Problem... I think?

Okay, I'm posting this because I can't talk to my friend about this right now. And I need opinions.

Okay, so there's this guy who I've talked to a couple times before. It wasn't for long, but on the phone once or twice when my friend (whose also his friend) came over and on aim a couple times. Well today my friend dragged me out into the hall between classes and pointed him out to me, and pointed me out to him. We didn't have time to talk face to face though. And my friend is convinced we'd make the 'perfect couple' and I started to get excited about this (usually she's right about stuff like that). But the thing is he likes to drink and party a lot, but that's not me. I've never had a drink or done any kind of drugs. And that stuff does bother me a little bit, well being around it anyway. So I'm not sure if I should even consider him more then a friend because of that, or just ignore it and not try and change him.

Yes I'm sure this sounds pretty stupid especially since we aren't even dating yet, or we might not even date. But I just don't know if I want to get too attached or start liking him too much more then a friend.

If you have a problem with it, then don't go for it. It's better than going for it and trying to change him... Sooner or later, he'll learn what he's doing is only damaging.. But he probably won't stop anytime soon, because it's "fun" and if he's that way, it means his friends are too... And he's not going to want to change friends or be the only one in his cliqué that's not doing that stuff..

~BJ~

^ I agree. If you are uncomfortable with his habits, you shouldn't get involved with him. A lot of people are stubborn when it comes to breaking those types of habits. If you really like him a lot, and you're willling to accept the fact that he drinks, i think you should try and work through it. Just don't stoop to that level yourself. Sometimes, if you are involved with someone and you explain to them that what they're doing bothers you, and that you're worried, they might consider cutting back, or stoping completely. It all depends on the person. Some are more lenient then others.

It's not stupid at all. If you're not comfortable with something, then don't have anything to do with him. Who knows what he may try to get you to do.. don't compromise yourself or your standards.