So I'm Dating This Guy.... And... Well..... HELP

Alright. I Have Another Problem

I Am Dating This Guy

Before We Started Dating, I Saw Him Like twice But Never Talked To Him

And We Started Talking On Myspace

For About A Month

And He Was So Sweet. We Started Hanging Out.

like 5 times he came over

and then asked me out

i thought it was a really good idea

but i'm one of those girls who is all for having a good time.

ocassionally, i like making an asss out of myself. i like doing stupid stuff with my friends.

im not a whore, but im not a virgin

and this guy...

well hes TOTALLY straight edge

he doesnt drink, smoke, NOTHING

his idea of fun is sitting on the computer talking to a bunch of poeple

when me and him talked on the computer, he always had something to say

but in person its a completely diff. story

and another thing, hes VERY emotional

he doesnt like to have fun.... well.... he doesnt like to have my kind of fun

hes pretty much my complete opposite

i told him to loosen up... and to have fun

and he told me that im wanting him to be someone hes not.

i asked him why he talks more to me on the comp. then he does in person and he told me....

WHAT?! do u want me to sit here and tell you how beautiful you are and talk about our plans for the weekend?

i said DUHH. i want to HEAR that im beautiful. i want to TALK about plans. i want to have a convo. where we TALK.

im sorry if this doesnt make any sense, i just dont know what to do.

i really liked the person i thought he was

he is such a sweetheart. but hes boring

idk... im confused....

anyone got some words of advice??

There isn't really much you can do. You can't change him, and you don't seem like the kind of person who only likes to talk online.

If there's no spark when you're with him, maybe it's not worth it. Just a thought.

its not that i dont like talking online. i LOVE talking online... its just... hes my boyfriend..... not an online boyfriend....and boyfriends are supposed to bring you up. not drag you down. hes constantly looking away and doesnt talk and always looks sad... i know i cant change him but i mean... come on now

I know exactly where you are coming from. You like the idea of him, but when you're around him it's like you can't stand him, and to be yourself around him is hard because he's so serious. But you can't change him. It's good to be serious sometimes but he obviously doesn't know what you want. Don't try to change him but don't change yourself for him either. If you're feeling too dragged down because of him, then maybe you guys are better off as friends.
It's not worth it. Life is too short.

Take Care =)
Sarah-Joy

Awww, Thanks Hun. But Me And Him Got Into An Arguement.... Well Sort Of. I Kinda Ripped His Heart Out Of His Chest And Stomped It Into The Ground. =( I Dont Know What To Do

He Said Hes Willing To Try........ HELP

You can't change who he is. If you don't have feelings for him, then you can't lead him on. Never try to change a guy. He is who he is.

If there's no spark or chemistry when your together in person, it's going to be hard to make it work, not impossible, but very hard.
Take it slow and get to know each other a lot better in person.
It could be that he's shy and when he's talking over the internet, he's got a screen to hide behind, kind of like a security blanket.
I don;t know if i'm making sense.
Good luck though hun. xx

being straight edge doesn't make him boring! he may just not be your type of person, no matter what he seems like online. if you really love him, then maybe you should try. but he's not going to change. and you probably won't either. in my opinion, it's better to just drop it.

bump

The Problem Isnt That Hes Straight Edge.

That Really doesnt bother me...

hes just BORING!

and never wants to do anything!

if you feel this way ^^ maybe you should just go your seperate ways, i know it may be hardas you like him and he likes you, but if you both cant see how the other opperates, and enjoy eachothers company it isnt going to work. im not saying opposits should never be together, coz thats not true, but in this case, i just think that if you find him 'boring' and he cant talk to you face to face, then i think that you would be better off with another guy (sorry if i seem to ...'straight up'.. take care.. best of wishes.. whtwever your choice...
kirsty xx

Well, find someone who's your type and likes to do what you like to do! He's obviously not the right guy for you, and if your feeling this way he's probably feeling the same.

there's really nothing you can do about changing him.. i mean you can show him a good time on your terms.. (which i totally understand bc i LOVE making an ass out of myself lol ) but in the end if he's just not fun to be around maybe he's just better off as a friend

Hey Sweetheart.

Okay Well, You Can't Change Him, I'm With Everyone On That.

But, I Understand Where You Are Coming From, You Like The Guy From Online. Thats The One You've Fallen For, And It's Confusing Since That's Not The Way He Acts In Person.

Instead Of Trying To Change Each Other, Maybe You Both Should Compromise, You Could Come Down A Bit, And He Could Come Up A Little, And You May Then Be More In Sync.

If Not, There Is No Use In Hanging Around.

Good Luck Love.