Boyfriends Parents

Okay, I have had more enough. My boyfriends parents are driving me crazy. I've been dating my boyfriend for about 4 years now, and I use to get along with his parents great. I always felt they were awesome, but now I can't stand them. They have 4 children, including my boyfriend, and are so unfair. They have 3 sons, and 1 daughter, and they treat the daughter like a queen. Literally. While my boyfriend was in school, he was not aloud to go anywhere. He is also only likes having a few number of close friends. His sister has millions of friends and is aloud to go anywhere, any time. They make him drive her all over the place to make her happy. The family wanted to move to B.C, but decided not to because of their daughters friends. It is so ridiculous, the boys get no attention and no affection. It hurts me seeing that. So lately I've been saying things, telling my boyfriend to start saying what he feels, and stop doing everything they say. (He is now 19 ¾.) So, he has, and they always threaten to kick him out. Like today they said he didn't want to take the kids trick-or-treating, and they said, “fine, pack your things up and go.” They give him NO option and No voice. Their daughter get everything and anything. He wants to move out, but his car just completely died and he lives in the country. He can't leave because he has no money. Any suggestions? His entire family feels that I am a horrible person because I say my opinion, and take no crap. I cut my hair really short and don't dress like a slut. They hate me for that and have admitted it. They are impossible. They never listen! They actually grab the phone from my boyfriend, say something to me that is completely rude and hang up. They never let us say anything. It just isn't right...

Awe hunnie, I am so sorry. You have tried all there is that you can really do. The parents will have to come to reasoning eventually - if ever. I am sorry that I can't help you more; I really wish that I could.=[

-Jenna.

Woah, that is wrong. I don't know what else you could do. Does he have a job? If not, he should consider getting one. He need to try and put money aside to possibly get his own place. His parents are obviously very codl, and could careless about what he has to say. I can't stand people like that either. I respect that you cut your hair short, and don't dress like a slut. I'm the same way. If his parents can't accept you for who you are, just forget them. They shouldn't care about the way you dress..wow..those type of people annoy me. My only advice is to start saving up as much money as possible. I hope things work out for you and your b/f. Good luck.

Why doesn't your boyfriend get a job. I mean he's almost 20 right.. And ya know if he cant deal with it why doesnt he move in with you or a couple friends.

I feel really bad for your boyfriend,I have grown kids but I would never treat them like that,maybe they want him out! Its hard to make it out there in the world,does he have a relative or close friend he could live with until he can make it on his own?
a job is the first step,until then he could try an honest heart to heart talk with them.....

He does have a job, and makes good money. The thing about it is that his parents make him give them a lot for rent. What pisses me off with that, is that all his rent money appears to go and buying his sister a bunch of new things. (Once to all new skiing equipment) So, he loses a lot. He then pays for his car and phone. He also drives down to see me. (3 hour drive, 6 in total in one day) We've cut downing seeing each other because of the whole money thing. And his parents have decided to UP the rent some more. OMG. When ever he saves money his parents really influence him to spend it. (EX, to buy a computer, X box, etc) I always tell him not to, he'll regret it. His parents influence him and then later he regrets it, just like i said. I get the impression that they don't want him out, because he is their slave. They want him there to drive the kids, babysit, etc. But then it appears they want him out because they are trying to get him to move to B.C. I think they do then don't. I have no idea. We have been planning to live together for a while. I have 5 boxs of things to move out with. All we need is a couch and pots and pans. And money. But one day...

You're not getting my point! I am not asking them to take advice from me. I just really wish they would be fair with there children. They have four children...but they are only parents to one! To one! And that is the girl. She comes first before all. She wants to go somewhere, everyone is to hold there plans to met what she wants. Because of there entense favorism it is seriously effecting my relationship with my boyfriend. If we've made plans for a month, and that day she wants to go to a party, our plans get canceled so she can get driven. REALLY! It happens all the time. When ever he stands up, they get worse. It is hell. All I wish is that they'd be fair. They have 3 sons who are suffering. My boyfriend and his social life. The middle brother who gets completely ignored and the youngest who learned if he swears and hits he gets attention. It just isn't right. They are going to lose all 3 sons relationships. It isn't right.

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