My presents from the past

i feel ive created this girl i really liked due to not messing w/ her like the other guys. she was a nice cool gurl whom spilled her gut to me and vice versa. guys would take advantage of her and i wouldnt, and i paid for it i feel it shyed me away. within one year of not talking she has been kicked out of her house, kicked outta college, had a miscarrage, and has been abused. i was the only one there for her 170miles away jus talkin 2 her for a few seconds. after all her trials she's got back w/ her folks, attends college, and has a steady job. she bent over backwards for me to do a favor that i didnt ask for and im starting to have feelings 4 her again, but her past tends to come up again. WHAT SHOULD I DO

Um, this is a complicated one. I would just talk to her. Keep your friendship going for as long as you can without going that much further, then you know you can't make a mistake. You definatly need to KNOW that you should make a move, instead of making one and regretting it.

You need to tell her how you feel. Her past is in the way, yes. But ypu have got to tell her that the longer she dwells in the past - the less she is going to be able to do in her life. Past is past, the future is what you have got to look to. If you really like her but can respect that her past is complicated; stay friends. But feelings often get in the way.

-Jenna.