Are you a Romantic Obsessive Compulsive

Several times I have fallen head over heels with people who could never feel the same way. Yet I can't seem to let go I yearn and desire to the point it takes over my life and often ends in prolonged periods of depression and lack of sleep). I end up feeling like some sick sort of stalker , harmless yet somewhat pathetic.
I'd like to blame it on my gender preference. Are there other people who get addicted to individuals or am I just going insane.
Elise

I have this thing of going on and off with guys. I went out with one guy 5 times in the time of about 7 months. I no go out with his best friend. I just always see good in people and then I just can't help myself. But, when I fall in love with someone, I play hard to get. That way they are more attracted. If you throw yourself all over them, they'll get turned off.

^ thats true...

i was on and of with a guy for a year, but i realised when i say no to him....he wanted me more..

mwahahahaha...works every time!
but mostly i have commitment issues,and when i do fall in love i have alot of difficulties letting go which makes me look stupid and feel like an idiot!

october xx

I have problems with that, I end up being so clingy and obsessing over every detail.
Planning our future and the likes. I'm only 18 but am desperate to settle down with someone.

you know to me, it sounds like your in love with the idea of being in love, not with the actual person at all. I too went through that phase growing, it will pass when you meet someone really special and discover what love is really all about.

No....... three people in 21 years I wouldn't call that being in love with the idea of love. But each time ended up in disaster. I do feel very lonely and to be fair I could be described as a loner. Maybe if someone had intial feelings for me I don't know. I'm getting to the stage where I think I'll end up alone in a house full of cats or something. Its just when I do want someone, nobody else will do. i just can't approach them, I can't let go ..... its like being frozen in the middle somewhere

I have commitment problems . But I always seem to fall for someone that I can`t have . Like i end up liking them, EVEN WHEN i know they already like someone else . -.-;; It`s really weiird, but I guess it`s just how life is ?
I go out with guys, and dump them . I know it seems mean, but idk i just kan`t seem to stay in a long relationship .
Cuhs` the one that I wanted to work out most, I got dumped for a stupid reason, and after a short amount of time. --shrugs--
..ღ__MiNDYY

Thing is Elisha, real love a lasting love only happens once in a lifetime not three times every 21 years ;o) And when its real its not obsessive, its not compulsive or blind and most importantly it is mutual...

keep meeting and talking to people you will find the answers to your questions.

please don't use that term. it's becoming very popular lately. and it was cute for like 5 minutes, ooh, everyone knows about ocd now. I don't have to explain it anymore. but now it's annoying. please stop.

i have problems like that too .... and im a guy EMBARRESSING!

OCD is an illness , the heading was just satire, so don't get carried away it wasn't taking itself seriously.

The point on offer here relates to wanting something you cant have, but struggling to be able to let go. Everyone has dreams, things they would like to do, see and experience. My probem is not being able to give up. I just wanted to see if this was more common or just quirk in my personality

Every one wants what they can't have, the grass is always greener on the other side...those typical saying apply to all of us, some more than others. I think its a combination of both personality traits, experiences and is fairly common during adolescence in particular so your not alone on that front. Eventually you learn to accept that you can't change people, you cant make them feel what they dont feel and you start to deal with that differently in all your relationships... :o)
Cheers Elisha xxxoo