I want to help

Hello everyone. I posted this to no one in particular. I just wanted to let everyone who needs someone to listen to their problems, or someone to suggest solutions know that I am here. I am no different that anyone else I'm just willing to be a friend. I'd love nothing more than to hear your problems and suggest solutions. I promise to respond as quick as possible. I'd love to hear from you.

- BJ
You can also reach me at browneyedRN4

just wanna say welcome to the site!

Hey Victoria :) Thanks so much for the warm welcome. I appreciate it very much.

-BJ

Hi BJ, allow me to be the second to welcome you to this site :) enjoy your stay, Im sure you'll love this place :D:D:D:D

Wow. You guys are really awesome :) I didn't expect any welcoming but I appreciate it all the same. It's nice to know theres a lot of really nice people out there. I had almost lost hope. I'm glad to be in this community. Hello to you Allen and Baby J I'd love to hear your story. I will email you asap.

-BJ

Thanks again everyone for the welcome. I appreciate your kind words friends. I just enjoy helping people with their problems. What can I say I'm nosy! LoL. Just kidding. I think helping others does me good because I can learn while helping. And most of the time all someone needs is to let it all out and by then they realise they had the answer all along they just needed to hear themselves say it and accept it. I hope I'm some help around here and thanks again.

-BJ

k, i got a question for you. this guy asked me out, i said no. he's in every one of my morning classes before lunch and in my art class every other day, and in my after school club. he used to do these things for me like give me my GEPA book in math class, or hold the door for me before he asked me out. after i said no he's still doing it! it's getting annoying...

i mean he's a friend and i feel bad for him but what about me? i can do things on my own and i hate it when people try to help me (except when i ask them). i actually think he's invading my privacy sometimes. his friend who's also in my classes (let's call him D) started teasing me saying "get a room" or "go with your boyfriend" or something like that when we're in class. he's not my boyfriend!!! D used to be nice to me and it's irritating now that their kinda double-teaming me so i could finally go out with him... it's soooo annoying. we sit close to each other every class except for english where i actually sit next to him. i don't know how to act towards him. any advice?

Well...hopefully I'm understanding your post right. It sounds like hes being nice to you, which is good isn't it? I mean at least he isn't hitting you or calling you foul names. But you say it feels like D and your friend are double-teaming you and you need your space. So just tell you friend you don't like it when he does these things. Just talk to him. Just act normal around him and if you get annoyed let him know. But try to be polite about it as well. He may keep doing it because he doesn't know how much it really does bother you. You can also talk to D and let him know its not so funny when he says little comments. And if all fails just ignore it..sometimes we have to deal with these things. Hope that helped.
Let me know how it goes!
-BJ

yes, that is the case and yes, that's what i've been planning to do. glad that someone else agrees with me:)

k, last thursday, D says that he really didn't mean all that and he didn't say he hated me and stuff. so i was feeling happy and relieved that morning. but then 4th period math class came up and that guy who likes me (let's call him M) decided to sit next to me because the girl who usually sits there was absent. we do these pentomino problems in class and the sub asked me what was wrong and i said that i was trying to figure it out and i said it was really hard. M heard it and he came over (he already figured out the pentominos because he went online and cheated!). he started helping me with the puzzle and stuff and i was getting really annoyed but i can't do anything about it because the sub was standing right next to us. so i kinda shouted/said that i give up. that worked... sorta. M hid one of the puzzle pieces and he thought i didn't see but i did so i asked him to hand it over. but he was just trying to touch me/hold my hand so i stood up and just asked him to put the piece on the table... so that's that.

and then yesterday was picture day. in my school, we're supposed to wait in the gym before we get to go to our lockers and classrooms. so on my way to my locker D catches up to me and says his daily hi's and hello's. i'm perfectly fine with that. but then, i turn around and see M right behind me. i hate it when people sneak around! turns out he's been following me. math class was turning out great but then when we started answering the questions in our GEPA book, he answers some of the questions. (p.s. he's really really smart too!) but then, when we were writing it on the board his answers didn't match mine (p.s. i'm a good student too!) so i tell our sub that M's answers were wrong and i started explaining the whole equation and how he got the wrong answer. this happened more than 4 times that day. his and other of my classmates's answers were wrong and i kept on asking questions and everytime i do that, he doesn't admit that he's wrong. he just kinda says "yeah, that's right" or "that's the right answer". so when the sub didn't know the right anwers, she just asks us who got this answer by raise of hands. and everytime i raise my hand, he does it too. i have no problems with that... i take that back! when D raises his hand because i do, i was fine with that. but when M does it, he turns around and smiles at me and raises his hand too! i get annoyed by that. is it just me.. or does that seem creepy and annoying and... ugh!

