Do I love him

For those that hate long posts, to put it simply: I think I'm inlove with my best friend.

The Details: Him and I have been best friends for about 3 years now. When we first met, I had the biggest crush on him but then I thought to myself, 'wow I can really tell him anything & be myself, I don't want to risk losing him'. So we stayed friends, close friends. We've both had our share of sh*tty relationships & we're always there for one another, no matter what. I went through the hardest time of my life when I was 16 & he was there for me, every step of the way, even when my then-boyfriend wasn't. We've been in one fight, ever. Ever since I was younger I always asked myself what love was. Sure I've been in relationships and thought that I was inlove with the guy, but this is so much different. I can honestly be myself, with other guys I always thought, 'okay now he brings out the goofy side of me' or 'he brings out the mean side of me'. But with my friend, it's just....me.

I've always wondered if we would ever be more than friends but these feelings have been hitting me the hardest they ever have within the past couple days. I feel kind of awful about it, because it's the one thing he doesn't know. It's eating away at me.

I know people might sit there and say "go for it" & see what happens...but you have to understand, he's my everything, I'm his everything...what if it went wrong? What if I lost my BEST friend...the one person I can turn to for everything.

What should I do?
The good?
The bad?

I think, that you should wait to see what happens, and then tell him later on when you're sure of your feelings and yourself. But when you tell him, don't freak him out by being all dramatic about it.. Just simply tell him how you feel. Well that's my opinion anyways :)

Good luck with it all

I was in that sit. before . He was 6 years older, so that added a bit to the problem . He was my everything and still is , only nowe its just a best`est friend that i love more than anything way y`knoee ? i came out and told him that I liked him, he felt the same, but we both felt that if the relationship went wrong, things might go awkward -- But we also wanted to wait and see if the feelings stey cuhs` he was so much older ;; I didn`t want him to seem like a pedafile .
SO just wait and see if yher feelings are really strong enough . I felt that way too , but i thought that in order to get the one i love, even if it meant losing him, i`d risk anything . my risk came out positive, and i feel that yhers just might too .don`t be too ....... drama-queenie with it haha if yu digg what i be seyin` .
Just tell him how yu feel when yher READY . (:
..ღ__MiNDYY

Well, if he has been your best friend for three years, and has been there for you in your roughest times; don't you think you owe it to him to tell him how you feel about him? After all that he has done for you, and you have told him everything...tell him.

If he is a true friend, he will listen and he will let you speak your mind, and if he feels the same way about you, he will let you know. Maybe when you talk to him just let him know you have stronger feelings for him, feelings where you would like to be more than friends, but you don't want to ruin your friendship.

These are hard, people always say it is better to be friends first. But honestly, I never understood that because when you are friends first, you develop a different kind of relationship than if you are dating. And a friend fills a different void than a boyfriend/girlfriend does. I am sure there are some things that one could never tell their boyfriend/girlfriend; and they wouldn't even hesitate to tell a friend.

If you are worried about ruining your friendship with him, maybe hold back for a few days and give it more thought. Write out a list of pros and cons of dating him. And then, when you are ready, sit down with him and talk. Remember never to regret something you do in life; because at one point, it is what you wanted.

Good luck.

-Jenna.