What Would You DO With The Hand I've Been Delt?

Well Just Say I Have A Situation On My Hands..

I Am Dating This Guy Who Is "in Love" With Me... But I Dont Really Feel The Same And I Dont Want To Hurt Him.... Hes Like The Ideal Guy... And Im Just Not Too Into Him
and the 2 times we dated.... the dates we got together were BOTH full moons......
another problem... everyone thinks were meant to be together and im just not feeling it

Well Lets Start Off With This..

One Of My Closest Friends *dolly* Commited Suicide On Sept. 10, 2006
And She Was Dating This Amazing Guy..... *joey*
And I'm Beggining to fall for him.... And Im Getting The Same Signals From Him
But I Dont Want To Start Anything If He's Not Ready.... and i dont want to hurt my boyfriend!!

But My Feelings for *joey* are growing more intense and deeper as each day passes..... im falling fast and hard....

I Dont Know What To Do... I Keep Thinking...

Would *dolly* hate me for this or would she be happy?
would the world agree with me or hate me for "taking" him away from her?
Would my bf hate me forever?

I dont know

but any advice would be GREATLY appreciated....

Thanks You All

i think break up with your bf if you have strong feelings for this other guy but id wait a bit for *joey* and be careful with his feelings maybe talk to him about it first...hope that helps xxALLYxx

thanks hun... i just wish i knew what to do.... i dont want to break up with my bf but its killing me to be with him.....

If you really don't feel strongly for your b/f, you need to end it. Tell him that your feelings for him aren't as strong as his are for you. It wouldn't be right to keep dragging him along. You also need to sit and talk to Joey about your feelings toward him. Explain your feelings about him, your b/f, and Dolly. I'm pretty sure that Dolly would have wanted both you, and Joey to be happy. Just tell them both. You can't just stay in a relationship when you really have feelings for someone else. Good luck.

I agree with punk...... *dolly* would want you both to be happy and girl END IT!!!! it costs him pain to live on a lie!!!!

*dolly* didnt hate herself.... it was an accident...... you would have to know the story to understand it full

I don't think any good will come from you getting with *joey* as it sounds like he's just on the rebound and you don't want to be his. and your feelings may not be strong for your b/f simply because you really don't want a relationship. I'd be hesitant though before burning that bridge. he may not be such a 'nice' guy after you break up with him.

It's not fair to you or your boyfriend if you keep dating him when you have feelings for someone else. I'm pretty sure that *Dolly* would want you both to be happy.

oh... and I DO WANT TO BE HIS! DONT EFFIN DOUBT THAT>>> YOU"RE MAKING ME ANGRY MISSY!
how do u get that from me saying "my feelings for him are growing more intense and deeper as each day passes"????? dip stick !!!!

some ppl are just sooo insensitive

uhh.. sorry but, who are you talking to?

Sorry, "the new Black"

I would hold out till I knew what I wanted.

LOL.. just so you know, it's not a rebound if you're still actually dating another person.. it's a rebound if you just break up and then 'all of a sudden' you like another guy. But you know, it doesn't matter what other people say. You know your own heart.

Well I Hung Out With *Joey* Today....

He Held My Hand

And I Whispered In His Ear That I Think Im Falling For Him And Thats When He Gripped My Hand Really Tight.... And Started Rubbing My Hand With His Thumb...

He Told Me That He's Not Quite Ready And I Told Him That Im Not Going To Push Or Rush Him Into Anything And That I Still Had To Figure Out What Im Gonna Go With My Boyfriend. and he gripped me hand a little tighter and gave me a smile..

i Dont Think I've Ever Had Feelings This Deep For Anybody Or Anything In This Way..... I Mean..... Wow

So Thank You All For Everything.....

But I Have A Question...

Is It Always Best To Follow Your Heart?
Is It Always Worth It?

That's a good question. I guess it depends on the situation. Are your intentions good or bad, and will following your heart lead you down the wrong path or the right one? I guess you just kind of know sometimes. That's my opinion, but I've never actually thought about that before :)

never leave the one you love for the one you like, as the one you like will leave you for the one they love..

good luck with that...

october xx

Well Thanks...

Just Letting Everyone Know....

Me And My Boyfriend Broke Up Yesterday.... He Went Psychotic.... And Put His Hands On My Mother.... Long Story....

But Yea... I Guess Im Just Going To Let Things Calm Down

If Anything Happens With Me And *Joey* I will Keep You Guys Posted...

Once Again... Thank You All For The Help...

But I Would Appreciate Some More Words Of Wisdom From You All.... I'm Still A Bit Confused

I'm Really Falling For This guy :) and.... He Held My Hand Again!!! lol

(yea.... that sounded childish.... lol )

dont forget ur boyfriend.... u told that he is a ideal guy so plz dont hert him...

I Dont Have A Boyfriend...And I May Have Hurt Him But He Hurt Me And My Momther WAY To Badly... He Scared The Heck Out Of Me And Her.... I Guess You Just Had To Be There To Understand What Happened............

He Has Problems That I Cant Handle And I Can't Date Someone That I Am Afraid Of.....

if you really like him tell him because you will always have that emptyness in your heart if not, and anyway, . . . .if you think that it is right and he does too and he is ready go for it, . . . and as for your boyfriend, tell him how you feel, it will only hurt him more the longer that you are with him for him to relize how much you dont feel for him compared to how much he feels for you, . . . go with your heart!!! GOOD LUCK!!!

if you really like him tell him because you will always have that emptyness in your heart if not, and anyway, . . . .if you think that it is right and he does too and he is ready go for it, . . . and as for your boyfriend, tell him how you feel, it will only hurt him more the longer that you are with him for him to relize how much you dont feel for him compared to how much he feels for you, . . . go with your heart!!! GOOD LUCK!!!

Paulette,
As you're only 15, lets face it. Marriage isn't in this situation.
Your friend would probably be happy for you both, because at least she would know you're both happy.
It is unfair to string along your boyfriend if you don't feel the same about him as he does you.
You need to be honest with him, maybe not about *joey* but at least tell him you don't feel the same.
How would you feel if you were him?

Jeez.... WHY DOESNT ANYONE READ THE WHOLE POST?!

ME AND MY BOYFRIEND BROKE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

and thanks again...........

Good luck with everyone hun, from the sounds of things, you deserve a bit of happiness. x

aww... thanks :) i havent talked to *joey* today.... but he has work so i understand and my now EX bf wont leave me alone! he keeps putting a guilt trip on meh.. and he doesnt even remember what he did..... he seriously tried to hurt me and my mother.... if we werent able to snap him outta it...... i think he would have........ scarry.... i know