haha..Seems like M's totally in to you. This is probably just his way of flirting. He likes to see you get frustrated because its the only way he can get your attention. This is just a technique of flirting. I can't help you much on this one..sorry! I think your just going to have to deal with it for awhile. It may last a long time but it may be just a phase hes going through. It might be annoying but think.. hes really in to you ..you should be flattered! You've made it clear that you don't like him so at least your not leading him on. He'll eventually get tired of putting soo much effort into nothing and should give up. If not...well I'd suggest a swicth in schools! lol

-BJ

Keep me updated!

omg, omg, omg! you are awesome!!! i can't stop laughing!!! rofl. hahaha... *breathe in, breathe out* okay, here's why. first day of school was really awkward, but then after that he started saying hi to me everyday. and not just your ordinary shy hi's when you see someone in the hallway- it's loud and he says it like i'm deaf
or something. i asked why he does that and he goes, "cuz i like to annoy you." and i was like, "nope, never gonna happen because that's
a very hard thing to do." i told him to stop. and that's true since i'm patient with my friends. i mean, that WAS true, you know what i mean. wow, i forgot about that. thanks a lot!!!

anyways, this afternoon he stopped by my locker and asked me how was my day. i said it's okay. those acts of kindness are okay with me, actually. and he stopped holding the door for me which is the best thing i could ever ask for! then, the dreaded math class (see a pattern here?) Mr. E. gave us our tests back and everyone's all tensed. i got an 88 which is a good grade but it's really a bad grade... and he turns around and asks me what i got and i tell him. and his jaw drops for a sec but then he goes, "oh, that's ok. that's what i got too." so, that's about it. wait! science class, we had to make paper airplanes for homework and we
went outside and tested them because of the velocity and acceleration stuff. he kept his distance which was good, but D was really close to me. weird huh? don't have a clue why... anyways M keeps on showing off with his plane also. so that's that. thanks again!

ok, I have a question...
Last year, I thought that i had the HUGEST crush on this one guy. He was smart, funny, mature, basicly everything a girl could ask for... Then the end of the school year came and i still hadn't asked him out.
Over the summer, we talked like, every day for three hours on the net. Until July when my computer broke down. I didn't have his phone#, so i couldn't talk to him at all.
This year, the first day of school, i was totaly anxious to see him. He made a comment about my hair that I changed over the summer, and i thought "wow, this is gonna be a great year with him"
Then, ever since then, he's been totaly blowing me off, and being so rude to me! I didn't do anything to make him act like this!
What do i do? Do i confront him? or give him a taste of his own medicine? HELP!!!!

i can think of something but i'll let our own professional, brown eyes handle this;)

Hey. I'm sorry I've been a little busy and I'm having my wisdom teeth taken out tomorrow so I will be out for the weekend. But I'm here now!

So I see your having some boy troubles. Guys are just as confusing to us girls as we are to guys. I myself have never been in the situation you are in, but I have observed it. There could be lots of reasons hes been the way he has. Its driving you crazy isn't it?! I think you know what you need to do. Confront him! He owes it to you. Just ask him whats been up lately. Why he hasn't been so talkative with you recently. He has to answer you if you approach him face to face. And it gives you a straight-forward answer. No beating around the bush.

-BJ

Victoria, your deffinately free to answer. It's much better to have others opinions. Because you may have a different view that I never realized. So I encourage you to advise as well : )

-BJ

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update yesterday: oct. 14

history class i was sitting next to D and we were studying together for the test we're supposed to take in 5 min. (did i tell u that M moved next to me diagonally in history class? *rolls eyes*) so we talk about andrew jackson and martin van buren and D sees this doodle/art work i have been doing for the past 2 days. he said it looks cool and asks me if i could do this links of heart or something. i said no, and since we were speaking about heart and stuff, he kinda motions for me to look at M. he was slumped over his seat looking at the opposite direction from us. D writes a note- "do you like M?" i replied with "why do you wanna know?" hoping that he'd leave that subject alone. he goes "because he likes you." i wrote- "ya think i don't know that?" why do boys do that anyways? well, he writes "i won't tell him" but i just said no comment. and he kept on asking me so i wrote "do you?" as in does he like M. we were trying to suppress our laughter but we almost got a detention... so he left me alone on that.

and then after the test we talked about art and how i was in advanced art and he's in art 2. i tell him to ask our art teacher (we have the same teacher) if he could get transfered in my class because he's a really good artist. to get to advanced art you gotta be handpicked by the teacher and you have to choose the subject. D wasn't in my school last year so our art teacher really doesn't know his potentials... yet. he asks me who was in my art class and i said M is. so he asks M if he was a good artist and M goes "why do you want to know?" he said it in an annoyed voice. before lunch, i waited at D's locker to ask him to talk to M but he advices me that I should talk to him because M was being an a#$. which he is...