months is pretty short.....but anyways if you think he is worth it you WILL tell him you know what buddy where do you see us going and do you love me or not telll him or ask him what you want to know ....chances are he isnt a mind reader girl!!! and your friend is right he should treat you the way you NEED to be treated but its how you feel not anyone else..........