What would you do for lost love?

There is something missing because you didn't say what effort you made afterward, if any, to try and re-establish this relationship. Did you continue to communicate with her? If I were in your shoes, I probably would have made calls, written letters, cards, etc. to let her know I still cared. It sounds like real heartbreaker, especially since she was unwilling to discuss her true feelings and reasons for ending the relationship.

I haven't personally been through a similar experience, though.

You know, if it is just her nature to be mistrustful, what happened might have been a blessing in disguise in the long run. Dealing with someone like that in a relationship is often impossible. When a person has feelings of jealousy and mistrust with no rational basis, that is a problem with no solution. I believe you said that her ex cheated but that's no good reason to think you and everone else is a cheater. I mean I've had people steal from me before but that's not a good reason why I should believe everyone out there is a thief and that no one can be trusted.

Anyway if you do still want to pursue her or at least bring some finality to this, I think that even though you hope for the best, you also have to be willing to accept whatever happens. And if you do find rejection from her again, what have you lost? Nothing at this point. It would just be a signal that you need to go on with your life. If I were you, I would send her a card with a brief note just to say you are thinking about her. Then maybe follow up with a second one. If you don't hear back from her, drop her a note or email her saying you would like to call and talk to her. In a case like this I think it always helps to mention a specific date and time that you will call. That establishes a critical point at which things have to turn. She could either agree to talk, just wait for your call or set a different time which would be a positive step. Or she could decline to talk or avoid your call, which would signal that things are pretty much concluded. Hope this helps and good luck to you, Duane. ----Lydia

You should get in contact with her again...at least to bring closure to it so that you won't always be wondering. "does she think of me" er "did she really love me". Those kinda things will drive you crazy...just find a way to talk to her...so you can at least kno how she feels...

When your in love ur not "psycho" ur spose to be like that...

Walking aimlessly in the streets...ive done that...

Just remember that tomorow will come. Be strong and try to find ways to vent ur pain. Write out your emotions, listen to music, energetic sports...basicaly do n e thin that can get your mind off her...it helps.

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