How young do you think is too young?

I'm 18 and have a fiance. We got engaged almost 2 months ago. (When we were both 17). Most people tell me I'm too young to be engaged, but I disagree. Just wondering when you think the appropriate age to get engaged is...(like not before what age)?

Trust me...I kno what I have to do. It may not sound like I am mature...but...I feel I am...and I know better than to ever do anything stupid like this again.

Yeah I would be upset and lose trust in him, but I'd stay with him and try to make it work...because altghough it may not sound like I love him...I really do. (with all my heart)

I know I showul...but I don't want to lose him...If I could change things, I never would have do
ne it.

I know I do.

Right now I really hate character...because I have to do what I have to do...no matter how hard.

Yeah...I guess you're right.

You slept with a 13 year old? And you're not in jail why?

It was only once and it was the other day. Also only 3 ppl kno about it...The guy me and his older sis...and she promised not to say anything.

Actually,lots of people know now. And it wouldn't be that hard to track you down. If I slept with a 13 year old,I'd be in jail.

If you're wise you'll stay away from him.

Yes I will!!!

And you're naive to think you're ready to get married.

This was just one big stupid mess up that will never happen again...I can assure you that.

Don't assure me. I don't care,you didn't hurt me. But to sit there and think you're ready for marriage when you slept with a THIRTEEN year old,that's just crazy.

I feel for you fiance,not you.What you did was not only wrong,but flat out lame.

I totally agree...noW I'm leavin to go talk to my fiance. Wish me lick...because I AM A STUPID IDIOT.

Good luck,if you're telling the truth. But honestly,I hope he dumps your lame ass.

Whatever! Pce.

It will be a miracle if you can make this work now, are you sure you're mature enough to be married? I'm not trying to judge, but it's probably something you should reconsider.

I mean you slept with a 13 year old, that is wrong on so many levels. It disgusts me, it really does.

If your fiancee had any sense he would not stay with you after this. Seriously, I don't even have words to describe how wrong that is.

Okay i don't agree with what you did but i have to admit that nowadays you get some thirteen/fourteen year olds that have matured and have already slept with people, even if it is people their own age, they are still sexually active.
Hell, most of my year back when i was in year 8 had lost their virginity! I was like the odd one out.
So although i don't agree with what you did, the boy is too blame as well cos from what you've said, he knew exactly what he was doing. Most boys do nowadays. They are a bunch of oversexed mongs!
I also have a hunch that you are truely and really sorry for what you've done and i can tell that you really care for you fiance. And although you did wrong, i hope you can work things out.
As for the too young thing? I'm 18 at the end of this month and i've been living with my fiance for the past year and since the wedding is planned for 2008 with all our friends and family behind us, i think age doesn't matter that much when it comes down to true love.
Good luck hun. xx

I talked to my fiance yesterday. I told him what happened, then he called my friend and told her that he knew (even though I never told him she knew he knew she did) and he bitched her out and then told her that he would no longer be friends with her, and then he went over there and beat up her little brother and told him that he never wanted to see him near me again. He was really mad. Then he called me and told mewhat he did and then he said that he'd stay with me as long as this never happened again and if it did he would leave me and do other stupid stuff to me that I wouldn't like. Then he hung up on me, and I havn't heard from him since even though I did call him back. I think he is just mad and needs time to cool down so we can talk about this rationally.

^ I totally agree with that one.

so not only has this 13 year old lad been taken advantage of by a female adult, he has also been beaten up by a male adult?.. The only person I feel sorry for here is the boy

First of all he was not taken advantage of as much as you think it was mutual concent...as wrong as I know that is...and wellhe kind of asked to be beat up...even though I do feel sorry for him. My fiance came over to his house and he was like "I know what you did with my girl" and he was like "what are you going to do beat me up...go ahead big shot" So he did...But it was still wrong never the less and I am trying to get a hold of my fiance to tell him that I thought it was wrong that he beat him up.

^^ Agreed. To donna...

You have got yourself into an even bigger mess. You need to calm down your "fiance" and you need to apologize to that BOY. Don't apologize by having sex with him either..

-Jenna.

I know better than to appologise that way. I will like call him and be like "I'm sorry my fiance beat you up, but I had to tell him because I know what we did was wrong. He's really mad right now so I'd suggest just staying away from him for a while and then try to talk to him and appologise yourself."

