my best friend wants my man

i introduced the 2 wantin him to meet my friends and now shes wanting more.......what do i do??she flirts like crazy huggin and kissin him on the cheek in front of me....i dont want to seem clingy or jealous/possesive.....or he might think im no good 4 him....im scared i dont kno how to talk about it

i cant afford her to wanna get in a fist fight i kno shell try and im on probation...im tired of tollerating everyones crap....you have a point she could suceed...it would devastate me....i have so many problems....yea i could talk to him but what if he starts sayin im overreacting what do i say?what if he thinks im another jealous grl he dont wanna be with?im soo scared....thank you you talk like you have had to deal with this b4 i appreciate ya takin ur time to help a complete stranger its really thoughtful....this website makes me feel like people care if i exhist and care about my feeelings.....thanx again

Funny.

My ex best friend has my ex boyfriend.

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thank you guyz for all your encouragement....i just dont kno why this has to happen now i guess when you come from a broken home with drugged up parents and never knowin if ur gonna get the crap beat out ya or when youll get a bite to eat ur whole freakin life just is miserable......

id kick her in the face, but thats just me.

She doesn't seem like a real friend. real friends wouldn't do that to you. So I say you confront HER about it and tell her to back off or your friendship is over.

lol kick her in the face huh? lol funny funny problem is im on probation....no shes not.....good way of gettin to the point

I didn't even read your post...the title said enough. Your "best friend" wants your man, eh? Question her friendship if she acts out on her feelings. It's one thing to admire someone from a distance as you can not help you are attracted to. But to act out on your feelings when a friend could potentially get hurt is not something a "friend" would NOT do.

Oooohh!! I read it...Kissing and hugging? beat her down!! LMFAO No, don't beat her down. Explain to both of them how you're feeling. If things don't change THEN beat her down!! HAHAHAHA

I think the one you should talk to is him,tell him that you are not comfortable with the way she is all over him, he can act in a way to let her know to back off,and then keep in mind if she was really your friend she would care about your feelings,keep him dump her!

yea this sucks...hes mine not hers we love each other and ill roll over in my grave before i let anyone else try to break us apart we have been through too much together....true true i agree fully she should not act out on her feelings!!!thats my place with him....i also agree you cant help who ur attracted too...but i would not break someone up and if it was a friend i would not ever date her ex its shady and far from cool!!!yea kissing and hugging....lol ide like to but i have a 90 day sentence hangin over my head im on probation...and if i get locked up for beating her up i cant stop her or try....lol i was diagnosed with bi polar disorder and its a major problem i have so alot of my other friends are suprised i ve kept my cool this long....i refuse to take it much longer my man comes before one of my friends that i havent known as long as i have been wit him so yea...thanx for the advice!!lol even if it is a lil violent i think we are a lil alike in that category...

get on the depressed board and my other place is im so scared and depressed and youll get the rest of the story........ive tried......

you must choose your real friends wisely...you must test them. Just tos ee how loyal of a friend they are, and if there being truly honest with you. But to me, her...that girl all ova ya manz like that...ain't cuttin' it!! I hadda problem like that about a year in a half ago!!!! DONT TRUST HER, you just can't trust no females...talk to ya bf

shes gonna take your man. you cant let this happen because you will loose your friend AND your boyfriend. confront her that what shes doing is wrong, she may not even really reaalize that shes hutring you. if she tells you off, you have to break the friendship.

if she's doin that in you face, SHE"S NOT YOUR BEST FRIEND!!! not tryna b rude but she's not, and second tell her that she neds to start actin like you friend on not b like that cuz she gonna hurt you MORE....cuz you cant trust her around him....he's your man.....and if you dont set a line btween him and her...he's gonna leave you...cuz she makin moves and your just watchin...so do somethin

i kno im having a lil trouble with that right now cuz im supposedly being paranoid i dont want to lose him and i just want a friend i can rely on why dont people be friends back??i dont understand...she was pressuring me into doin drugs now and i dont have a pretty past wit that and i said f_no!!!and i was so mad ur right that female isnt my friend but how am i supposed to nicely break it off???

mmm mmm, if some girl did that with my boyfriend...oooohhhhh and if my boyfriend didn't push her away from him...They'd both be fried chicken for dinner tonigiht. First of all, if you can't tlak to your boyfriend about it because you're afraid he'll think you're jealous and not make you feel better...that is his FAULT, not yours. What an ass that would make him. You should be able to talk to your boyfriend about anything if you love eachother...fears, concerns, jealousy...whatever. If he's not pushing her away, it's because he likes the attention and he likes hte feeling that he has two girls all over him. I'd be considering the possibility of him breaking up with you for her, as much as that sucks. Talk to your friend too, if she's any kind of friend she will back off whether she admits her attraction to him or not. If she refuses to back off, break off that friendship immediately..your boyfriend should understand if he truly cares about you. I don't know, that's messed up. If this goes on for much longer, yo should give both your fruend and boyfriend the cold shoulder. Play hard to get, hopefully that will get his attention. If not, then break if off with both of them. YOu deserve better

lol fried chicken.....i want to cut her up....hes not an ass but he tries to tell me i have nuthin to worry about hes already told me im paranoid....i have a good reason to be i think..yea we do talk about alot of stuff that bothers us but i just dont wanna overdue it and get him upset and think im controlling....the first time she did it they were drunk he said he dont remember the 2nd time i talked to him about it not to long and he keeps tellin me i told u ur friends would think im hott which is true cuz he is hott and i feel horrible...i just dont kno what else to do.....i can understand him likiung the attention but jeez its like he is afraid to push her away....i kno ecspecially cuz shes 18 already....it does suck majorly.....she already admitted to different people and me she likes him shes always like i love him and hes so sweet he is so hott blah blah blah....makes me wanna puke....i like the idea of playin hard to get how should i do that??i dont think i could ever break up w/him ide lose a dream guy...thanks but i feel like he could do better...i dont think im good enough....

lol aww commin straight from a guy too....no one should expect anybody to that...he has saved me so many times i just dont wanna kick him away whats worse is im movin in with this gurl on february 14 my 18 birthday....im a big baby i dont have the balls to do that to someone....

