i dont want to hurt him..HELP!!

Ok..so heres the thing...Im with this guy..but its not going so well,he says he loves me yet he talks a bunch of s*** about sex and things, he calls me names and he calls my friends names. That parts a no brainer, Im breaking it off with him, but heres the thing..Ive met someone who has the same interests in me...who makes me laugh,who likes my friends...and he likes to write poetry. It seems like a good match but theres one issue...its my soon to be ex's cousin. I dont want this to go all Jerry Springerish so what should I do???

breake up with the guy, but tell him why...that you have feelings for his cousin.
after that, wait a few days before calling the cousin to hang out, and when you do hang out DONT talk about the breake up..many guys will say there not bothered but dont bring it up!

do what makes you feel comfortable, and what makes you happy!

good luck,
october xx

Personally, I would leave his cousin alone. Especially if they'e close, you don't want to be getting in the middle of them.

^^ Agreed, that would be a major punch in the face if he found out you were dating his cousin.

I'm sure you can find someone else. Afterall, you haven't met everyone in the world, let alone in your city. There's other people out there. Trust me.

I agree with Darien:D although if you can't help the feelings grwoing it might be worth a shot in the future but leave it for now