I'm not going to get into an argument here.. mutual consent is made between 2 consenting adults when it comes to sex.. full stop.. he is nowhere near an adult yet.. 2ndly he is 13 years old and your fiance is out of order by going round and taking his anger out on a kid.. You and your fiance could both get locked up for your actions.. The boy is still a minor and doesn't deserve any of this.
My lad is 13 tomorrow and I would have you both arrested if it was him.. Hense why I get so het up over this.

Don't suggest he go anywhere NEAR your fiance. That is just going to cause a bigger mess. And he didn't ask for it...just because he says go ahead - does that give hi the right? No, it doesn't. What if some thirteen year old girl was saying that to you if your fiance cheated on you..would you hit her?

-Jenna.

I totally understand ^

you have a really messed up life.

tell that kid you're sorry. actually, i take that back. stay away from him. and your "fiancee", which, by the way, you are NOT READY to get married, no matter what you think. you're not mature at all. actually, you're pretty stupid. no offense, or anything. and i agree that you should be in jail. that's like wrong, to sleep with a 13 year old. s l u t.

There really is no "appropriate" age. I mean if you are really, truly in love then go for it babe, but if you aren't quite you might want to slow things down a little. Like my friend was engaged when she was 15 and they broke up because it wasn't true love and she is 17 and has a great boyfriend and I think that they are gonna go far, but its all in how you feel.

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"There really is no "appropriate" age. I mean if you are really, truly in love then go for it babe, but if you aren't quite you might want to slow things down a little. Like my friend was engaged when she was 15 and they broke up because it wasn't true love and she is 17 and has a great boyfriend and I think that they are gonna go far, but its all in how you feel. "

Agreed

And like i said before, although i don't agree with it, there are some disgusting thirteen year olds about that will leer at me and shour vulgar things at me even when i'm with my fiance and then will try provoke him into doing something about.
Christina? Forget the thirteen year old. He's as much to blame if he's anything like most thirteen/fourteen years olds in this messed up world. Most are oversexed and basically little thugs. What you did was wrong but it's just as if you slept with anyone else.
If you and your fiance love each other, it'll work.
gemma217@msn.com if you wanna talk.
Good luck x

not it no too young but it dnt matter wot ppl fink but gtta mke sure its da right tym x

^huh? what'd she say? all i read was sjddj weqoi fjsad lkiof jas. You're on a literary site, learn atleast SOME proper english. so i and others can actually read what you say. sheesh

There is no appropiate age for love, marriage or anything of the sort. It depends on your maturity, and also his. If you believe you can handle it, no one should tell you otherwise.

hmm...for me the appropriate age is 25. cuz if u married someone and ur barely 18, it's sometimes going to take ur mind off of skool if ur not done yet...so mine is 25.

By reading most of the posts in this I definetely do not think you are ready to get married. How could you cheat on your fiance with a thirteen year old boy. That is sick. And if thats not bad enough, your boyfriend then goes round and beats him up. I agree with Jenna and Donna on this. The only person you should be thinking about at the moment is that poor boy.

i dont think that thee should be a certain age, if you find the one you truley love early on in life, why not get married? and have fun? and enjoy eachothers company. There is no law on how old you have to be to fall in lve, there by meaning that there shouldnt reallyybe an age limit to get enganged and married. like most people tell me i am too young to be in love.. but ive beenwith my bf for a year now, and i ove him so much, ive never been happier,and im only 15. haha...
kirsty xx

P.S... hope you and your partner are very happy together. and good luck with your wedding :) xxx

You are in no way ready to be married. If you loved your fiance, you would not have cheated on him NO QUESTIONS ASKED. If you were mature, you would not have slept with a 13 year old. Knowing something is wrong and doing it anyway is just as bad if not worse than doing something you don't understand is wrong. You obviously realize that having sex with a kid (which is illegal...), and cheating on your fiance, is flat out wrong..but it happened anyway. The fact that your fiance beat up a 13 year old for having sex with his girlfriend is wrong as well. He should dump your sorry ass, scold the older sister for not looking out for her brother, and have a talk with the kid. Instead he beat up the kid for doing essentially nothing wrong, you are the one who cheated, not him. Anyway, all these posts prove that both you and your fiance are immature and impulsive. You both have some growing up to do before you commit to marriage. Good luck.