Hey ik exactly how u feel i too had a similar problem like this my friend amanda well she says shes my best friend stole my b/f's number she didnt even know him she ever saw him before and she started calling him she told me she only called looking for me and i was like u never called we have it set up so that when ur on the computer u can b on the phone 2 and it beeps when someone is calling if ur on the phone plus i have caller id and ik she never called and shes like he called me 2 i was like ur lying he never had ur number and then ever since she did this i havent talked 2 him he wont return my calls or messeges and he answers only when i call from her house so it seems weird 2 me but idk ik how u feel if u wanna talk send me a messege :) bye

ashley, he's moving in with a girl?!?!?! WTF?!? This guy sounds like a total jerk. He's letting his good looks get the best of him. I hate when good looking people will bounce around from one guy/girl to the next just because they can. What a player, I'd dump his ass and when he comes crawling back...wack him in the face with a shovel

oh wait, you're on probation. well nevermind. yeah just play hard to get....flirt with other guys (preferably his guy friends) the way he has been flirting with your friends, try to look extra cute, act like you're not that interested in him anymore, don't always return his calls or pick up when he calls, be busy sometimes when he wants to hang out...etc etc

wear revealing clothes too, but don't do anything slutty. it's one thing to dress like one and be a temptress, it's another to be one. hahaha, i'm so bad. but anyway, just wear revealing/cute/sexy clothes to make him desire you more...and when he comes a calling, say HELLLL NAWWWW
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lol no i must have wrote that wrong im the one moving in with the gurl who is tryin to grab his attention....yea hes hott and he knos it he dont really bounce around hes honest and dont hide things from me that i kno of and i cant break up with him i owe him my life there was a dude threatening to kill me my ex and he got me away from him....or atleast helped and we have been together 5 months i really love him....also yea im on probation i get off of it 4 days before my 18th birthday which is awesome and if i wore like revealing clothing he would flip and i dont hang around his friends we are always around mine and since he is older than me so are they so we dont really hang out...also if i play hard to get like im losin interest he will leave me i think cuz he said he would kick me to the curb if i started actin like any of his ex g/f's

Talk to the girl, tell her to lay off.

If that doesn't work, get him to talk to her, and get him to stay away from her.

And if he won't do that, then there isn't much else you can do.

i talked to him today and his dad is wantin to date this gurls mom well his dad told him to call her and see if he could call well he said no because he knew i would be upset and he didnt wanna do that.....i thought it was sweet things are looking up i guess we all have ups and downs in relationships....well we are happy...

happy things are lookin up. BUT that's a pretty nasty threat for him to say that if you start acting like one of his ex's that he'll kick you to the curb. past relationships shouldn't be associated with his relationship with you. he needs to forget about those other girls and get over it. he's with YOU now, and i don't agree with him comparing you with previous girlfriends. but anyway, i'm glad things are getting better haha. good luck!

yea it was about time too...yea i kno i get scared cuz i dont kno them or how they acted he also said dont lie be faithful and we will do just fine...yea it kinda made me nervous...yea i understand why tho cuz he doesnt wanna get his heart broken....neither do i but i wouldnt leave him unless he cheated on me or w/e but a really good thing bout him is he always says what he means he dont lie to me his best friend freaked out when he heard him say he loved me lol cuz he rarely says that and hardly ever tells a girlfriend that unless he means it so thats what keeps me goin but yea im so happy too if it werent for all of ya i wouldnt have made it thank ya all!!! and thanx 4 the good luck im glad there is people on here understanding like ya

you are NOT overeggarating if your friend hugs and kisses him on the cheek. friends dont do that.they respect. my girlfriend would always make me feel like i overexaggerated in things when i didnt. thats called manipulation. and if you have many problems then he should be there to make everything better not worst. honey, everyone is important so dont make anyone doubt your worth. with your boyfriend talk to him because if you dont things just get worst and then you get to the point where i am. we cant fix it nomore and that hurts. so talk to him

I think that if that's your boyfriend maybe u should have a chat wid ur friend and let her know its not coool . And if she can do that to u knowing u n him are togetha then she not a friend anyways and if she keep doing it then yoour just gona have to talk to ur man and tell him u don't like when she does that. That way he can try n stop her b4 she hug him or sumthin doge her kisses .. Idk

thanks lizeth i was gettin to the point i felt like it was my fault and i was in the wrong by feeling the way i did oh and now his dad and her mom might be hookin up soon im a lil freaked out bout it...i just thought it was weird....i guess as he said i shouldnt be so paranoid.....

i did now he knows how i feel but i think he feels like im bein a little out of control bout the whole thing and i felt really awkward thru our whole conversation hes the type that says whats on his mind an so on but he keeps tellin me i have nuthin to worry bout although things are gettin better but i still feel the tension, thanx chay!