stay the same or let it go?

ok well, i have a friend who has been kind of running off track lately..WAY too boy crazy (as in she cant make up her mind...between 5 guys) and thinks that every descision she makes will mean the rest of her life, so she is really indecisive. as well, we're supposed to be 'best friends', and i am always there to help her and give her advice, but whenever i need her help, she is always busy or changes the subject. so my question is, should i just get through it and hope it works out for the best or slowly detach myself from her?

Well, first I think you should talk to her about it. Tell her that you always try and help and give advice, yet whenever you need it she changes the subject. Let her know what is wrong before you just go and ruin a friendship. =]

anyone else have any opinions??

Emily,

I`m going through the same friend stuff that you are. I`m asking the same questions~

im not sure, but i think ive found some of the solution.... ive just kind of not told her as much as i normally do and we've kind of just hung out in a group of our friends together...... ive been noticing that she's not around me as much as normal, but she still tells me what she needs to or wants to!

but still, opinions are appreciated!

Emmm

its a one sided relationship, and it doesnt work...
staying the same is definitely not a lasting solution, let alone a painless one.

let go, not too much, but upto a certain level...dont be TOO close..you know, be somewhere in that good-friend zone...that shud help without hurting :)

I have the same situation as you do. :) I decided a couple of weeks ago that it's been enough.. I'm going to let the friendship go to a way lower level, but softly.. not too much at once..

x

its your choice no one elses. i gain and lose friends all of the time. i let some go and others let me go. it just happens. but when you have problems you should learn to just depend on yourself because one day you might not have anyone that you can trust. no one knows you more than you. so if you think things will be better without this friend then let her go, but ask yourself if things would really be better without this friend.

not to be nasty about her in anyway at all but if she was your best friend then dont you think that maybe she should be returning the listening ear and advising??
just a thing to think about, because i have had best friends like this who are not interested in there best friends life just their own.
so i can kinda relate to this in a way, but i learnt from it and now my best friend is so fantastic hes the best best mate i could of asked for!
basically the question is what do you want your best friend to be open about and how would you like to be treated etc?
i may have gone a tadd off subject but im just thinkin because i have 1 best friend who i dont doubt but i have "close" friends who i do doubt help?

~*~jen~*~

hey thats pretty tricky erm if it was me i would sit down one and one with her and tell her whats going on, what i mean is how obsesive she is being over lads, how she is more bothered about that then your problems then YOU basically!!!
im sorry if thats harsh its just thats what i would do i would tell her were slipping away and it feels like boys are more important then our friendship. she may not have noticed how upset you are about the whole thing! and im sure when and if you do tell her she will change and be truelly sorry. hope i've helped ps i don't think you should break up your bestfriend relationship takecare mel xxx