10 years older.. would he like me?

I have a friend at work who i have a HUGE crush on. he is like 10 years older than me but we get on really well. he knows all my secrets and we talk openly about everything, selfharm and all.

when ever i see him we always end up play fighting (today i was sat on the edge of the desk trying to get the phone off of him and he stood between my legs holding my wrists), i know i do it because i like being near him, but does he feel the same or just thinks of me as a little sister?

i really would like something to happen between us but if he doesnt like me id just make a fool of myself and i could kill our friendship.

what should i do????

a guy 12 years older fell for me so why not

Alright. Thus is kind of mixed emotions here. You like him as a brother( like a really cool brother) but you want something more to happen. Sort out your priorities. Ask yourself, should you take a chance with this guy and either embarras yourself totally or something actually happens. Or should you try and find somebody your age and put aside your feelings for this guy at work. Like I said it's mixed emotions and I think you should narrow down your question a bit. I'm not gonna give you a total answer just a question. Look at somebody you know and this guy at work, ask yourself the difference of how much you like them as in more than friends and well, just compare. If you like the other guy than you know the guy at work isn't a total heartbreak. I hope this helps.

Kitty

to be honest im abit confused by that really.
i never said i liked him as a brother.

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Okay, i'm just going to be honest so don't get all mad. You're only 17. Ten years is too big a difference for your age. You should really think before making a huge mistake. I'm thinking he doesn't like you in that way, but if he did, getting involved in a relationship with him would be wrong. What is with teen girls wanting to be with guys that are so much older. Personally the oldest i've gone for is 2 or 3 years, but 10!?! Seriously, what's wrong with guys your own age?

My advice is to play it by ear but if you want something to happen between you and him, don't wait for him to make the move...that might take forever. So good luck, and I hope something works out that will make you very happy!

Wait.

I agree with punks.
hopefully he's not interested. a 27 year old guy hittin' on a 17 year old...tha's low.

dun you think he's too olde..for ya?

but do you really need a relationship when you're 17? I mean long term..If you only expect it to be a short term thing...eh..."if you must."

^ Well it's your life, and if you're happy then good for you, but i have my personal opinion, and i'm sticking to it. I think it's wrong to be in a relationship with someone that much older when you're still a teenager.

Oh, and not that i'm accusing all older guys of wanting sex or anything, but the majority of them do. If you were to get involved with someone that much older (which i think is completely wrong), and were to do something, he would wind up be charged for statutory rape.

^^ Not in the UK, as 16 is the legal age. I think 10 years is a huge age gap when You are in your teens though, not saying that it can't work because I know it can. Take things slow and see where it goes.

I understand that 'artistic' people see the world a little differently and hopefully don't have all those expectations of 'success' that can come with dating, though many of them still do... Musicians are no different. Get over yourselves. Now I can't really fathom how a 17 year old cannot have these expectations...or certainly no one younger...in this post-modern world. except maybe out of naivety. if you can however, more power to ya! peace.

I don't think you should go any further with him than friends. He is TEN FRIGGEN YEARS OLDER THAN YOU! TOO OLD HUN! sorry but truth is truth. I believe it is illegal to date him like this anyways so ur S.O.L..now I know I sound rude but even though I dont know you I know this doesnt sound too safe or good for you to get involved in. I say no because I dont want you, another teen, to get hurt by this adult in anyway. I know you have your feelings for him and you cant just throw them away..so even though it is hard, talk to him and tell him how you feel. In my opinion, if a 27 y/o wants to date a 17 y/o it is only to screw them over...literally! Men really do want sex a lot so just BE CAREFUL. Do not trust him fully until you know him like the front AND back of your hand. So what I am trying to say is, in my opinion he is too old for you! BUT i cant control your feelings so be wise and becareful...take care girl.

1. Not all men just want sex
2. Age is nothing but a number