I really need help.

I already posted a thing in here about my sister and her abusive, lying, cheating boyfriend. And how she left him after he left her for girls that were ten years or more younger. But now, she is back with him! She was texting me the other day and she told me that she got a new phone because Zen had thrown it at the wall while screaming and yelling at her. I hate seeing her go through this alone. She is still living at her friends place, but she is "with" him again. She can't seem to let him go.

I know that I have to let her realize things on her own - - but she isn't doing that! She keeps going back to him and it hurts me seeing her so hurt. She was always the one who told me to never settle for less than what I deserve in a relationship and to never let any guy push me around, and now she is doing that to herself. She is a hypocrite. She is mad at me and won't even answer her phone when I call her now because we got in a huge fight over this.

I know I don't need to get involved, but she is my sister, and I love her and I can't stand seeing her go through this. Everytime I think about her; I cry. And she told me that being around him again is helping her move on and that confuses me because she is not moving on if she is with him again right? I don't know...the more she is with him, the more she drinks. She is already an alcoholic..but now even more so.

I live 5 hours away, so I can't be with her and have a serious talk with her where she knows I am serious so it is so complicating for me. Can somebody please let me know what to do or how to deal with this whole problem? I am completely lost and hurt and afraid for her and I just don't know what to do anymore...

-Jenna.

send her a letter telling her everything that you have just told us. if you feel tyhis strongly about it let her know or tell your mom how you really feel. you need to let it out to them. good luck! 8 )
Brittany

Thanks for the advice Darling. I have told my Mom, she seen me crying and asked and I told her. My Mom is horrified for her as well, but she doesn't listen to any of us. All she says is "Oh, so end my relationship and up and stop loving him after 5 years because everyone else tells me too?" But I only say it because he is no good for her and everyone just wants her safe and happy but nothing more I can do I guess. Thanks again though. =]

-Jenna.

You shouldn't give up just yet. You need to keep tell her that she deserves better, and this guy doesn't give her the respect she deserves. I understand that nobody can stop loving someone, but she needs to have her eyes opened to how he's mistreating her. I don't know what else you can do. This is a very tough situation you're in. I'm sorry..I know if i had a sister in this situation, i would do what it takes to help her.