Socially screwed

nlp and metalanguage is a form of conditioning as it were, a way of behaviour that is practiced, considered and planned. That's easy when you don't care about people, you can treat them how you like and leave them in any state that suits you.

When it comes to people you like, love and more importantly, trust it becomes a very,very different ball game. Trust me, I know.

But the answer, perhaps, is not the one you would expect. If she likes you for the way you are in public, how you react to others (and maybe shoot them down from time to time for personal gain) then maybe she expects a little of the same (but different) treatment. Of course, as you should well know, there are varying degrees of behaviour when it comes to metalanguage and nlp etc. So start slow, try the little things but don't be a pest with it. Build on it if she responds appropriately. You get the idea, you're a smart lad.

Bottom line is this: If she likes you for being you then be you around her.

I have an idea of how helpful I was simply because I've been there, mate. Ok, it's been more than a few years but some lessons from life you never forget.

Sometimes we need to be told what we already know just because we need that kick up the arse so we can get into gear.

It's like I'm reading me fourteen or fifteen years ago and it's good to see, from my point of view at least. If you want to send me an e-mail detailing things a little more I'd be happy to help where I can.

addendum: you just made my favourites list.

I find this post very interesting. Reading what Bob said above about friendships, I agree with everything he said. I feel as if I am my only true friend, but it took many years to find it out. I don`t think you were a young fool, or now an old fool Bob, I suppose everyone craves friendship, wherever they may find it. I also have found myself not being very "real" with many on this site, sparing feelings. I do not possess the candor that Bob uses, and I believe I suffer for it in many ways. I would also like to learn more about the techniques talked about above, hopefully to help me with relationships I lost in the past that could help me in the future.

Ack, Bob's an old fool alright, he knows better than anyone else, right?

Have read the guy's poetry? He's a nut nut!

*coughs*

Yes..lol, definitely a nut nut..but in a good way.

Have fun Matt =)